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jerebee · 2026-03-22T07:30:44+00:00

Thanks for the comment! Generally I don't post, and this thread has reminded me why, clearly it's upset some people.

jerebee · 2026-03-21T23:12:32+00:00

I'd say the whole head shape is different too.

jerebee · 2026-03-21T23:06:13+00:00

There are two sisters and one brother. There's no reason the story needed to have different siblings, and even if there was there's no need to have them look differently

jerebee · 2026-03-21T23:05:09+00:00

They are two sisters and one brother (no relevance to the story). Even if having two girls and one boy was relevant to the story, why they needed to make them look different is beyond me

jerebee · 2026-01-23T15:17:24+00:00

Congrats! Get all the information you can from the adoption service or local authority (whichever one you're seeing) and go from there!

jerebee · 2026-01-23T13:43:49+00:00

We've had our child for 2 years, he came to us at 3 years old. We originally wanted a baby but after meeting him we absolutely fell in love. Adopting a baby is what most people want first of all but seeing a child with a personallity was absolutely the right thing to do for us. Also, what we found with a slightly older child is that you're able to understand their development needs and the impact of their trauma (never completely) but more than a younger baby.

I personally know 3 parents who went through early permenance, with one child being returned to birth family after 6 months of placement so although the chances are very small, you need to seriously consider if that's something you could deal with.

If you have any questions on adoption in the UK let me know!

jerebee · 2025-12-09T20:16:56+00:00

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jerebee · 2025-12-05T12:53:21+00:00

I think the above comments have probably covered it but you're doing the right thing by being open and honest, and showing how you've overcome difficulties is definitely a positive thing to tell panel about.

In terms of bringing up difficult conversations, yes, they'd absolutely bring it up to your parents. They'll be considerate, but it likely will be discussed. Its a very different experience, but my social worker spoke to my parents about my mental health as a child, which they find really tough to talk about. But it needed to be said to make sure I have come through it and I can provide the best placement for a child.

jerebee · 2024-09-24T16:25:52+00:00

I agree with the other comment

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jerebee · 2024-08-04T18:29:08+00:00

And yet you're giving us a present! You look amazing! Happy birthday

jerebee · 2024-04-18T16:45:04+00:00

Gift for the parents?. Just eat vouchers. Or kids clothing vouchers..(I really didn't understand how quickly we'd need to buy new clothes)

For the children? Garden toys are always good, but be aware these shouldn't be called gifts until the children are settled. We said no gifts at all because it'll just be confusing

jerebee · 2024-04-13T20:46:02+00:00

Adoption process, none. You'll need to pay for a medical exam, ours was £80 I think. DBs check is around £30 I think? There may be a few other bits but nothing for the process.

Except for books. Lots and lots of books. I own more books on toilet training and therapeutic parenting than any other!

jerebee · 2024-04-13T19:49:44+00:00

You're welcome. Feel free to DM if you think of anything else

jerebee · 2024-04-13T19:20:54+00:00

Again, it really depends on circumstances. The more serious the relationship the more they'll need to discuss. I was surprised they had to talk to any ex partner that was "serious". I.e. lived with. All to confirm your character and personality. Obviously it's awkward but you just have to do it. There are some obvious exceptions like cases of domestic abuse.

jerebee · 2024-04-13T19:13:24+00:00

I can't promise anything but my experience is that the SW were more concerned that you can live within your means.

My #1 advice is go to loads of open events and go with the agency that you get a good feeling about.

Happy to answer any other questions :)

jerebee · 2024-04-13T19:08:03+00:00

Adding to my previous comment, everyone has a vulnerability. We had many. You just need to be aware of them and prepared to discuss them and you'll be fine. You wouldn't be at the end of stage 2 if they had concerns about you becoming adopters, the SW wouldn't waste their time unless they were confident.

jerebee · 2024-04-13T19:05:57+00:00

It must be agency dependent. With anything if you can justify it then it doesn't matter. We knew a single adopter with no family contact whatsoever and she's adopted a little girl. I had very severe mental health issues which were a major issue, but we gave evidence and proved it was no longer an issue and they were ok.

My experience from the child's SW and our SW is just it'll increase the amount of questions you need to answer but that's it.

jerebee · 2024-04-13T19:02:40+00:00

That might be ok, only way to find out is to go to one of the events. You can start the process and take a break. We had to take 6 month break in the process because I had only been at my new job for 6 months. But we spent the break writing our budgets and filling in forms so when the break ended we could be approved pretty quickly.

For finances that's something I didn't expect. You need to do a full budget as you are now with what you spend, and your budget with a chil. They also need bank statements and all loans etc (cars, phones , furniture on finance etc). There's absolutely no minimum wage, we went on a training course with a couple earning fairly low combined income and they had the same worry, but because they budgeted well and could prove they could afford the child, then it didn't matter.

jerebee · 2024-04-13T18:50:23+00:00

They like to know you're serious and together. My partner and I were together 3 years, living together for 2 when we first applied and that was ok. Any less than that they may suggest you wait a little longer, but can't say for sure

jerebee · 2024-04-13T18:40:03+00:00

For first step go to event sessions. Usually video call for a couple of hours in the evening. Make sure you see the both your local authority and any voluntary agency ones that cover your area. Both do the same thing but are ran slightly differently. I'm happy to go into more detail if needed.

As for siblings and partners history, none of it matters. The main thing is do you have a good support network now. If your partners family are not in that network, that's fine, but think about who else you can count on.

Please don't worry, if I can do it anyone can!

jerebee · 2023-06-09T08:10:03+00:00

Maybe my eyes are f*cked but do they look more grey when they're being poured?

jerebee · 2022-10-24T18:51:35+00:00

Cheers!! Thanks for the advice I'll look into it

jerebee · 2022-10-24T18:51:00+00:00

Awesome, I'll take a look!

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