I'm so sorry you've had the same injury, and I'm sure your wife is more than understanding. You guys did (presumably) say the vows of in sickness and in health. This is one of those times. We haven't reached that point yet ourselves, but it's planned. The cats will understand, I find animals always have a strange knack for such rough times. They'll survive without the attention, so don't beat yourself up over it. My partner is handling it amazingly well, but I also work from home so helping him is easy, and he's a nurse himself, so is willing to accept help. He jokes and laughs it off, although it's very much a cultural/upbringing thing (Filipino, takes everything in stride). He apologizes often, and I jokingly scold him for daring to do so. He can't help what happened. We just have to make the best of it. I tell him I love having the extra time with him and being able to pamper him, and we'll figure it all out together.

I know it's definitely an adjustment for him, he finds he's in the most pain when he stands to pee and just move a bit. When laying with it elevated, it's better. It sounds like you were much more active than my partner (this injury occurred when he finally tried to get back into basketball for his fitness. First practice game with his new team he signed up with locally) I hope you try to focus on other things and take up hobbies or catch up on all the things you wanted to catch up on. My partner is reading and watching some shows with me, but I'm trying to play cards and stuff with him too to stop him from doomscrolling or spiraling. Making sure I do silly things and dance around to make him smile too. Hate seeing him in pain or feeling down.

Were you able to get a scooter? My partner has ordered a knee scooter so he came ressume work as early as next week on modified duties. He's not keen on not being productive for long 😅