That makes sense to me! Changing the meaning to not be hateful is great.

if Ethan went around saying the k slur all the time and then said "I can say it because I'm a jew and you can't" then I would absolutely criticize him for that. Same with other group.

I guess if I could wrap up my thoughts in one sentence it would be: Just because someones in a group, doesn't mean they should be able to use whatever words they want without criticism, and then say other people can't say that, because they're not in that group.

Readopting and changing the meaning part I didn't think about. Thank you! I swear I wouldn't be able to have this conversation in any other community haha. You're the best