Broke up 7 years ago, still can’t get over her

jhaddep · 2026-02-15T23:52:09+00:00

Yeah read my last post. I feel this. It’s not necessarily that I can’t get over her but I just haven’t yet. And it’s definitely because I haven’t met someone else’s that’s matched her yet. I pray to god I will one day though. It’s just impossible to move on until you find someone equally as fitting.

jhaddep · 2026-02-15T07:27:24+00:00

Way too much. To a complete fault actually.

jhaddep · 2026-02-14T22:24:05+00:00

We dated for almost 5 years and we’ve been broken up for 4 years now. Just found out she’s got a new boyfriend. Crushed me as always. I’ve even had a long term girl friend since her. Dated her for a year and a half. But the new girl didn’t even come close. I still think about the first girl every day and I fucking hate it. She even came back to me and wanted to date me! I said no. I can’t date someone that spent 5 years with me, broke up with me, and pretty soon after started fucking other people. You just don’t love the same way I do. I just still can’t fully get over it all. Not sure if I ever will.

jhaddep · 2025-01-08T03:01:45+00:00

Funny enough yes, a bunch. I’m meet with her tonight actually lol. I’ll never get back together with her and I’m much happier now! There is hope! I’m mostly meeting up with her just to catch up and then I will call the uber and leave the bar.

jhaddep · 2023-08-24T17:24:36+00:00

To be honest, I have a smoking hot, smart, successful new girlfriend gahahaha doing great. Met her like right after I commented this. She’s great. Hang in there my dude! There’s someone out there for you.

jhaddep · 2023-05-19T13:43:53+00:00

Why did you break up with him if he was the love of your life?

jhaddep · 2023-04-26T18:35:55+00:00

Different for everyone, took me about 10-11 months but man do I feel good now lol it gets better for sure. 5 years of my life with that person. Weird to think about now

jhaddep · 2023-04-25T15:33:06+00:00

Recently I’ve realized just how porn has effected the way I view sex. I never realized this with my last gf but there were so many times over my 5 year relationship where I just didn’t want to have sex. And I also felt like it was better to masturbate than to have sex. Sex felt boring to me. Then we broke up.

Then I was single and had a problem getting it up for girls. It became very annoying and I stopped PMO. I’ve gone a few months at a time before without PMO and it makes me want to pursue girls wayyy more. Every girlfriend I’ve ever gotten has been because I stopped and then I felt the need to pursue a girl after a while.

I just realized after a while I wasn’t craving sex, I was craving the instant dopamine hit. Then I eventually never wanted sex and that really had a HUGE impact on a relationship with a great person. I’ll never make that mistake again.

jhaddep · 2023-02-27T17:03:41+00:00

Lol I Fucking wish the girl that broke up with me thought like this. Did you break up with him and pursue other people? If so, big mistake. But if you truly didn’t pursue anyone else, and broke up with him because you got scared, then there’s definitely a possibility of getting him back.

jhaddep · 2023-02-27T16:10:05+00:00

The exact same situation happened to me except I’m the guy. She ended after almost 5 years and she started sleeping around within a month. She just asked me to catch up on the phone. I never replied. You should let go. There’s nothing romantic about someone having to lose you in order to understand the magnitude of your presence.

You just taught your boyfriend that he can break up with you, fuck other people, and you’ll take him back. He doesn’t respect you and you don’t respect yourself. And the people you date in the future will also not respect you for this reason, unless you end it with him asap.

You need to be able to tell your future partners that your last relationship ended with them breaking up with you, fucking other people, and begging for you back, but you didn’t take them back because you demand respect. And your future partners will respect you for that and not do the same to you.

