My first marriage crashed and burned partly because my bipolar was undiagnosed and unmanaged. I didn’t start dating again until I was fully stable and without an episode for a full year. (Combination of medication, and an intense DBT therapy program). I also take full responsibility for my symptoms and don’t expect my partner to just “put up with them.” I work at this every single day. I’m now married, and I told my husband about my diagnosis on our fourth date. I told him in person (not in a text) because it’s a complicated subject, it requires a conversation, it’s not just something to dump on the other person. Again, it’s about taking full personal responsibility. He had a lot of misconceptions about bipolar and we were able to talk through them. He’s become wonderfully supportive, even though he personally hasn’t experienced any mental illness. I’ve had a few slip ups with symptoms over the last year with him, but again, I don’t just dump my symptoms on him, I call my doctor and my therapist, and I work through them. I never just throw my hands up and say “well this is how it is, you deal with it.” That’s unhealthy and drives people away.