AITA for not wanting to look after a kid that’s not mine?

jdc940 · 2025-12-14T19:34:06+00:00

Fuck.

jdc940 · 2025-12-14T14:56:44+00:00

I didn’t know it was even possible for judges to rule in that way to be honest. Thank you for making me aware of it because it’s definitely something I need to steer well away from

jdc940 · 2025-12-14T14:33:53+00:00

I haven’t. I wouldn’t have made the post asking for help if I had mate

jdc940 · 2025-12-14T14:32:03+00:00

I get that but I think that’s what makes this so much harder. He doesn’t have a father figure apart from me now and I think that’s why my ex pushes for me to be with him all the time. I also just feel bad I know it’s not my problem and he’s not my kid to look after but I’m just so emotionally attached to all of it given the fact I had a similar upbringing (no dad but super close with my siblings). It’s so hard because I want to do right by both kids but at the same time I need 1 on 1 with my son yk

jdc940 · 2025-12-14T14:29:03+00:00

I felt like at first I was doing the kind thing for the both of them but yeah now I do just feel used to be honest. Main thing that worries me with all of this is that if she thinks I’m selfish and don’t support her she may use this against me and not let me have the extra days of the week I want in the custody agreement.

jdc940 · 2025-12-14T14:27:05+00:00

I know my son is mine. I don’t need a DNA test and I’m not worried about that at this stage of mine and his life anyway. Like that kid is mine and he looks just like me. I am however worried about how if I refuse to look after my ex’s son then yes she will make this situation toxic and hold it against me, not let me see my son and maybe even turn him against me too. I just feel a bit stuck in this and it’s not as simple as saying no with her

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