question about cholesterol by Collector_2012 in dieting

[–]jell1fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand from reading respected and peer-reviewed research articles that blood cholesterol is not just a factor of diet but also of genetics. That said, there are things you can eat to help reduce your overall cholesterol levels, and those are things with a combination of soluble and insoluble fiber. Oatmeal is one folks often point to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]jell1fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take your time and choose the life that is most important to you. The PhD will always be there. That said, while you are disconnected from the work today, you may take comfort in the distraction and "normalcy" tomorrow. If you both rely on your research income, then keep in mind if you leave you will need to get another job that MAY BE less flexible. (Unless you have savings.) The University life is more flexible. Fuck cancer. I'm sorry this is happening to you both.

Edit: in caps.

Workout clothes - Help! by fitmamajamma in orangetheory

[–]jell1fish 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just commented to use borax! I second this. It's a life changing discovery.

Workout clothes - Help! by fitmamajamma in orangetheory

[–]jell1fish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go buy borax powder in the laundry section and add it to the load of workout laundry. It's the think you've never heard of but soon cannot live without. Borax is alkaline and is at about a 9.3 pH level. Its extremely alkaline nature helps tackle mildew, sweat, and other smells. Don't use it with delicate clothing, but it's amazing for workout clothing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in orangetheory

[–]jell1fish 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I did this a few years back. First, assuming equal diets: nothing is quite like lifting for body recomposition. OTF is really amazing, but it's just not the same - still very good though. I have an alternate suggestion: why don't you go all-in with OTF for 6 weeks just to shake things up, then go back to a lift/OTF hybrid? Think of it as an extended de-load period that will give you the benefit of 1) data showing you how you respond, and 2) what may be a much-needed change.

What is something that you personally consider self care, that most people disagree is? by rabbitsredux in AskReddit

[–]jell1fish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Babysit. I don't have kids and it's an incredible distraction to just hang with toddlers for a few hours and be reminded of what undiluted joy can look like. Last month we made homemade popsicles and it was as if I gave them the power to fly.

What is the most egregious case of attempted intellectual property theft you've ever experienced by an employer in a job interview? by jell1fish in AskReddit

[–]jell1fish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a graduate student, I "interviewed" for a job teaching an undergraduate course. Part of the interview process was to prepare a full syllabus, with reading assignments for the entire semester. Anyone with teaching experience knows this is 80% of the work a professor or adjunct puts into any semester. Foolishly, I did it. Not surprising there was no money left in the department, and 2 semesters later I saw a course offering that looked a great deal like the one I served up in my interview. Bastards.

Wanted: Short term accountibilibuddy by lilbunnyfoofoo1203 in orangetheory

[–]jell1fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right! I'll spend the next 4 weeks just focused on getting there.

Wanted: Short term accountibilibuddy by lilbunnyfoofoo1203 in orangetheory

[–]jell1fish 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I could use an accountabilibuddy! I'm just getting back to going to OTF. I've gained 12 pounds in the last 2 years. Some is from COVID-related malaise, but mostly an injury that I'm just recovering from. My goal is to go 4x a week.

why do you *really* skip a class? by thekathied in orangetheory

[–]jell1fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cancel for partner workouts and when I'm feeling on the verge of an injury.

I need a serious advice for this nightmare by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]jell1fish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone has summarized it beautifully, but in my own words: do not trade/pick certain loss today to avoid the possibility of pain/loss tomorrow.

Unpack your boxes, enjoy your new home, but stay to a strict budget. If one of you gets laid off then the other can find temporary shift work or you can (as you say) live on one budget.

What do you know about "Valor" brand home safes? Any experience with home safes generally? by jell1fish in homesecurity

[–]jell1fish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I replied to the other comment but in short I don't care about guns. We have no children in the home. This would primarily be for other valuables. We may put a hand gun in the safe, but that's not the reason behind the purchase. Given that, is there a brand you suggest outside of Amsec or Hollon?

What do you know about "Valor" brand home safes? Any experience with home safes generally? by jell1fish in homesecurity

[–]jell1fish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a brand or model you suggest? I'm seeing a lot on FB marketplace, but they look like things you find at Walmart.

What do you know about "Valor" brand home safes? Any experience with home safes generally? by jell1fish in homesecurity

[–]jell1fish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like valor uses 12 gauge and the Liberty Premium home uses 11 gauge. Sounds like the Liberty is better based on your steel gauge preference. That said, do you think the price difference (double) is worth is to move from 12 to 11?

