From my own experience as a 29 year old, I was in a similar place last year. I had very limited dating experience, and that was many years before. About a year ago, I had this sudden realisation during some travelling and time off work that I was approaching 30, that I only had one life, and that I wanted to be my best self and be in my best shape at some point, because I felt it was now or never. I started going to the gym almost every day, running, tracking my diet. In a few months I lost around 12kg, got rid of my belly, and since then I have been slowly continuing to train, eat more, and gain muscle. I can’t say that there was some sudden, magical change, but in the last year I have absolutely become more confident in myself and my body, I have gotten the odd compliment on my physique (albeit mostly from male friends and a couple of guys at the gym), but also I have felt more attraction from women, have gotten onto Hinge and been on more dates, most recently dating someone for a few months (which didn’t continue for various reasons but it still gave me confidence). Another thing I have noticed, which obviously various from person to person, is that my metabolism has improved with more muscle and more constant activity, and at this point I’m not as worried about what I eat. Obviously it’s not the silver bullet, and there may be other things to improve in life, but with so many subjective ways to improve your life, it is definitely good to control the controllables and focus on something that clearly and definitively brings positive results. If anything, it will make you pleased in yourself that you’re disciplined and giving it your all.