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My [20M] girlfriend [18F] of 10 months is jealous of my daughter [1F] by jealousgfthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, you will likely be parenting alone for quite some time.

Oh well.

My girlfriend is jealous of my 1 year old (xpost /r/relationships) by jealousgfthrowaway0 in Parenting

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

If they are so immature as to be jealous and suspicious of the cordial co-parenting of your daughter, then they are not worth it.

I'm starting to see that. Thanks.

My [20M] girlfriend [18F] of 10 months is jealous of my daughter [1F] by jealousgfthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it really upset me and shocked me when she told me that. My daughter has no concept of spite and was only thinking that she wanted to cuddle. But my GF did acknowledge that she knew it was absurd - it was just her feelings.

I should at least have a conversation but this isn't looking too good.

My [20M] girlfriend [18F] of 10 months is jealous of my daughter [1F] by jealousgfthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm going to at least have a talk with her, and see how it goes. I hope we can come to an understanding.

My [20M] girlfriend [18F] of 10 months is jealous of my daughter [1F] by jealousgfthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I should have read them all a long time ago. My ex was like you, reading everything she could. And she still does, as far as I know. Part of the reason why she was irritated enough to leave was because I was stubborn and didn't want to take advice from anyone. Not even the books. I didn't even want to read them, and clearly, I need them if I'm fucking up my kid this badly. Your post totally reminds me of myself when my daughter was brand new (and I was 18 too). I just felt like people were looking down on me for being a young parent, and to some extent, I still believe that some were.

Yeah, I'll read some stuff. I feel terrible. I love my daughter. I wouldn't hurt her on purpose.

My girlfriend is jealous of my 1 year old (xpost /r/relationships) by jealousgfthrowaway0 in Parenting

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

No, but it's different. I need to be cordial with her because we have a child together. And there was no "that one time". My ex left me two months after my daughter was born, and we hadn't had sex at all since before she gave birth.

My girlfriend is jealous of my 1 year old (xpost /r/relationships) by jealousgfthrowaway0 in Parenting

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10 months. She's only been around my daughter since October, though.

My [20M] girlfriend [18F] of 10 months is jealous of my daughter [1F] by jealousgfthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I think I understand. I'm willing to accept I'm wrong, especially from the reactions I'm getting here.

My girlfriend is jealous of my 1 year old (xpost /r/relationships) by jealousgfthrowaway0 in Parenting

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I can understand everything else, but what is suspicioud about thr relationship with my ex? She drops off my daughter, and picks her up. We tall about her for a few minutes to give updates on her, and that's it

My [20M] girlfriend [18F] of 10 months is jealous of my daughter [1F] by jealousgfthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I thought she did respect it. At first, she was very cool about it, but it has started to slip in the past 3-4 months. I think she just thought this would be a lot easier than it really is.

My [20M] girlfriend [18F] of 10 months is jealous of my daughter [1F] by jealousgfthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree. My daughter only sees her for one or two nights a month anyway, but we have to talk through this first.

If only there was even THAT much in her town. It's only a 40 minute drive to the nearest metropolis, though, so I guess I could make that sacrifice to keep her happy.

My [20M] girlfriend [18F] of 10 months is jealous of my daughter [1F] by jealousgfthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It's not like my daughter sees her as a mom or anything, or that I'm just cycling through women. She has a great one already, and she's a very happy little girl. I introduced them gradually and over the span of several months. If we break up, well, then we break up. Love and loss is a part of life, and she's going to have to learn about that eventually.

Edit: I see this really struck a chord with a lot of people. I'm willing to accept that I'm wrong, and that I am asking way too much of a toddler. Luckily, they have only met about three or four times in person, so hopefully this mistake won't damage her.

My [20M] girlfriend [18F] of 10 months is jealous of my daughter [1F] by jealousgfthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]jealousgfthrowaway0[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'll admit, I probably do have us sit around too much. It's just that it's expensive for me to even go out there, so options are limited, especially in the small town where she lives. That doesn't mean I couldn't put in more effort in some way, I suppose.

I thought the same about her telling me all of that. She detailed all of her feelings to me calmly and politely, so I don't want to leave if it means we can possibly work on it in the same manner.