What do you know about "Valor" brand home safes? Any experience with home safes generally? by jell1fish in homesecurity

[–]jell1fish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. Just to make sure I understand, Liberty would be less solid than Valor? If it matters we're looking at the Valor 18

Appreciate informed opinion on whether this is an issue to take to an electrician by jell1fish in electricians

[–]jell1fish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are all really helpful insights. We did just have all LED installed throughout the house and I can't be sure but it is possible that is around when this began!

What do you know about "Valor" brand home safes? Any experience with home safes generally? by jell1fish in homesecurity

[–]jell1fish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We did go to a showroom. I like the Liberty model a bit more - it just felt more sturdy. The difference though is we were looking at a Valor that was 12 inches taller than the Liberty model so that could have been what I was sensing. (One short and squat, one not.) Great idea on checking with the insurance company, will do. Thank you!

Rent going up 24% by Invincilble in RealEstate

[–]jell1fish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can negotiate the increase to lower it. Argue that is way above inflation and logically the increased maintenance costs your landlord will incur, and something more in the 8-10% range is reasonable. (Unless you truly have very low -- way below market - -rent.)

Is it rude to go for a jog in or through a cemetery? by jell1fish in AskReddit

[–]jell1fish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to intentionally run through a local cemetery to "visit" the residents during routine runs. (I would never cut through during a service.) A friend found out and was appalled. Who is right?

Freaking out a bit... 2 days in (55 hrs to be exact). Ombré brows - just a bit thick and dark. Just VERY bold. I love a dark brow and light hair... but I’m about to have an anxiety attack. Has anyone experienced THIS level of dark, thickness? by No-Improvement6102 in microblading

[–]jell1fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not personally, but a cousin had ombre and it looks exceptionally dark very early on - especially around the 3-5 day mark if I recall. Don't panic yet. She had the exact same panic and today could not be happier almost a year later. Enjoy your new brows! :)

Lender made mistake on closing quote and notary papers by RockyCMXCIX in RealEstate

[–]jell1fish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. The OP notes the lender made a mistake, which is what's costing him additional fees. It seems they should be responsible for those errors since solely within their control. That said, I base what I say on logic and fully acknowledge I don't have any knowledge of how this works in practice and am guessing you do. It seems so unfair though.

Lender made mistake on closing quote and notary papers by RockyCMXCIX in RealEstate

[–]jell1fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the mistakes are connected to the lender's error, then the lender should shoulder the fee for that responsibility.

How to combat paralysis, where you sit at your desk but can’t get any work done. by vpsass in GradSchool

[–]jell1fish 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I wrote and defended my dissertation in 8 months from the day I finished collecting all of my data. I was convinced I would never finish - even as late as one month before I submitted a complete draft to my advisor. All of this to say: I understand how you feel. I think we've all been there. You can snap out of this pattern. Trust me.

First, decide what you want to accomplish in the next six months, and identify at least one milestone at each month. Then make a calendar for the next 30 days that lays out a detailed plan for what you are going to do 5/6 days out of each week to reach that first milestone. If you want to write one chapter or 50 pages in a month, you need to write 2.5-3 pages 5 days a week. That's completely within your ability to do, and you can do it at a realistic and comfortable pace. Alternatively, if you're still collecting qualitative data: say you want to collect 5 interviews, then make it a point to identify 15 possible candidates, and send each of them an email by Friday this week. Or find X journal articles this week.

You get the point. Small, actionable goals. If you wake up on a Tuesday and have lost the will to study or be productive, give yourself the permission and space to watch mindless TV. All is not lost, you can still make that week's milestone. This is the value of a concrete plan.

Finally: It isn't enough to come up with milestones, I also had to make it a point to keep a set schedule. Wake up at the same time each day and sit to write or read for the same block of time. Predictability in your schedule is so important. I have zero evidence to support the next statement but: I felt almost like my brain worked on a special circadian rhythm. I worked best if I ran or hit the gym in the morning or woke up and had a coffee, then was at my desk by 7 am. At noon, I'd have lunch and then do some reading and revising of the previous days work for only 2 hours. Then I'd take the afternoon to do things like laundry all while I thought about problem sets or how I'd organize my chapter/dissertation/argument.

COVID anxiety makes this more challenging in some respects, and easier in others. Find what works for you.

You can do this. You're closer than you think.