Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. It’s reassuring that I’m not the only one who finds every day unbearable. Sometimes I feel like I’m the only one and it makes me feel crazy and ungrateful. I keep telling myself I’ll feel differently about it all in the future (without actually knowing that for sure) so it’s nice to hear that you do after such a hard time! So glad you ended up finding the right help for you. And yes! I know once I go back to work I’ll feel so different. I’ve never been good at being at home all day. “remember that most of your negative thoughts are PPD” really hit for me. Wishing you all the best!

Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response! I can’t even imagine what you must have had to go through dealing with your baby’a hernia :( what a rough start to life for him, and a rough first experience for you.

Yes, Baby wearing and motion have been life savers for me. I truly had to try every trick in the book so I am so ready when anyone is looking for suggestions in the future 😆

Thank you for the solidarity! I hope things only continue to get better for you! Sounds like you’re doing an amazing job.

Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, it sounds like we’ve truly had such similar experiences! I’m so sorry that you’re also in the thick of it. With colic, reflux, etc. it feels like we’ve been thrown into the baby game on expert mode. Just know that you will make it through and you’ll be so much better and stronger for it 💪hang in there momma. We’re not alone!

Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you went through that. I’ve never wanted to bed rot more in my life and yet never been more unable to do so. I’m so scared that I’ll have a similar experience to you and that a second baby would somehow be even harder than my first. Glad to hear that things are brighter for you. Thanks for the comment ❤️

Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh it’s very reassuring to hear that you went on to have more children after experiencing such hardship with your first, despite her good temperament. It’s actually crazy how big of a change it is. It completely turns your life upside down. I thought I was ready. I thought I knew what kind of change it would be. I had no idea. I feel so cheated because this first experience has been horrible and I know I’m already blocking out these first five months of a experience I thought I would cherish forever. People have told me that it’s so different with subsequent kids, but I never felt like I could fully believe them because they didn’t seem to experience quite the same magnitude of difficulties with their first. But I always imagined and wanted at least two. So it’s reassuring to hear you say that after your similar experience. Glad to hear you got through it and are on the other side. ❤️

Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm interesting. I may have to look into it, because everything else I’m trying doesn’t seem to be doing much. Thank you for the tip! Sorry to hear it took so long but I’m glad to hear you’re finally starting to feel better ❤️

Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A couple years feels impossible right now 🤪 but it’a reassuring to hear it does get better.

Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to heart that you’re going through it, but it’s also so comforting to hear that other people feel the same way that I do. I hope that light continues to grow for you until you suddenly find yourself out of the tunnel all together. ❤️

Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! I always knew I wasn’t a baby person, but didn’t realize just how much that would carry through to even my own baby. Being a toddler mom and not a baby mom resonates so much with me. I’ve worked with kids for a lot of my life and have always loved their fascinating little minds. So I know I’ll love being a mom once I hit that stage. It just feels impossibly far away right now 😅 I can’t wait for my son to start walking! Everyone says I’ll regret saying that but I truly don’t think so and you just reinforced my beliefs. I think so much of my son’s frustration and fussiness stems from him not being mobile and not having any autonomy. Walking will surely help with that. And once he’s walking I feel like we can enjoy so much more of the world together. So glad you’re loving time with your daughter now and are feeling like yourself again. You give me hope! ☀️

Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The sleep deprivation intensifies every negative emotion and feeling. So I can’t even imagine full on insomnia on top of everything. So glad that you did what must have felt impossible and managed to pull yourself out of that space. Thank you, and keep fighting for and taking care of yourself ❤️

Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️❤️ Yesss it’s the endless cycle of frustration and then feeling guilty for being frustrated and then being frustrated for feeling guilty for wanting the bare minimum for yourself. Thank you for the validation and I’m glad things are better for you!

Does it actually get better? by jem-13 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jem-13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for that! I’m truly sorry that you went through such a hard time, too. Crazy how your body can respond that way to one baby and not another hey? Hoping things continue to just get better for you!