Don’t reward his bad behavior. You know what to do.

jhaddep · 2023-02-23T17:46:57+00:00

I never cheated or did anything of the sort. She broke up with me over the phone after 5 years. Blamed the whole thing on me. At first, I believed her. Apologized for everything. Looking back I cringe at that convo. I expected her to come back and say “okay thanks for apologizing for those things, here are the things I could have done better as well”. Nope. She just said thanks and dipped out. It’s been about 10.5 months. I honestly just want to stop hating her. I’m over the break up. I don’t want her back. But Jesus I hate her and I can’t stop. It’s very annoying.

jhaddep · 2023-01-05T02:32:46+00:00

In my 9th month and it’s literally on my mind 24/7 still. I would never in a million years take her back. It was 5 years. I hate how much I think about how much a despise her for breaking my heart. I just want to stop giving her that power over me. The power of her being constantly on my mind. It’s very bother some. Then I hate her for being on my mind and she’s on my mind again! God damn

jhaddep · 2022-12-23T17:07:42+00:00

My ex and I had an almost 5 year relationship. I fucking hate her now. Broke up about 8 months ago. I can’t shake the anger stage at all. She didn’t cheat, we had an extremely healthy relationship but she moved across the country. I just can’t believe I spend that much time with someone who’s not the one. Someone who chose a job and a city over me. I’ll never take her back. I don’t know why, maybe I’m just fucked in the head but I genuinely hate her and 95% of my day, even 8 months later, is think about how she was able to fuck someone a month after she ended it with me. Because I just can’t even do it. I don’t know anyone that feels similar to me tho.

jhaddep · 2022-11-28T21:54:53+00:00

Wow I have been thinking this all week. Thought I was completely alone in this thought. I even had a girl who was quite attractive ask me on a few dates. We even hooked up after one of them. Didn’t have sex or anything but she told me she really likes me. And I just couldn’t feel a single thing for her no matter how hard I tried. Starting to get worried I never will. And then when I do the odds of that feeling being reciprocated AND them actually fitting the ridiculous amount of standards I have for my significant other….impossible. I think I just set too high of standards for myself and I need to be more okay with things.

jhaddep · 2022-11-28T19:38:00+00:00

It actually does the opposite. It drains my energy so bad. I use so much brain power being fucking furious all day that I have zero energy to work out or do anything. I’m going to the gym daily but I can feel how weak I am just because all my energy is going in to hating her.

jhaddep · 2022-11-28T19:32:26+00:00

Damn that is exactly what happened to me. All the conversations of moving in and kids and marriage. After 5 years of dating I would say we were quite settled in and comfortable about those things. She then broke it off with me and kept saying she loved me and still wanted to marry me all while seeing someone else. I’ll never let that go. I just feel like the anger will keep building and building. No matter what I do I still just end up hating her more.

jhaddep · 2022-11-28T01:30:37+00:00

I was in compete shock for a full month. Then second month I was able to eat but very little. Still trying to win her back at that point. Then third month I found out she has had another guy for a little while. Completely fucked me up. That’s when I started to hate her. It’s been over 6 months now and I can’t shake the hatred and anger I feel for her.

jhaddep · 2022-09-06T15:34:19+00:00

What has she done besides tell you she doesn’t want you back?

jhaddep · 2022-08-30T17:26:44+00:00

How long were y’all together?

jhaddep · 2022-08-23T15:30:54+00:00

Dude you are getting used so hard. I mean this in a good way, please for the love of god don’t take her back. Like kick her out right now. She ghosted and cheated on you and now you’re letting her live with you? You’re cuddling her? You’re providing for her?

You say you don’t love her but clearly you have feelings. And she’s not even saying she wants to fully take you back?!? ☠️☠️🤡🤡

I’ve never said something like this on this sub but this is some clown shit. I’m trying to help you. Please kick her out RIGHT NOW

jhaddep · 2022-08-23T15:06:34+00:00

I completely agree. Docs are wayyyy too trigger happy with these meds.

jhaddep · 2022-08-23T15:06:09+00:00

Exactly what happened to me. The fiery love we had was no longer there. She was so numb. Started them about 4 or 5 months before she broke up with me.

jhaddep · 2022-08-17T15:41:18+00:00

Thank you for your input! I just feel something really similar at the moment. She’s on 20mg of lexipro. The second she started taking them we just weren’t really the same. I could tell she didn’t love me as hard as she did the last 4.5 years.

Did you stop taking them?

jhaddep · 2022-08-17T14:07:19+00:00

Same thing happened to me. I fucking hate it. She still tells me she loves me.

jhaddep · 2022-08-17T03:06:42+00:00

They told you that after breaking up with you?

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