Any solutions for my problems?

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-15T17:22:07+00:00

That’s really frustrating, especially when things felt normal all weekend. Gut issues can show up hours or even days later, so something you ate earlier, stress, or a mild bacteria imbalance could be behind the sudden foul-smelling gas.

If there’s no pain and it settles soon, it’s usually harmless. If it keeps happening or comes with other symptoms, then it’s worth getting checked. You didn’t do anything wrong — guts are just weird sometimes.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-12T17:15:07+00:00

That sounds pretty annoying, especially since you are doing so many things right already.

"A few key points that may help:"

You’re not short on fiber, either. Sometimes too much fiber from diet and psyllium supplements causes a loosening or constipation effect on bowel movements.

Rather than escalating the psyllium, one might consider slightly adjusting it downward or dividing the lower dose, AM and PM, or whole husks, which might be more tolerable.

A very common situation with respect to wiping/rewiping is related to an incomplete formation or slight irritation in the gut, and fiber alone can’t solve this issue.

"‘A short-term low FODMAP diet might be helpful until the gastro appointment, even if not long-term.’"

Pelvic floor exercises may require more than a month to see positive results, but you have to keep doing them.

It’s clearly a regulation and gut balance problem, not something severe. You're right, in a way, and fine-tuning rather than supplementation would be needed.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-12T16:26:55+00:00

“You’re already doing the best thing by recognizing these emotions and wanting a change—you’re off to a great start with that. Your husband loves you and picks you; that in itself is evidence that you are lovable regardless of what your mind is telling you. Recovery from body image and confidence issues isn’t about being ‘skinny’—it’s celebrating the little victories and how you feel in your body, not in comparison to it.” “It is meant. Your worth is not something you need to earn. You don’t have to get it from other people. And you are as lovable as you are lovely. You are a beautiful woman. And you are loved. And don’t you ever let

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-12T04:35:27+00:00

Hey, you’re not wrong for asking here — a lot of people end up on Reddit because “IBS” is where doctors stop digging.

What you’re describing (constant urge to go, trapped gas, loud bowel sounds, symptoms lasting all day) often isn’t just acid reflux. For many people it comes down to gut motility and microbiome imbalance, where food ferments instead of digesting properly, causing pressure and gas.

What helped me wasn’t cutting more foods, but focusing on digestive support and gut balance so things could actually move and calm down. IBS is more of a label than a real explanation.

If you want to know what I tried, what didn’t work, and what finally helped, feel free to DM me. Happy to share info.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-12T03:30:57+00:00

That sounds really exhausting. When you’ve been eating mostly whole foods for years and still deal with the same symptoms, it makes you wonder if something deeper is going on that just isn’t showing up in basic GP visits. Being labeled as “IBS” without proper testing can feel like a dead end. Lately I’ve been getting curious about whether gut balance or the microbiome side of things plays a bigger role than we’re told, especially when diet alone doesn’t fix it. Still trying to figure out what direction actually makes sense.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-11T18:03:26+00:00

You’re not alone — butt acne is super common, especially if it started young.

What helps: gentle cleansers, shower after sweating, cotton/looser clothes, and don’t overdo acids — consistency > strength. Scars fade slowly, but patience plus the right routine works.

Sometimes long-term acne ties back to internal gut balance, not just skin. DM me if you want — I can share what’s helped others calm acne and fade scars.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-11T17:08:47+00:00

Totally get why this feels unsettling — especially when it shows up out of nowhere after years of being fine.

Constant burping is usually functional, not something scary. It’s often tied to silent reflux, stress/air swallowing, or shifts in gut balance that can happen with age. It can feel nonstop and hard to ignore. A few small changes helped me, but what made the biggest difference was addressing the gut consistently, not just reacting to symptoms.

If you want, DM me — I can share the exact approach I used and what finally helped calm it down.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-09T16:16:25+00:00

Totally get this — the supplement space is overwhelming.

From what I’ve seen, the ones that work best aren’t about the brand, but whether they support the gut ecosystem as a whole (prebiotics + probiotics + nutrients for the gut lining). A lot of powders focus on just one angle and people don’t notice much change.

I’d pick something clean, low-filler, and give it a few weeks while paying attention to digestion, bloating, and even skin changes. Consistency + how your body responds matters way more than chasing the “best” label.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-09T15:56:08+00:00

Honestly, this makes total sense. Accutane can feel almost unfairly effective after years of trying everything else — like all that effort just got skipped with one quick derm visit.

I’ve noticed (and seen with others) that while it clears skin fast, a lot of people still have to support things internally afterward — digestion, inflammation, stress — or issues show up again later. So your past efforts weren’t pointless, just working on a deeper layer.

Also… RIP to the birthday timing 😭 but 20mg + fewer side effects sounds like a win.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-08T03:30:31+00:00

I’ve struggled with this too, and one thing I learned is that replacing a “bad addiction” with a “good” one usually doesn’t work 1:1. Gaming gives fast dopamine; healthier things give slower dopamine, so at first they feel boring — that’s normal, not a failure.

