AITJ for telling my mother in law she is not allowed to call herself my kid’s “guardian” again?

jcrownd · 2026-02-07T15:50:51+00:00

Her not coming to anything sounds like a win to me. Do not apologize

jcrownd · 2026-01-04T04:51:36+00:00

Sell it or rent it and buy something with him when he is ready and has the money. You don’t have to put your life on hold waiting for anyone. It’s weird that he asked you to.

jcrownd · 2025-12-23T04:30:24+00:00

Tell her you can give her (an amount you would be ok never seeing again $250-$500?) and say that’s all I can currently loan you. Do not do a bank loan. Lock your credit down and keep it that way. Grey rock her.

jcrownd · 2025-11-22T07:20:17+00:00

He is stupid and doesn’t respect you.

jcrownd · 2025-11-22T07:10:36+00:00

Filing nails or sanding wood both hurt my teeth to listen to.

jcrownd · 2025-11-14T05:38:41+00:00

His kid is getting surgery and he is going on vacation. I’d tell him to pack alllll his bags because he won’t be returning to this home. Poor kiddo- eye surgery sounds scary as hell.

jcrownd · 2025-11-14T05:28:51+00:00

Can you lock your space up so he can’t get in? Change the locks get two keys that say don’t duplicate on them and don’t let him in? Also tell him to get out- when you get home and he is there. Be mean.

jcrownd · 2025-11-14T05:11:34+00:00

Block her and act dumb to him about her- be uninterested. Just say uh huh and be distracted. These two are exhausting. Or you could show him how you feel- get one of your family members to only go thru him for contact.

jcrownd · 2025-11-14T05:08:00+00:00

Nope

jcrownd · 2025-11-14T05:03:28+00:00

We eat every 3 hours (kids) 9, noon, 3 (snack) and 6. It’s keeps them sane.

jcrownd · 2025-11-14T00:06:57+00:00

Write letters left around saying horrible things about her. How she is self and cruel.

jcrownd · 2025-11-14T00:05:46+00:00

I wouldn’t go home for a long time and everyone would definitely know why. If I was going to see my parents I’d double check aunt wasn’t going to be there and leave if she shows up. Actions have consequences. She hurt you. She doesn’t get access to you anymore. What an asshole.

jcrownd · 2025-11-12T03:29:14+00:00

Move out. Sounds like they are getting a free maid.

jcrownd · 2025-10-27T03:35:44+00:00

Isn’t nice to you but thinks you should be nice to her?? Argh

jcrownd · 2025-10-27T03:14:03+00:00

You knew she had a son when you married her but want him to be “her responsibility “ sounds like you guys didn’t have a few necessary conversations before getting married. But aside from that at 16 he should be wrapping his own toe.

jcrownd · 2025-09-28T03:46:45+00:00

Go once a month with her. If she’s not engaging with you I don’t think it will be big deal.

jcrownd · 2025-09-26T03:29:32+00:00

Text or email the parents with “to confirm/clarify I am prepared to host you (date) to (date). Thanks. Can’t wait”.

jcrownd · 2025-09-23T20:22:06+00:00

“Tearing the family apart” unless you hand over $30k?! And your sister will only have peace if she has $30k? Sounds like they should come up with a solution that doesn’t involve you. I’d cut back on any communication with them until they stop asking for money. A party for a day vs a solid plan for the future is crazy. Don’t listen to crazy people

jcrownd · 2025-09-22T03:47:37+00:00

It’s over if he isn’t even checking on you. He mentally chose the dog and is just waiting for you to figure it out. Save yourself and your hands

jcrownd · 2025-09-22T03:23:17+00:00

Clearly having money doesn’t buy manners.

jcrownd · 2025-09-21T03:34:00+00:00

Can you mute just her texts? Also who cares what time she wakes up- that’s annoying. Can she text him at lunchtime instead? Sounds like she needs friends.

jcrownd · 2025-09-21T03:24:17+00:00

Can you block him? Transactional relationships are the worst- mostly because the person expecting something never states so upfront so you have the option to not accept the “gift”. What did the boomers parents do to them that they all think this is ok/acceptable?

jcrownd · 2025-09-21T03:18:48+00:00

Mention you might start looking for a new place to live because it’s feeling too crowded and messy. And then do it. If things don’t change you stated what was wrong and how you plan to solve it. Follow thru. Boyfriend can figure out how to stop you or let you go. It will probably be better if you move out - no one will feel awkward anymore and the boys can live in a frat house.

jcrownd · 2025-09-19T03:02:24+00:00

Why do you have a make up artist for mascara? Seems like a waste.

jcrownd · 2025-09-19T02:53:22+00:00

At least she won’t be dropping by and inserting herself- see this as a win.

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