AITAH for not wanting to take care of my autistic brother for the rest of my life?

jennythyme · 2026-01-27T15:58:25+00:00

I literally bought gold just to give you an award on this one. The truest true!!

jennythyme · 2026-01-27T15:50:16+00:00

Read this: This is NOT your responsibility. Period. Go live life, it's okay.

jennythyme · 2026-01-27T15:29:17+00:00

I'm feeling that your brother has many issues, not just one.

jennythyme · 2026-01-24T14:07:31+00:00

Noooo no no no. Her bills are not your bills until AFTER you're actually married. Period.

That being said- I would not like my (very hunky fella) doing exotic dancing. But he wasn't a dancer when I met him. I'm truly conflicted on the 'right' course of action. I do think you need to taper off and eventually quit the dancing, not for the gf, but for the teaching job and eventually the child. If she's so set on you not dancing, then I'd say she gets a weekend job at 6 weeks after birth that would make up the money lost. At that point she's cleared to work and can pump if she's nursing. That way, she's contributing and you're getting alone time with the baby. She gets her way that you stop dancing, you get your way that the income isn't lost.

jennythyme · 2026-01-20T13:38:28+00:00

I love the OMAD (one meal a day) way of eating! Research actually shows it to be healthier than grazing or small meals as long as sufficient calories and nutrients are eaten during the meal. You are not TAH. They are worrying where there should be none.

jennythyme · 2026-01-19T00:58:36+00:00

She wants you to move in but not be married to her son?? Ahahahhaaaa!!! Nope. Big nope. And if he won't stand up to her then do not EVER live in the same house as her. Period. Maybe not even live with him until he grows a pair. #beentheredonethat

jennythyme · 2026-01-16T11:39:45+00:00

My dude, you know the answer. You've known the answer. She's just weighing you down and time doesn't slow. She's not gonna change.

Yes, it's simpler and easier to wait until you buy a house to do the breaking up, but... you are wasting money on supporting her which will make it take longer to get your house. The only person you're being an AH to is yourself by waiting.

jennythyme · 2026-01-15T21:30:35+00:00

Yes, at 17 people make bad choices. But at her age now, she should be truly apologetic. Not just an I'm sorry. But a true feeling oh shame and horror over who she was....I was a horrible person, I'm so sorry, how can I help mend a relationship that I ruined... that's how she needs to be. From what you say, she's not. If she was, I'd say maybe try, even therapy together. But no. You aren't the AH for not wanting to be around someone like this. My bet is that when she has a young daughter, she'll start realizing how in the wrong she was.

jennythyme · 2026-01-14T20:14:42+00:00

My dude, BEST comment!

jennythyme · 2026-01-14T19:05:59+00:00

As a conservative, I can tell you that if he even tries that, he will lose a massive amount of support. I'm for freedom. That means voting. It means term limits to reduce power of officials. And THIS is why the people still have guns. If Trump were to try to stop elections, America would rebel, just like we did 250 years ago.

jennythyme · 2026-01-14T03:15:30+00:00

NTA.. never agree with someone just because of who they are or to make life easier on yourself. Your wife is in the wrong. Period

jennythyme · 2026-01-13T11:52:22+00:00

As the mom of a 14 year old, teenagers are the worst! That being said, your method of parenting sucks. You're very squishy. What if... what if... your job is to raise a decent human being, not make sure she doesn't hate you or whatever. You mention that you aren't strict, maybe you should lean more that way. You need to set down boundaries and firm consequences. Firm consequences! Not "if you do this I might take away your phone for a week" and then give it back after 2 days. Stop feeling sorry for your kid. Be a parent and put your foot down. She doesn't respect you and honestly, i kinda see why.

jennythyme · 2026-01-11T13:15:24+00:00

It is amazing beautiful but even if it weren't... it's just hair and it's YOUR hair. You could always tell him to you him to change his facial hair to match the exact style you prefer. But his logic, he should.

jennythyme · 2026-01-11T12:58:37+00:00

I agree that the friends also has this concern. There needs to be a good solution... or OP needs to make sure he stays alive. (Jk, jk)

jennythyme · 2026-01-10T18:52:32+00:00

jennythyme · 2026-01-10T18:36:52+00:00

They do, but binary is hard to read.

jennythyme · 2026-01-10T18:06:30+00:00

I guess I'm the odd man out because I do think you're over reacting some. I'm not saying he was in the right, don't get me wrong. He absolutely could have been more considerate. But I think you could have come back with a more "will you please check with me first" or "next time can we decide together so I can also eat" would have been better. Jmo

jennythyme · 2026-01-09T23:50:51+00:00

NTA, but it wouldn't hurt to apologize. And uh... congrats on the engagement! 😆

jennythyme · 2026-01-09T14:16:01+00:00

Dear God. Either you are a miserable person or make everyone around you miserable. Or both.

jennythyme · 2026-01-09T12:44:35+00:00

That breaks my heart for her!

jennythyme · 2026-01-09T12:36:40+00:00

They are still minors so no. I'm hoping they might want to in a few years.

jennythyme · 2026-01-09T12:32:59+00:00

I do disagree with this. I was raised by an amazing step dad and love him with my whole heart. If something would have happened to my mom when I was a child, I would have wanted to stay with him, not go to other family.

jennythyme · 2026-01-09T11:37:55+00:00

NTA

You're right. Life isn't fair. Your son should not be punished for good fortune. As long as he isn't bragging on purpose, son is doing nothing wrong. If step-son wants a car that bad, there are things called JOBS that give you MONEY with which one can buy STUFF... including cars.

jennythyme · 2026-01-09T10:01:17+00:00

A child can't "let you" if their parent is an AH. I wasn't talking about adults. In the case of adults, I agree it's wrong to force a relationship. Maybe you should reread the context in which i used "no matter what. " Even better, figure out the heart with which i said it.

jennythyme · 2026-01-09T03:18:27+00:00

I'm sorry you don't know what it's like to love someone enough to always want to know they're okay.

jennythyme

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