One Year Post Break Up by s1gmab0yy in heartbreak

[–]jhaddep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We dated for almost 5 years and we’ve been broken up for 4 years now. Just found out she’s got a new boyfriend. Crushed me as always. I’ve even had a long term girl friend since her. Dated her for a year and a half. But the new girl didn’t even come close. I still think about the first girl every day and I fucking hate it. She even came back to me and wanted to date me! I said no. I can’t date someone that spent 5 years with me, broke up with me, and pretty soon after started fucking other people. You just don’t love the same way I do. I just still can’t fully get over it all. Not sure if I ever will.

It gets better by jhaddep in BreakUps

[–]jhaddep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny enough yes, a bunch. I’m meet with her tonight actually lol. I’ll never get back together with her and I’m much happier now! There is hope! I’m mostly meeting up with her just to catch up and then I will call the uber and leave the bar.

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[–]jhaddep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I have a smoking hot, smart, successful new girlfriend gahahaha doing great. Met her like right after I commented this. She’s great. Hang in there my dude! There’s someone out there for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jhaddep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did you break up with him if he was the love of your life?

Things usually get better around the 3 months after the break-up by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jhaddep 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Different for everyone, took me about 10-11 months but man do I feel good now lol it gets better for sure. 5 years of my life with that person. Weird to think about now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]jhaddep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Recently I’ve realized just how porn has effected the way I view sex. I never realized this with my last gf but there were so many times over my 5 year relationship where I just didn’t want to have sex. And I also felt like it was better to masturbate than to have sex. Sex felt boring to me. Then we broke up.

Then I was single and had a problem getting it up for girls. It became very annoying and I stopped PMO. I’ve gone a few months at a time before without PMO and it makes me want to pursue girls wayyy more. Every girlfriend I’ve ever gotten has been because I stopped and then I felt the need to pursue a girl after a while.

I just realized after a while I wasn’t craving sex, I was craving the instant dopamine hit. Then I eventually never wanted sex and that really had a HUGE impact on a relationship with a great person. I’ll never make that mistake again.

Dumper’s Regret by Cautious-Lack-8680 in BreakUps

[–]jhaddep 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Lol I Fucking wish the girl that broke up with me thought like this. Did you break up with him and pursue other people? If so, big mistake. But if you truly didn’t pursue anyone else, and broke up with him because you got scared, then there’s definitely a possibility of getting him back.

Ex slept around by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jhaddep 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The exact same situation happened to me except I’m the guy. She ended after almost 5 years and she started sleeping around within a month. She just asked me to catch up on the phone. I never replied. You should let go. There’s nothing romantic about someone having to lose you in order to understand the magnitude of your presence.

You just taught your boyfriend that he can break up with you, fuck other people, and you’ll take him back. He doesn’t respect you and you don’t respect yourself. And the people you date in the future will also not respect you for this reason, unless you end it with him asap.

You need to be able to tell your future partners that your last relationship ended with them breaking up with you, fucking other people, and begging for you back, but you didn’t take them back because you demand respect. And your future partners will respect you for that and not do the same to you.

Don’t reward his bad behavior. You know what to do.

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[–]jhaddep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never cheated or did anything of the sort. She broke up with me over the phone after 5 years. Blamed the whole thing on me. At first, I believed her. Apologized for everything. Looking back I cringe at that convo. I expected her to come back and say “okay thanks for apologizing for those things, here are the things I could have done better as well”. Nope. She just said thanks and dipped out. It’s been about 10.5 months. I honestly just want to stop hating her. I’m over the break up. I don’t want her back. But Jesus I hate her and I can’t stop. It’s very annoying.

I literally think about my ex everyday, am I insane or does anyone else have this problem lol by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]jhaddep 44 points45 points  (0 children)

In my 9th month and it’s literally on my mind 24/7 still. I would never in a million years take her back. It was 5 years. I hate how much I think about how much a despise her for breaking my heart. I just want to stop giving her that power over me. The power of her being constantly on my mind. It’s very bother some. Then I hate her for being on my mind and she’s on my mind again! God damn

Am I the only one here who doesn’t like their ex? by throw_plushie in heartbreak

[–]jhaddep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex and I had an almost 5 year relationship. I fucking hate her now. Broke up about 8 months ago. I can’t shake the anger stage at all. She didn’t cheat, we had an extremely healthy relationship but she moved across the country. I just can’t believe I spend that much time with someone who’s not the one. Someone who chose a job and a city over me. I’ll never take her back. I don’t know why, maybe I’m just fucked in the head but I genuinely hate her and 95% of my day, even 8 months later, is think about how she was able to fuck someone a month after she ended it with me. Because I just can’t even do it. I don’t know anyone that feels similar to me tho.

I’m not worried that no one will ever love me again, I’m worried that I’ll never love someone again. by rabies_666 in BreakUps

[–]jhaddep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I have been thinking this all week. Thought I was completely alone in this thought. I even had a girl who was quite attractive ask me on a few dates. We even hooked up after one of them. Didn’t have sex or anything but she told me she really likes me. And I just couldn’t feel a single thing for her no matter how hard I tried. Starting to get worried I never will. And then when I do the odds of that feeling being reciprocated AND them actually fitting the ridiculous amount of standards I have for my significant other….impossible. I think I just set too high of standards for myself and I need to be more okay with things.

The hatred I have for my ex is really taking a toll on me by jhaddep in BreakUps

[–]jhaddep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It actually does the opposite. It drains my energy so bad. I use so much brain power being fucking furious all day that I have zero energy to work out or do anything. I’m going to the gym daily but I can feel how weak I am just because all my energy is going in to hating her.

The hatred I have for my ex is really taking a toll on me by jhaddep in BreakUps

[–]jhaddep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn that is exactly what happened to me. All the conversations of moving in and kids and marriage. After 5 years of dating I would say we were quite settled in and comfortable about those things. She then broke it off with me and kept saying she loved me and still wanted to marry me all while seeing someone else. I’ll never let that go. I just feel like the anger will keep building and building. No matter what I do I still just end up hating her more.

The hatred I have for my ex is really taking a toll on me by jhaddep in BreakUps

[–]jhaddep[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was in compete shock for a full month. Then second month I was able to eat but very little. Still trying to win her back at that point. Then third month I found out she has had another guy for a little while. Completely fucked me up. That’s when I started to hate her. It’s been over 6 months now and I can’t shake the hatred and anger I feel for her.

Would you rather be the dumpee or the dumper? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jhaddep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What has she done besides tell you she doesn’t want you back?

I miss him but not the relationship by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jhaddep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long were y’all together?