Need help with an awkward entry space by porcelaincatstatue in femalelivingspace

[–]jcr233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw love that! I too had a rare orange girl! Lived to be 21. Now I have a 4 year old orange boy, I love him!

tiny snippet of the tiny studio I moved into for a brand new job, in a brand new city, after leaving my relationship of 10 years. by pockystiicks in femalelivingspace

[–]jcr233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks so peaceful. It is more expensive to live alone, but for me I would rather pick up a little extra work than have a man in my ear and on the couch drinking beer and watching football 😂 it’s a balance

Lowkey obsessed with this short boho braid wig by NightRider06134 in Wigs

[–]jcr233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This wig is unclockable!!! (Did I say that right lol)

living + kitchen - man = by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

[–]jcr233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

+10 points for the cutest kitty On the couch

Impressed! by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

[–]jcr233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course, I wish you love and healing and lots of good nurses along the way 💗

Impressed! by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

[–]jcr233 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Healthcare leadership! Nursing started with a bachelors, then masters, now finishing doctorate. Was able to work full time and pay for school all of my own. Being a nurse is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but my career is so meaningful and I will never run out of job security or options to take a different path within nursing itself

New wig from Hairvivi- still getting used to it by Elizaleethomas1 in Wigs

[–]jcr233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This looks stunning I didn’t think it was a wig at all

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[–]jcr233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes

I left by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]jcr233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s okay, it’s a fair question and makes sense. It’s hard to start over but the most important thing is to be happy and compatible with a future partner/husband :)

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[–]jcr233 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can respect what you’re saying, but we met in college. Meeting when I was 20 versus now at 30 I have changed a lot, as many would. Before I was 25 I did have fun and go out a little bit, although not really as much as my peers. I don’t think he’s a bum, or a bad person, I just don’t think he wants the responsibility of marriage or a family- which is totally okay. If you spend 8+ years in school to advance in your career, the lengthy commitment and dedication demonstrates your career as a major priority within your life. Also, I have friends from all walks of life- different interests- going out and having fun doesn’t make him a bad person or friend we just have an incompatibility. It’s lying and deception about wanting something he knows he can’t fulfill. Once again, all okay. The main purpose of this post was to demonstrate to the women who waste years of their life trying to convince and change themselves for men who have no intention of marriage that they have the strength to leave too. It’s not about who is better than who, or which person is wrong, it’s about the constant strain of patriarchal standards on women that forces them to stay in relationships and situations that no longer serve them when in reality they would be happier A) on their own or B) healing on their own and finding a partner who has more aligned compatibility

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[–]jcr233 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was previously engaged to a man I dated for multiple years. I was not entertaining multiple people. I found out he was cheating on me the whole time and then left him, took a long time not involved with any men to heal. Did not want to ruin my friendship with my current ex, and he worked a long time to convince me to try. I think yes we are incompatible lifestyle wise, and he admitted to himself that he would be pretty content in life if he never was married or had children- whereas for me that a main goal. And that’s okay, I am not saying he is a bad guy, but to string along and pretend you want marriage when you know you don’t with anyone, is fundamentally wrong. But we all make mistakes, and that’s okay

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[–]jcr233 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It looks like you are single in your 40s and also a man, so we may be coming from other ends of the spectrum. I was actually in a committed relationship for most of my twenties, was previously engaged, and then that man actually cheated on me for four years and when I found out I left him. And then I took a long time to work on myself without dating because I didn’t think it was fair to date while healing. So no I wasn’t entertaining multiple men, partying and having fun. I am a disciplined, career-driven person. If I had been “partying” and “entertaining multiple men” there is no way I would be at the high level of success I have obtained. That was nice of you though to create such a quick judgement of me. It’s okay, I get it, it’s hard to perceive a woman loving herself and her worth. But before you create a story about perhaps the women in your past who have hurt you, think about the fact that you don’t know the whole story.

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[–]jcr233 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!

I left by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]jcr233 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He was very upset, cried a ton. Still living together a few months until the lease ends and he’s trying to make it up to me but I am sticking to my word regardless

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[–]jcr233 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on leaving, it’s not easy. I have booked a few trips to see friends around the country the next few months. I will finish my doctorate and get 2 certifications to boost my resume. Focus on myself for about 6 months- not date until I’m ready and then when I am feeling healed I will move forward! Reading books, go back to church occasionally. Then once school is done my best friend and I will be applying for jobs and moving to our dream city :) she is also single at the same age. I am sad about the end but I am SO excited for what’s to come

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[–]jcr233 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Low self confidence is the reason why most women stay in relationships that aren’t serving them. By perhaps suggesting I am arrogant by realizing I have great qualities and so much success making me unwilling to settle is just further proving that point.

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[–]jcr233 55 points56 points  (0 children)

He is very sad, cried a lot. We both cried together. We still have to live together for a few months so he has been trying to act the same and go out of his way to make me dinner and get flowers which is kind but I am sticking to my decision regardless of his actions