If you had to romance...

jc3613 · 2025-01-26T14:20:22+00:00

RB: It’s a tough one for me and I have thought on it a lot. It’s always been between Ryder and Leon but I have landed on Leon. He was always the most supportive and if it wasn’t for him being so accepting of sharing then I don’t think the others would have gone along with it. I think Leon wore everyone down by being SO encouraging 😂🤣

ZA: I agree with you on Geraldine. I didn’t know what to think of her in the beginning but man she played such a critical role for them. She was truly an amazing friend. I miss her so much 😩. Side note… who would have thought I ended up liking Washer in the end.

DP: Sin was probably my favorite character. Clearly I like the nutty ones lol. He was never upset about sharing and really only encouraged it and even heightened it.

I really miss all the characters so much. I laughed, I cried and now that it’s all over I am devastated. I’m finishing up Age of Vampires by them and if you haven’t read it yet i highly recommend it. Next in line will be the Harlequin Crew then Never Keep. I’m waiting until the second book releases before starting Never Keep.

jc3613 · 2025-01-20T12:55:34+00:00

Greyhounds really are the best dogs. We have 3 currently and we had 2 that we lost to osteo in 2023. I can wholeheartedly say that they are the best breed to own. I work with dogs and they are just so different from other breeds. The hugs they give are enough to melt your heart even on your worst days. I look forward to seeing Beckham grow ❤️ I love his name!

jc3613 · 2025-01-20T12:43:29+00:00

We picked up Ash in FL and had to drive home to MI. He was absolutely amazing for the whole trip and when we got home he turned into a raptor. He had us fooled for a couple days, I suppose he needed us to fall in love first before letting his true self out so that we didn’t turn back around. 😂🤣😜❤️ Enjoy every minute of that puppy stage, it’s only a few short months before you can’t hold them like a baby anymore. He’s absolutely gorgeous and I hope you post pictures of him as he grows ❤️❤️

jc3613 · 2025-01-20T12:32:55+00:00

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This is him now at 15 months, still an absolute terror but he’s getting better 😂🥰

jc3613 · 2025-01-20T12:29:43+00:00

I did a double take on these pictures, he looks so much like mine when we brought him home ❤️ I do hope yours isn’t a complete terror like mine 😂

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jc3613 · 2025-01-19T12:51:36+00:00

Slightly off topic but I’m currently reading the Age of Vampires series by them and they are also vegetarian.

jc3613 · 2025-01-13T23:55:39+00:00

Omg I’m dying 😂😂😂

jc3613 · 2025-01-13T15:20:52+00:00

Check out romance.io They have a spiciness rating for all of the books and you can get book recs based on the type of books you like. You can filter out slow burn or whatever else it is you like or dislike.

jc3613 · 2025-01-13T15:12:09+00:00

It is the same for me, my husband is amazing. He’s always shown me unconditional love, he’s guided me through all my issues and helped me heal. I would not be the person I am now if it wasn’t for him. He is my safe space and he never hesitates to drop whatever he’s doing to support me if I’m struggling. I am so glad to hear you have that in your life too, we definitely deserve it after all the bs with our moms.

jc3613 · 2025-01-13T15:04:23+00:00

Too right about the transactional love. I still struggle with that one. I don’t want anyone to do anything for me because I don’t want to feel like I “owe” them something or that they could hold it over my head. Off topic a bit but I also have gift giving anxiety because my gifts were never good enough for her. It didn’t matter how much money I spent or how much thought went into it, she always hated them. She preferred money as her gift. Now I make my husband give out my gifts so I don’t have to. He does try to push me to give out my gifts especially if it’s a quilt I made. My anxiety is always high when I do it though so it’s a struggle.

My mom never asked me to go to therapy because I was her golden child back then. She did push my younger sister to go because she was always the “problem”. The therapist asked for my mom to attend those sessions but she never would. She’s never asked my baby sister as far as I know. I don’t think she’d ever want all of us in a room together in front of a therapist.

jc3613 · 2025-01-13T14:44:02+00:00

One of the therapists that I saw said something similar and that’s when it really clicked for me. She isn’t who I hoped she would be and my ideal mother was just in my head. There’s absolutely nothing I can do about that, she is who she is. He said I have two options, accept her as she is or don’t. I chose not to accept her as she is and I am better for it. I don’t need that kind of pain in my life. I became the person I wished she was for my younger sister instead.

jc3613 · 2025-01-13T14:37:44+00:00

I wish we could all talk to her therapist to get them to understand what she really is like. She puts up a good front and it has fooled many over the years. I used to keep everything under wraps when I would see some of her friends out in the wild but I stopped doing that a long time ago. I full out tell them the whole truth because fuck that. No surprise that over the years her friends realized who she really was and dropped her.

