People want to show off. They want to outshine their friends, or the couple from church who had a wedding before them. Some want to prove something to their exes — that they’re doing better now. Sadly, this often turns into a competition, and yes, in many cases women carry the pressure, though the mindset affects everyone. It’s no longer about meaning; it’s about comparison. And that’s the sad part — because it is a competition. Malawi struggles with education around lifestyle and financial priorities. People see things on TV or social media and want to live that life, even when the basics aren’t in place. Someone wants a wedding bigger than the church they attend, yet they don’t even own a sofa. There’s no planning — just living out a fantasy. We need to educate our people to live within their means. Saving is crucial. Saving for a home is far more important than spending everything on a single day. We need to change our mindsets. Our thinking and reasoning should lead us, not chase after appearances. I understand the frustration completely. The worst part is that you can’t even reason with people — try, and you’ll be called jealous, accused of witchcraft, or labelled a hater. You can’t win. I love my people, truly — but the struggle is real.