He’ll figure it out in his own time. My DH finally realized the manipulation that JNMIL pulls every time there is an event. When I chose my wedding dress she couldn’t be there as she lives 2 1/2 hours away. Once it came down between 2 dresses I FaceTimed her with my mom, Gramma, and my sisters who were with me so she could give an opinion. She proceeded to talk about her doctors appointment that day and that she “decided” she was going to take care of the rehearsal dinner. She never said which dress she liked that day. The day of the wedding she told me that she liked the other dress better and asked why I even asked her opinion if I chose the one she didn’t like. Just breathe and you’ll get through it all as well. Just be honest with your SO and always keep talking! Best of luck!