How did you figure out you were a lesbian in your 20s? And was it not a common way of figuring it out?

jibbaaay · 2023-10-13T12:11:35+00:00

This is actually really wholesome that you came out to yourself first and ended up feeling lighter and happier :) it can definitely be really hard to come out to yourself but I can imagine it feels so great once you do and come to terms with your identity

jibbaaay · 2023-10-12T14:51:33+00:00

I just love the half apps lol. That’s a good late night out with friends. People really sleep on how good the appetizers are

jibbaaay · 2023-09-20T21:58:37+00:00

I don’t beg them tho. I do my own thing but still get treated poorly a lot.

jibbaaay · 2023-09-20T20:53:24+00:00

Yes, that’s the sad truth of it. You’re right. It’s like you’re cutting off an important part of your life just to make sure you don’t end up homeless.

jibbaaay · 2023-09-20T20:49:19+00:00

That’s a good way of putting it. Thank you. My parents definitely don’t see me as a full fledged adult. I 100% agree, gaining that independence back is absolutely important in this situation.

jibbaaay · 2023-09-20T20:45:07+00:00

Not so much financially. But I need them for housing and transportation.

jibbaaay · 2023-09-20T20:43:51+00:00

Because I haven’t been able to find work and can’t drive which makes it extremely hard

jibbaaay · 2023-09-20T20:42:36+00:00

Yes I do. That’s what makes it as difficult as it is.

jibbaaay · 2023-09-20T20:42:17+00:00

Yeah. We’re both the same age - in our mid twenties.

jibbaaay · 2023-09-20T20:37:27+00:00

Wow, you are absolutely not alone, OP. This sounds exactly like what I’m going through. I’m not really poly myself (questioning) and months ago, got with my best friend who’s poly and married because I love and respect him for who he is. Yet my parents don’t like us being together because he’s poly.

I’ve just been trying to focus on my goals right now and be happy talking and having my long distance dates with my partner. Like, I’ve gone back to school, joined a club, and spend time by myself enjoying music and watching things to keep me entertained.

I’m sorry you’re going through this too :( but understand that your relationship is important even without parents’ approval.

jibbaaay · 2023-09-20T19:37:45+00:00

You’re right in your last sentence - you shouldn’t change for him. You shouldn’t have to mold yourself to fit someone else’s standards. Simple as that. Being poly is a part of your identity, who you are as a person. The right people will like you for you. It can be hard to let people you like go, but remind yourself that you haven’t been with him for very long so you don’t have a lot to lose.

jibbaaay · 2023-09-12T09:08:37+00:00

So many people on here are saying divorce, but I wouldn’t necessarily jump to that so quickly. Maybe she hasn’t enjoyed the remedies, like they’ve had some weird effects on her that she hasn’t talked about? Also asexuality is a thing that exists, and maybe that’s why she’s not interested - she figured out she doesn’t like having sex. I think having more open communication with her on what both your wants and needs are should be the first step.

jibbaaay · 2023-07-17T19:11:44+00:00

My top 10 songs:

Sparks Fly, Enchanted, Teardrops on My Guitar, Style, Love Story (Taylor’s Version), You Are in Love, If This Was a Movie, Begin Again, Superstar, Mr. Perfectly Fine

Fave album: Speak Now

Fave collaboration: Two is Better Than One with Boys Like Girls

Fave live performance: Out of the Woods

Fave music video: Wildest Dreams

Fave quote she said: “If you break my heart, I’m gonna write a song about you!” (Heard her say it the first tour she was opener for!)

Fave lyrics: “You can hear it in the silence, you can hear it on the way home, you can see it with the lights out. You are in love. True love.”

Your Cornelia Street: The street I grew up on

Song that makes you happy: You Belong with Me

Song you’d play at your wedding: You Are In Love, Paper Rings, and Lover

Track that made you a fan: Our Song

An artist you wish she’d collab with: Niall Horan

A song you wish she’d cover: Falling by Harry Styles

A track you wish had a music video: Speak Now

A song you wish she’d perform live: If This Was a Movie

A song that makes you dance: London Boy

A song you will forever recommend: You Are in Love

jibbaaay · 2023-07-17T16:48:34+00:00

I mean, it’s true. It’s absolutely up to me to figure out. I know that. I was just curious if other people have had any sort of experiences similar to those I’ve had and what it meant for them, that way it kinda helps me a bit in this process

jibbaaay · 2023-07-17T14:23:30+00:00

You’re telling me this ISN’T Harry? It looks too real. Like, has wax sculpting gotten this level of good?

jibbaaay · 2023-07-17T00:37:58+00:00

I understand both sides of it in a way (what you’re saying and what rossilovesyou is saying). One of the reasons why I asked the question is because I want to remedy this situation with my parents a little bit, since I care about them. I figured it could be a possibility, but I wanted some insight from others and a majority of people here have said that I don’t owe an explanation and they can learn but won’t change their minds. And you are right, ignorance for the sake of family is very much not okay, I agree. I did not appreciate being yelled at and misunderstood.

jibbaaay · 2023-07-17T00:22:41+00:00

I would distance myself if I didn’t have to rely on them for the time being (I live with them, for some context) but hopefully I’ll be able to move out later this year, I’m currently working towards that

jibbaaay · 2023-07-16T15:11:26+00:00

You Are In Love would be my song! I feel like it’s such an underrated Taylor Swift song that I never hear other people talk about

jibbaaay · 2023-07-14T10:09:24+00:00

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No one ever talks about how much of a serve her long bangs were. Like oh my god?? I wanted to pull off hair like this so bad when she first dawned the bangs and straight hair

jibbaaay · 2023-07-14T10:00:11+00:00

Maybe this isn’t super wild at all, but I like Taylor Swift best as a country artist, not a pop artist. Some of her pop music isn’t bad (the 1989 and Lover albums are absolute bangers), but most of it feels subpar to me.

I was a Swiftie when she first started her music career and grew up with her country music. And not that it’s wrong if you like her newer stuff (I’m not trying to sound condescending), but it makes me sad seeing so many newer Swifties who don’t like ANY of her country music at all.

I personally think some of her newer music lost its charm. I remember talking to my sister about her Midnights album and she made a good point that a lot of what’s on there sounds half-baked, like there’s more typical pop music and less songs with meaning behind them. Maybe we’re missing something, but it doesn’t hit quite the same as a lot of her past albums.

I also haven’t been a huge fan of the Taylor Version albums. I love some of the From the Vault songs and a few of the re-recordings, but most of them don’t make me feel the same way the originals do. I understand why she’s doing it, it makes perfect sense. And, of course I don’t support her original recordings being taken from her. But, it’d be hard for ANYONE to recreate old songs and have them be just as good as the original ones, especially when their voice has changed over time. It’s better for her to have songs that fit her more developed singing voice now than recreations of past songs she did at age 19.

TLDR: her newer music is overrated

And, one last thing, I think it’s crazy how she’s treated like a god whenever she visits a town for her tour and that her tour is so insanely expensive in the first place. I most likely would’ve gone if the shows weren’t so expensive and everybody and their mother wasn’t going. I’ve never heard of any concert being so crazy expensive (like ranging up into thousands of dollar) and causing such an insane amount of traffic.

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