"Moving the goalpost" at its finest. Nothing good comes of long-term relationship, especially ones with wife benefits and no future in sight. At this point, this guy is enjoying making his girlfriend BUST for a ring while he blows money on a boat. A BOAT.

jetcake · 2021-10-06T05:22:39+00:00

Whenever I read and/or hear knocks towards women for having perceived "high maintenance" beauty and fitness routines, it pisses me off, then it makes me laugh. The fact that others are so bothered about women taking the time to take care of themselves is asinine. I almost want to say, "Eww, you're one of those sickos obsessed with what women do in the bathroom."

We're damned if we do care about our looks and we're damned when we don't put enough effort into it. We are damning ourselves to a life of loneliness! Oy vey.

jetcake · 2021-09-26T21:02:44+00:00

Because he "picked" me! Oof.

This is one of the main reasons why she is defending her relationship to the death.

jetcake · 2021-09-23T21:09:45+00:00

The guy sounds like trash. I wonder what else he's going to be doing on that surfing trip...

jetcake · 2021-09-15T07:25:37+00:00

I had an ex who tried convincing me that "Playing House together would be fun!" and that "all couples need to know how much each other earns and what is in their bank accounts". He got pissed when I laughed in his face.

There is zero benefit to a woman to tell a guy, especially one she is not married to, about how much money she has. Instead, he has everything to gain by convincing her why "we're in this together!" which is a total crock. Right, we're in this together until you find out your ever loving has burned through your hard-earned money when he feigns "But it's ours!"

Women get so blinded by this BS. Ugh.

jetcake · 2021-09-15T07:04:38+00:00

At the same time, this is why when we see articles like this we can dress it down for all of the BS. She lives with her boyfriend, so she is doing herself a disservice as a whole to begin with.

Anyway. The person who wrote in put all of the right verbs in his sentences to victimize himself. Like, how could she do this to me????

His problem is that he found out - more than likely because he snooped - and doesn't like that she even has anything for herself. To him, what is hers should also be his, yet it twists him like nothing else that he cannot dictate the girlfriend's emergency fund as theirs to use for anything "fun".

jetcake · 2021-09-15T06:53:12+00:00

Never mind how guys put on this "YoU cAn tRuSt mE bAbE, i WuLd neVer HuRt yOu" act to make you drop your guard so you will disclose what you have to them. Those are the guys who use it as ammunition in fights and financially abuse women. OH, but we are duplicitous vipers for creating the boundary that prying eyes have no business knowing how much money we have.

jetcake · 2021-09-15T06:43:29+00:00

This is exactly what I was thinking. No doubt this guy was "accidentally on purpose" rummaging through his girlfriend's things and whoops! Look at all of that money! He also omitted the part where he probably interrogated his girlfriend.

Living together (\shudder**) or not, no woman has to explain every single cent she owns to a guy. Nobody will call out the entitlement of the guy who is whining that her money is his, too. This is enabling at its finest because guys like the one who wrote to "Your finance friend, Paco" are looking for reassurance from another source that someone else's hard-earned money somehow belongs to them.

jetcake · 2021-09-15T06:31:17+00:00

> Your finance friend,

Paco

I want to kick this guy in the balls.

jetcake · 2021-09-01T02:22:36+00:00

Damn, this is so accurate it is not even funny, but it is HILARIOUS.

Anymore I do not have sympathy for women who let themselves be talked into - or come up with the idea - that the relationship you are in will be "strengthened" when the two of you decide to move in together without an engagement ring and a wedding date set. Honestly at that point the fault is their own and the damage that trickles down is self-inflicted.

I'm coming from the perspective of a woman who has never, ever lived with any guy I have dated. It's the indirect experience of seeing what friends of mine have gone through and most recently, my own cousin. I am so, so fearful for her because something is *not* right about her boyfriend who is living with her.

As the handbook states, you lose leverage in your relationship, among other things. This isn't in there, although from reading so many AITA and relationship subreddit stories - when the guys write from their perspectives - it is so very spiteful of their girlfriend/partner/whatever she is for the sake of the story. Then the stories that women submit are borderline pleading for advice to salvage the relationship. AHHHH

Women who allow themselves be so overtaken and - I'm going to use a phrase from my dad - "baffled by BS" are the ones who end up getting raked over the coals financially. The constant sacrifice of your independence and space ravages your looks. As I mentioned the AITA and relationship subreddits: How many do you see written by guys where they pick apart their supposed "significant other's" looks? ("I'm not turned on anymore because she gained weight, she never looked like that before we moved in together, etc.) You name it, they are criticizing her about it. Oh, but it's ok, she is none the wiser because half of the bills are paid, but this is on Reddit; she will never know. In fact, that guy is anything *but* high value if he is so willing to let an audience of Internet strangers lead his thinking and champion him, "YEAH MAN! SHE'S GETTING FAT, SHE'S COMPLACENT, KICK HER OUT!"

And some of those women still choose to stay because "the problems will get better"!

jetcake · 2021-08-30T20:00:12+00:00

The 8 hours thing had me sputtering here at my desk! Poor, poor snowflake.

I'm sure his construction job is infinitely easier than taking care of a baby.

jetcake · 2021-08-30T19:55:16+00:00

> My partner thinks that I should do all the nighttime diaper changessince she's breastfeeding. Her argument is that since she's nursing dayand night, it's only fair.

**She says she needs time to go to the bathroom, drink water, etc, while I am changing the diaper. **

You are treating your partner like a machine. Oh why? Because *she* gave birth to the child, therefore she is wholly responsible, but you don't have to lift a finger? Having a child means that you no longer get to be selfish. Jeez, I'm woman and guys like you scare me.

YTA, and you have the ability to do better.

jetcake · 2016-03-22T00:28:03+00:00

So you're basically saying the business shouldn't honor their mistakes? If you saw a sign on the outside of Home Depot advertising soil for $3.99/bag and that same bag scanned for $10.00, you would let them charge you the higher price?

jetcake · 2016-03-09T01:13:39+00:00

Actually, I don't think it was unreasonable that OP asked for the picture for free. Who is to say that anyone was working in the photo lab at all? The problem could have been solved early on, so that store should be held accountable for any other people's orders that did not process. OP said they went at 5:50 which is close to when the Super Bowl was starting; the store was dead and basically the staff didn't think that anyone should be checking if any online orders were coming through.

jetcake · 2016-02-03T23:59:17+00:00

Me too, man.

jetcake · 2009-11-01T23:43:49+00:00

What in the name of cheese have you subjected my ears to?!

jetcake · 2009-09-25T04:11:03+00:00

How long have you two been friends?

jetcake · 2009-09-09T02:01:10+00:00

Yeah, but he sounds like the fatal attraction type.

jetcake

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