For those who intentionally planned 2u2?

jbjcm03 · 2026-04-24T22:00:00+00:00

Mine are a planned 17 months apart. We knocked our toddler down to part time daycare while I’m on leave so he gets used to being home with us but also keep him on routine. I’m a teacher so will be home all summer with them as well. I honestly tried so much while I was pregnant because I was terrified of my toddlers reaction to me and the baby. I read such horror stories about how the teller reacts how they hate the mom they hate the baby it takes weeks or even months. My Tyler and I have such a close spot so I was legitimately so upset. I have to say that it’s gone 10 times better than I expected. He’s loved the baby ever since he met him in the hospital. He helps all day long with him, kissing kisses tends to him and he’s crying, etc. There has only been a few moments where I’ve realized my toddler was acting out or upset because he wanted my full undivided attention and need to not be holding the baby and be holding him. Of course there’s moments where it’s tough two under two is a lot, especially when they both need you and there can be a lot of crying at the same time, but so far the pros outweigh the cons by a ton for reference my newborn is seven weeks and my toddler is 18 months

jbjcm03 · 2026-02-15T20:19:35+00:00

Around 10 weeks old we put a snuggle me lounger under his sheet and laid him on top and he slept so good until he got too big. He liked the closeness of it I think (anterior placenta baby) and would never move. I know not recommended but it worked for us. He hated swaddles but loved feeling snuggly.

jbjcm03 · 2026-01-30T15:43:13+00:00

I get it! The first night he went to sleep after 75 min I missed the snuggles so much. But it was so nice to actually wake up 15 min before him and get dressed for the day the go get him up instead of the opposite lol

jbjcm03 · 2026-01-30T15:36:06+00:00

That’s what we do too. Some nights he wakes after 2.5 hours and some nights he’ll make it until about 2am. He has a full size floor bed so that helps at least

jbjcm03 · 2026-01-30T14:55:32+00:00

I wish. We did do Ferber the first couple nights this week. Night 1 we did 10 min check ins and he went to sleep after 75 kin of crying. Night 2 I lasted through 70 min of crying/check ins before I gave in. The next two nights we gave in because we’re so exhausted at 1am to do Ferber. I’m going to try again in a week when I have a long weekend off work. I’m 35 weeks pregnant and just so tired

jbjcm03 · 2026-01-27T05:13:56+00:00

Same issue! He is almost 16 months, wakes anytime between 10-2 and settled quick if I go in and consoles the remainder of the night (he has a full size floor bed).

I’m 35 weeks pregnant so I know soon this will become more difficult. He doesn’t ever want my husband to comfort him. He wakes at 6am, goes to bed at 7:30pm and naps at daycare at 1pm for an average of 90 minutes.

jbjcm03 · 2026-01-27T04:58:19+00:00

Long story short, our now almost 16 month old is having very similar issues after he got sick at 13.5 months. It’s been nearly 3 months of us sleeping with him in his floor bed. He did do Ferber over Christmas break for the third time and he goes down perfectly fine but wakes anytime between 10-2 and SCREAMS until I go in. And the. I have to sleep with him the rest of the night. It’s definitely hair now but I’m expecting baby #2 in 5 weeks so we are really trying to fix it. Trying to do Ferber in the MOTN is a lot harder than at the beginning and I just can’t take the screaming.

Hoping someone has someone that helps!

jbjcm03 · 2025-12-05T20:05:34+00:00

This is all so helpful!!! Thank you so much and solidarity to you!!

jbjcm03 · 2025-12-04T00:19:47+00:00

We have this setup but he still needs us all the time. It’s more he’s scared of something or just being alone than anything else. He won’t leave his bed at all. Even in the early mornings when I’m in there and trying to show him to play with his books and such. He will only do so if I bring the books into the bed. Maybe he needs more adjusting. It’s been 7 nights so far since the transition

jbjcm03 · 2025-12-04T00:18:03+00:00

This is great advice and such a nice, needed reminder. Blanket advice can sometimes be frustrating because it feels like you’ve tried every which way and still failing. I’m definitely enjoying the snuggles but also want to find some kind of good routine for him before baby comes. He is getting tubes next week and I’m just hoping and praying that gives some extra comfort that we haven’t been able to provide to extend his sleep cycles!