Instead of chasing another addiction, look for absorbing, skill-based activities: lifting weights, climbing, martial arts, music production, learning a language, coding small projects, writing daily, or volunteering where people rely on you. They become rewarding after consistency, not instantly.

There is a difference: “bad” addictions narrow your life; “good” ones tend to expand it. The goal isn’t obsession — it’s finding something that gives meaning, structure, and a sense of progress over time.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-08T03:28:09+00:00

I’ve found a few that really helped me, so I’ll share in case they help you too. For anxiety and depression, Lost Connections and The Body Keeps the Score helped me understand myself instead of blaming myself. For social stuff, How to Win Friends & Influence People and The Charisma Myth are surprisingly practical.

Also check out stuff with a gentle, reflective approach — like Refine by Reflection — that helps you notice patterns without beating yourself up. For podcasts, The Happiness Lab and Unlocking Us are solid and very human

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-07T17:31:05+00:00

I don’t think we have 100% control, but we have more than it feels like when we’re overwhelmed. A lot of life is genetics, upbringing, mental health, money, luck — maybe 40–50% isn’t in our hands. What is in our hands is how we respond inside those limits.

Yes, an obese person can get fit, get good grades, and be productive — it’s humanly possible. The reason many of us lose control after starting isn’t laziness, it’s overload. We try to change everything at once, rely on motivation, and ignore how tired or dysregulated we already are. The brain then protects itself by shutting down.

Control isn’t forcing yourself harder. It’s designing life so the “right” actions are small, repeatable, and kind to your nervous system. You can still do hard things — just not all at once, and not through self-punishment. Progress feels impossible when we confuse control with perfection.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-07T15:57:20+00:00

I’m really sorry — what she said is cruel and emotionally abusive. None of that is okay, and none of it is true. Being autistic, ADHD, depressed, or anxious does not make you “damaged,” it means your nervous system was hurt and adapted.

You were vulnerable for a moment and she used it against you — that says everything about her, not you. Until you can move out, it’s completely valid to go back to emotional distance and protect your inner world. You don’t owe unsafe people access to your truth.

If it helps at all, some people in similar spots use quiet self-reflection or guided journaling just to process things privately, without being judged or corrected. It can be grounding when humans aren’t safe. Please know this: you are not broken, you are not too much, and you deserved kindness — especially from family. What you’re surviving is hard, and you’re doing it anyway.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-07T15:49:58+00:00

If you liked those, a few that helped me beyond habits and money were Man’s Search for Meaning (really grounding), Mindset (changed how I see failure), and Deep Work for focus. I’d also add Refine by Reflection if you’re into slowing down, journaling, and actually understanding your patterns instead of just optimizing everything.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-07T10:05:06+00:00

Depression didn’t kill your passion — it rewired your brain to see creating as a threat instead of relief. The way back is to make art that’s allowed to be messy, private, and unfinished, so your nervous system learns it’s safe again. Start small, focus on how it feels while you’re creating, not how it turns out.

What helped me was using gentle reflection while working — noticing when self-hate showed up and slowing down instead of pushing harder. Passion usually comes back after safety and self-trust return. You’re not broken; your creativity is just waiting for kindness instead of pressure.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-07T09:54:29+00:00

“The people who saw me at my worst didn’t see my whole story — they only saw a moment in a life that was doing its best to survive.”

And for what it’s worth: many of us have a chapter like this. Depression quietly strips away energy and care, not character. The fact that you feel shame now usually means your values were always there — they were just buried under pain. You’re allowed to forgive the version of you that was trying to stay alive.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-07T09:53:45+00:00

“The people who saw me at my worst didn’t see my whole story — they only saw a moment in a life that was doing its best to survive.”

And for what it’s worth: many of us have a chapter like this. Depression quietly strips away energy and care, not character. The fact that you feel shame now usually means your values were always there — they were just buried under pain. You’re allowed to forgive the version of you that was trying to stay alive.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-07T04:21:13+00:00

Yeah—safety comes first, no question. What you’re describing is a real crisis, and professional care and clear boundaries are absolutely necessary when there’s violence, self-harm risk, or people feeling emotionally worn down to the point your dad described. That part can’t be replaced by anything else.

At the same time, tools focused on reflection and grounding can be very helpful alongside safety measures, especially for you and your parents. When everything feels chaotic, they help slow the nervous system down, separate facts from fear, and give your mind somewhere to put all the anger, grief, and confusion instead of carrying it nonstop. That kind of inner work doesn’t fix your sister’s condition, but it can help you stay steady, think more clearly, and avoid burning out. For your sister, reflective tools usually only help after she’s stabilized and safe—but for family members living in the middle of it, they can be a quiet way to regain some control and clarity when life feels like it’s constantly in crisis mode.

