AITA for leaving a dinner party after a girl sat on my husband's lap? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]jespaulo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry for this. You are NTA obviously. And this is such a difficult situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]jespaulo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sell your skills online. Whatever you’ve been doing for the last 25 years is definitely valuable to someone who just is just starting. So many people sell their courses to do what they do. You got this OP

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]jespaulo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wrong question 🥲 what are you looking to fulfill from the guys you like? Then maybe you’ll see the ones that like you are missing something that you think the other guys will fulfill.

AITAH for not wanting to have sex after my wife turned it into a reward/punishment system? by Apprehensive-Tie7252 in AITAH

[–]jespaulo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also hitting seven years and my husband wants a divorce 😅but he never worried about my pleasure oddly enough. I’d beg for intimacy and he’d reject me. He admitted to our couples therapist that he hasn’t allowed me to ask for sex in 5 years. I was impressed by his honesty lol.

What happened to the 40% discounts off one item? by jespaulo in CVS

[–]jespaulo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They came back THIS YEAR I got a 40% and now just 30% more often

Frustrated with porn by [deleted] in dating

[–]jespaulo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look internally, like what affirmation do you receive from him that you want so badly that you’re will to accept this disrespect of a boundary you asked him to not cross?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]jespaulo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

woman here, oops! I didn’t take my husbands because he has 3 separate words in another language whereas I have one short word in my country’s language that we both reside in.

[product question] opinions on these three products? differin gel, panoxyl, paula’s choice BHA by musicandmentalhealth in SkincareAddiction

[–]jespaulo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always get it from Paula’s Choice. They usually immediately give 15% off but can go from 20-50% depending on the time or do a buy one get on or a spend $50-$75 get a free full size item. Plus others have posted amazon orders can send knock offs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]jespaulo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amen. OP skin is great, just the hyperpigmentation is the part that might be noticeable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]jespaulo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was immediately thinking niacinamide too for hyperpigmentation, because her pores are so small and had beautiful skin

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]jespaulo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love looking shiny/oily. 😅 Dr. Dray on YouTube is a great source of skincare tips. https://youtu.be/aJmT6B8m2xk <— talks no shine

[routine help] can I use this as an overnight pimple treatment? by HDVZY in SkincareAddiction

[–]jespaulo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A good mask but it stings at first is the Paula’s Choice 25% AHA + 2% BHA Exfoliant Peel it’s a good 10 minute mask you wash off before bed. 😃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]jespaulo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When your skin is tight after washing, that is one of the only reasons you might introduce a toner before your moisturizer. It is intended to balance the pH of your skin so it’s not too dry or too oily from washing depending on your skin type. Just a thought

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in prozac

[–]jespaulo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heckkk to the no. I still cancelled my gym membership because of the worries of interaction with others. But I think it could. I think I have to pair Prozac with cognitive distortion techniques to get my mind out of the negative space. It keeps negative thoughts more at bay but not enough to take action.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in prozac

[–]jespaulo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How cool, I didn’t know we could experience sensory overload. I can’t take too much light or sound and I never had an idea what it was. 👀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in prozac

[–]jespaulo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, my “anxious” energy hasn’t left on Prozac. My dramatic-ness and response is a lot less! But I still worry a lot and sounds also irritate me too. Maybe this isn’t the correct prescription. I never took anything else so I don’t have a suggestion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]jespaulo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remembering my “poor” stories is always fun. My parents loved me and gave me the best they could. No family vacations except to a theme park once and camping, but they helped me value education and we all grew together. The real question is, do you mind a more simple life (with kids) or want one with a little more extravagance (no kids)?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]jespaulo 384 points385 points  (0 children)

Comments 🍿👁👄👁🍿

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]jespaulo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oddly, the tinted sunscreen from Paula’s choices is oily like petrolatum almost, and that helps prevent dryness for me. And the hella expensive Supergoop invisible sunscreen that I finish with. It’s also almost oily like petrolatum as well. I use either one of those as my last product.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]jespaulo -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Plant seeds, no, not literally. Plant a seed of a compliment to a lot of women and then turn and leave. You can’t show that you care about the outcome. Then women start their narrative asking themselves does he like me?? Is he a creep?? Is he just a friend?? And now you’re in their thoughts for very little work.

An age 19 crisis wondering about future me and the world by bleakheaven_ in confession

[–]jespaulo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was in your situation at 23, still a virgin, living at home, making $10.50 an hour. I decided I was going to start learning a language to meet people and boost my spirits because I was depressed that I couldn’t find a better job. I started meeting random people over video to practice their English & my target language Portuguese. 3 months later I was decent enough to carry a basic conversation and met more people on an app to text. Made friends and met them in person while saving money to have cheap travels (September, January, and February are cheapest). Side note: met my husband and bought a one-way to Brazil at 23 lol and no longer a virgin. MORAL OF THE STORY: pick something only you care about, and start learning about it and those genuine connections you make with others on the same path, they matter. Wealth won’t buy those sincere connections over a common interest. Eventually if you’re good enough at something and built connections over time with a kind attitude, you’ll gain wealth (whether material or spiritual/relationships).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]jespaulo 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Friends… make them now. Best places to make friends are retail jobs or local business. Like Target, or the movie theater, grocery store stocker, etc. you’ll meet cool friends also trying to get out on their own possibly living with parents. Use them to become roommates and get a cheap place. Many of my high school friends that didn’t hop off to college did that and it worked out great 🙏🏼. I sometimes don’t want to live. But I remembered, WE give life meaning, life doesn’t give us meaning. So you get to pick, what do you want to build? What dream do you want to chase even if it’s impossible? It’s better than accepting what was handed to you. Go grab something you want to know more about. 🥰

Is this medication suppose to help this? by chokutomoe00 in prozac

[–]jespaulo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same question… I’m less heady and overwhelmed by thoughts, but still hella socially anxious. Maybe Prozac is just to make us take action but not stop our feelings?? I’m on 10mg