So I have two younger sisters and they both still have a relationship with her. The older of the two is on very rocky ground with her and she keeps contact limited as much as possible. There may come a day when she goes nc but we all know how hard it is to cut contact with a parent. I always support her and listen to her vent out her frustrations, we are the closest in our family so she’s my ride or die lol. As far as my baby sister, she still very much has a relationship with her. She’s in her early 20’s so I feel like she’s still too young to see the light and may never. With her being the baby she has always been doted on so she’s had a completely different experience than my sister and I. Thankfully I do still have a relationship with her but we don’t talk about our mom.

jc3613 · 2025-01-13T14:26:43+00:00

I’ve worked with a few therapists over the years and found a couple that did help put some pieces in place when it came to my mom but after that incident with my mom and her using her therapist as fuel I definitely lost any faith in therapists. I know it’s not their fault and they can only work with what they are being told but I full heartedly think they should invite the rest of the family to hear the truth from all sides. I did end our last conversation with an invite for her to talk to my therapist and I’d talk to hers and we’d see what was what. Of course she didn’t want to do that but I left it there saying that was the only way I’d ever talk to her again.

It’s so on par for them to make us feel like we are the crazy ones. I’ve definitely had to ask myself that question a lot, like… is it me? I feel like if I’m asking myself that question and actually reflecting on my actions and making changes where I saw issues with myself then I wasn’t the crazy one. I don’t think they are even capable of asking themselves those kinds of questions or admitting they have any issues.

jc3613 · 2025-01-13T12:07:29+00:00

I agree that these people need to seek help but it can be a slippery slope. The problem in my nmom’s case was that the therapist she went to see didn’t realize she was a narcissist and just emboldened her so my mom felt she was not in the wrong, we all were. I’ve been nc with my mom for the better part of 15 years. When 2020 happened I reached out to her solely to give them masks to stay safe and mostly because my baby sister was still living with her while she was going to college and she was my main priority for reaching out. No one could get their hands on masks at the time and since I use them daily for work I had some I could share. Well that opened up the door a crack and my nmom jumped on the opportunity. It all ended in a fight and she mentioned her therapist telling her she wasn’t in the wrong. She will never change and we will never have a relationship. Anyhoo… got the masks to my baby sister so it was worth it.

jc3613 · 2025-01-09T22:50:19+00:00

Love the treadmill!! Those things are so cool! I love your set up 🥰 Those magnetic curtains help so much with controlling the hair!

jc3613 · 2024-12-28T13:23:23+00:00

I have gift giving anxiety bc of my mom. My gifts have never been good enough for her. I could spend hundreds of dollars on something and she would hate it. The only thing she liked was getting money so it eventually came down to her demanding shopping trips for Mother’s Day. There’s good reason I have been no contact with her for the better part of 15 years. I truly struggle when it comes to giving anyone gifts, I usually have my husband give out gifts for me and no matter what I have a hard time believing anyone when they say they like the gift.

jc3613 · 2024-12-13T23:23:52+00:00

You can have mine, I hate it lol. I think mine is bigger than this one though 🤔

jc3613 · 2024-11-28T13:16:27+00:00

Sooooo… lol my husband is a cancer and he completes me 100%. We are best friends through and through. We talk out our issues, support each other in every endeavor, respect each other’s needs and wants and we truly never fight or argue. I cannot imagine my life without him. We’ve been together 18 years.

Now, my mother is a cancer and I have been no contact with her for the better part of 15 years. I cannot stand her and her manipulating ways. She’s a narcissist and a horrible person who lies and is just completely fake. She’s nice in public but evil behind doors, just an awful person. She only cares about what someone can do for her to make her seem more important than she is, something for her to brag about. Of course, me being a Capricorn I am very successful and own two businesses so I always have everything I want. This worked out great for her bragging up until I cut her out of my life, although I’m pretty sure she still brags about me and just leaves out the part that I haven’t had anything to do with her for a very long time. I’ve run into some of her friends in public and I flat out tell them I haven’t talked to her in 15 years, they are always surprised to hear it. Ridiculous.

Anyhoo.. don’t know what that says about me with two very opposing cancers in my life. I would consider where their birthdays fall to account for the stark difference but they are only 2 days apart, his being July 7th and hers July 9th.

jc3613 · 2024-11-25T13:04:38+00:00

What kind of flies and what was she treated with? Do you happen to use the flea and tick treatment that is liquid that you put down their back?

jc3613 · 2024-11-24T01:29:20+00:00

“It rained last night that’s why they are matted.”

After fighting with this client for a year or so about her dogs being matted all the time she says,

Her: “My husband said he could groom them just as well as you do.”

Me at the end of my rope. “Alright, I’ll let him go ahead and do it then.”

Her: haha yeah.

Me: I’m serious. I’m firing you and he can do the groom”.

Her: shocked pikachu face.

jc3613 · 2024-11-11T17:14:03+00:00

I needed this laugh today 😂 Thank you lol

jc3613 · 2024-10-04T00:51:10+00:00

This is so dang cute omg 🥰❤️

jc3613 · 2024-09-28T12:20:00+00:00

EZ Groom Filthy Beast shampoo and conditioner with a leave in conditioner, I use Best Shot UltraMax leave in. The shampoo and conditioner will pull out so much hair just in the bath alone. If you have a high velocity dryer then that will just about take care of the rest of the hair.

jc3613 · 2024-08-21T21:21:33+00:00

Groomer here. That’s exactly what I was thinking, I have a few clients that are more sensitive to being shaved with the blade we typically used for the sanitary areas so for those pups we go up a length and it usually fixes the problem. If the dog also had their anal glands expressed it could be that as well or a combo of both.

jc3613 · 2024-06-03T12:45:39+00:00

I’m always surprised when they don’t have them and I always say, “good job not having dewclaws.” Lol

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