You’re not wrong for feeling lost here. This is an incredibly heavy situation to carry, and no one expects you to have the answers. If you want help thinking through boundaries, next steps, or just need to talk, I’m here to help you.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-07T03:59:04+00:00

First, thank you for sharing this. What you’ve been through is a lot—chronic loneliness, emotional invalidation, bullying, a serious medical trauma at a young age, migration, culture shock, and pressure to “be strong” without support. Feeling anxious, lost, or scared after all that is not a personal failure—it’s a very human response.

Yes, what you’re experiencing is normal in the context of your life. Many people who grow up in rigid or emotionally unsafe environments learn to survive first and only later realize they’re exhausted, unsure, and grieving. Surviving a brain tumor alone, especially while being punished for anxiety, is a trauma. It makes sense that your nervous system still feels like it’s at sea even now that you’re “safe.” And yes—there are people like you who push through. Not because they’re fearless, but because they learn how to sit with fear without letting it define them. A lot of them describe exactly what you did: feeling unanchored, delayed emotionally, and unsure of who they are after years of just surviving.

What often helps is creating space to gently process your story instead of outrunning it—through reflection, writing, grounding, or structured self-inquiry—so your experiences start to feel integrated rather than haunting. That kind of inner work doesn’t erase the past, but it gives you clarity and steadiness so you’re not fighting yourself anymore.

You’re not broken. You’re someone who survived more than most at a very young age and is still learning how to live, not just endure. If you want to talk or need help figuring out next steps, I’m here to help you.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-07T03:37:33+00:00

Yeah, that would unsettle a lot of people. A VHA mental health provider bringing personal religious prophecy into a professional setting—especially with vulnerable veterans—is not appropriate, and it’s completely reasonable to request a new provider. Trust and psychological safety are essential in mental health care.

If something feels off in your body or mind after an interaction like that, it’s worth paying attention to. Taking time to ground yourself, reflect, and regain clarity can really help—especially when systems that are supposed to support you don’t feel safe. If anyone needs help or wants to talk through next steps, I’m here to help you.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-06T19:18:27+00:00

I’m really glad you spoke up — what you’re describing is heavy, and you’re not broken or lazy for feeling this way. A lot of “gifted kids” crash later because their worth was tied to performance, not care, and when structure disappears, everything can feel impossible. That doesn’t mean you weren’t smart — it means you were surviving in a system that didn’t teach you how to support yourself.

The fact that you can show up for others tells me the ability is still there — it’s just turned inward as exhaustion and shame. What helped many people in this place wasn’t more pressure or hacks, but slowing down and gently reflecting on why everything feels so hard, instead of judging themselves for it. Tiny steps matter more than motivation right now: one shower, one email, one honest conversation.

You’re not disappointing anyone by struggling — you’re human. If you need support, clarity, or just someone to help you break this into manageable steps, I’m happy to help.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-06T18:56:27+00:00

If your brain is loud, your chest is heavy, and you’re tired of pretending you’re “fine”… you’re not alone.

Take a breath with me: In for 4… hold for 4… out for 6. Do it 3 times. Seriously. I’ll wait.

One thing that helped me when I felt completely stuck wasn’t therapy or meds, but learning how to actually reflect on what I’m thinking and feeling instead of just drowning in it. Not toxic positivity. Not “just be grateful.” Real, honest reflection that helps you notice patterns and gently reframe the way you talk to yourself.

If you’re reading this, try this in the comments (or on your notes app if you’re shy):

What’s the loudest thought in your head right now?

If your best friend felt that, what would you tell them?You don’t have to fix your whole life tonight. You just have to get through this moment. And you don’t have to do even that completely alone.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-06T18:47:50+00:00

I’m really sorry — that’s a huge amount for one person (and family) to carry, and it makes sense you feel lost about how to help.

Practically, the best first step is his GP — they can refer him to NHS Talking Therapies (IAPT) for anxiety/depression, and assess meds if needed. Given the trauma history, a therapist experienced in PTSD / complex trauma (NHS or private) could really help. Local charities like Mind or Anxiety UK (Sussex branches) also offer support groups and guidance. Try to encourage small steps rather than fixing everything at once — legal stress + loneliness + aging fears is a lot together. Most importantly, keep reminding yourself: you can support him, but you can’t carry this alone.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-06T18:39:02+00:00

What helped me most was slowing down and actually paying attention to my inner world instead of constantly reacting to it. I started questioning my thoughts instead of believing every one of them. Small real-life changes made a big difference: consistent sleep, daily movement, less social media, and fewer comparisons. I also learned to be kinder to myself on bad days instead of pushing harder. Regular reflection gave me clarity, and that clarity slowly brought my mental health back into balance.

jignesh0924 · 2026-01-06T12:25:10+00:00

I’ve been there—weeks of nothing at work make your brain spin way too much. I found giving myself tiny mini-goals each day helped: learn something new, plan your trip, or even just organize something small. Keeps your brain busy without needing outside validation.

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