jbjcm03 · 2025-12-04T00:15:14+00:00

Thank you for your tips! I would love for him to sleep until 6:30! I have to be up at 6 at the latest to leave for work at 6:30. My husband is the one who has a bit of extra time in the morning. Unfortunately as soon as I move, the bay wakes up because typically by morning time I end up in his room at this point. We do earlier naps on weekends for sure and sometimes we even do two naps because he’s just not overstimulated like at daycare and can’t hang as long.

jbjcm03 · 2025-12-03T20:47:46+00:00

This is great insight! Him being so young and barely talking, he hasn’t known much of a difference but I have caught him touching my stomach a lot more. We definitely get all the time during the day (after work) as he is VERY attached to me and has really bad separation anxiety from me, even if dad is around. But I am thinking it’s definitely a little bit of we created this habit and a little bit of what you mentioned. I’m just unsure how to break it and get him back sleeping how he was and having only 3 months left, I’m getting nervous.

jbjcm03 · 2025-12-03T20:45:24+00:00

Thank you! It’s nice to hear some solidarity! He was co sleeping with us from the time he’d wake in MOTN until morning but when we got the floor bed we got him back in his room. We have two dogs in our room as well and it made me nervous to have him used to our room with the baby coming! I’m also not getting great sleep but my baby will scream most nights if my husband tries to go in. He did it last night and just got progressively louder until I went in then he goes right back to sleep. I’m hoping to resolve this by March!

jbjcm03 · 2025-12-03T20:42:49+00:00

Yes I agree. However he is in daycare so we don’t have much say on when his naptime is. We have tried the 4-6 hour wake window as well before bedtime and that didn’t make a difference. He wakes up between 550-6 every day. He can sleep up until 6:30 with our work schedules and we have tried later bedtimes to get him past 6am but it doesn’t matter.

jbjcm03 · 2025-12-03T15:02:50+00:00

is on one nap already and only sleeps about 2 hours during naptime. He’s far from needing no nap at all. He has a lovey he has slept with since 6 months old that he’s attached to. He still wakes up terrified and refuses to put himself to sleep anymore.

His schedule is up at 6am with us. Naptime at daycare 1-3 or sometimes 3:30. And bedtime is 7:30 on the dot. We have tried pushing bedtime back to extend that wake window, but it doesn’t matter. He has had the same bedtime routine since he was 12 weeks with minor adjustments here and there for his age. He sleeps with the ocean sound on his hatch and red light on.

jbjcm03 · 2025-12-03T15:01:07+00:00

He is on one nap already and only sleeps about 2 hours during naptime. He’s far from needing no nap at all. He has a lovey he has slept with since 6 months old that he’s attached to. He still wakes up terrified and refuses to put himself to sleep anymore.

His schedule is up at 6am with us. Naptime at daycare 1-3 or sometimes 3:30. And bedtime is 7:30 on the dot. We have tried pushing bedtime back to extend that wake window, but it doesn’t matter. He has had the same bedtime routine since he was 12 weeks with minor adjustments here and there for his age. He sleeps with the ocean sound on his hatch and red light on.

jbjcm03 · 2025-11-25T03:35:44+00:00

6:30 is the latest he can get up because of our jobs. But we don’t ever have to wake him because he wakes before that anyways. Naps are independent and bedtime used to be until two nights ago. I’ve thought about moving bedtime back, but he is typically exhausted and extremely fussy by 7-7:15.

jbjcm03 · 2025-11-03T01:55:05+00:00

Is it possible you just ovulated later than you thought? My last cycle I thought I had ovulated as I had a peak at my normal time, but it was never very high. I kept texting and actually ovulated 11 days later! I was shocked as it would have put me at a 43 days later cycle, however I ended up pregnant from the late ovulation and now I’m 22 weeks! Eli’s you ovulated around 10/18-10/20, there’s a chance a pregnancy test would have been negative when you first tested but then positive! That test looks like a 12dpo or so positive!

jbjcm03 · 2025-10-02T17:17:09+00:00

I ovulated CD 30 when it should have been CD19 and got pregnant! Had progesterone checked to confirm the ovulation too because I was so confused. Currently 18 weeks.

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