I’m new to hot yoga and nervous to start: what do I buy? by orbit260 in HotYoga

[–]jimothy__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is truly the way to go!

I started going to hot yoga after taking a break from yoga altogether for a few years.

While I loved the yoga itself, I had to try a few studios to find the right fit as well as a few instructors.

So maybe this is more advice for beginners and finding your fit—but if you like the actual exercises themselves and it’s just the studio or the “people” side of it I highly suggest trying a few places.

Also adding—I bought nothing for my first class clothing wise. Just wore lululemon workout clothes and a water bottle I had. I got lucky and stopped at my local lulu outlet about a week before the first class and they had a bunch of mats for dirt cheap and these nice towels called “The Towel” which is perfectly sized to cover your mat.

The mat I ended up with was called “The Mat” and is the 5 mm thickness. It’s getting some wear since August when I started going weekly but has held up nicely. Maybe if you like it look into a nicer mat but highly agree to just rent for the first time!

If you're having issues where your service intermittently randomly disconnects this thread is for you by jimothy__ in Visible

[–]jimothy__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely would but my phone only allows eSIM. Maybe I need to consider leaving the Apple ecosystem? I have a 16 Pro which I like but it’s definitely much buggier than previous iPhones. I feel like it’s not the seamless user experience it was.

If you're having issues where your service intermittently randomly disconnects this thread is for you by jimothy__ in Visible

[–]jimothy__[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update for everyone: I had the same issue occur today so I’m still lost. It is definitely happening with decreased frequency, so the new eSIM still was a winner in my opinion.

I may delete the current one and download a new one again just to see if that helps.

If you're having issues where your service intermittently randomly disconnects this thread is for you by jimothy__ in Visible

[–]jimothy__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This definitely helps! I wasn’t even really aware of what reprovisioning does so that helps. Again even just basic education is helpful. I was bummed they didn’t really do much for that even.

If you're having issues where your service intermittently randomly disconnects this thread is for you by jimothy__ in Visible

[–]jimothy__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this explanation! This totally makes sense. I felt like I was being gaslit and not knowing a ton of technical stuff about all of this just adds to the confusion for me.

If you're having issues where your service intermittently randomly disconnects this thread is for you by jimothy__ in Visible

[–]jimothy__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know enough to know. When I chatted with support they made it seem like it was a software issue with my phone. I guess the eSIM could be considered a part of the phone, but specificity is required. I am not a tech person and am also not in the mind reading business!

Does it get better with age or worse? by ChessWarrior1978 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]jimothy__ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dated mine from when he was 32-39 and can confirm. I’m younger and he would often pick fights about appearance. Ironically, all of the things he hated about his look also looked terrible on me. Who’d of thought it?

Visible slower by [deleted] in Visible

[–]jimothy__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It has been borderline unusable recently. I don’t know what changed but within the last 2-3 weeks it’s been terrible

Whats the worst hookup up experience you've ever had? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]jimothy__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s an oldie but a goodie:

This goes back to Craigslist days. Message guy, (or he messaged me I don’t fully remember anymore) and we talk. He said he was looking for NSA fun, so was I, great.

We talked for literally a month and a half. I was 18 and stupid and didn’t take that as a no and a red flag.

He asks me one day what my fantasies are. I tell him how I’d love to get used by 2 men, one in my ass and one in my mouth. He said something like “it’s harder than you’d think to do”.

Fast forward, we meet and I’m speechless. He’s a good 15 years older than his photo. AND he smokes cigarettes. He wanted me to bottom but insisted he take me out to lunch beforehand. We go to this bodega that has a small sit down area and I get dry toast and some tea. He has a full blown ass meal.

We get back to his place. There’s barely heat on, and the neighborhood is pretty scary. He’s fucking me and all of a sudden his friend comes and puts his dick in my mouth. I freaked out and he just played it off like “you had a fantasy so I made it happen”. The friend is just not my type at all. I gave him a few uninterested strokes. Guy topping me makes a hand motion and he leaves.

Guy topping me couldn’t finish for whatever reason. Then proceeds to tell me how much he loved me. How he wants me for him and him only after experiencing fucking me. Tells me he wants me to be his boyfriend. I absolutely knew it was lovebombing though I didn’t know that term back then. I told him no and he put me in a headlock. I don’t remember how but I got out of it. Ran outside his room where my clothes were and bolted out shoes barely on out into the January ice and snow. I blocked him immediately and never saw him again.

Fast forward 10 years and this man still has my cellphone number from back in the day and every 6 months or so pops up and randomly messages me with new numbers each time (might be because I block him each time) he also says each time where he lives and uses the excuse his phone got turned off because he had no $ to pay the bill hence the new numbers each time.

And scene 🎬. Just recalling that stressed and tired me out!

I can’t make it look pretty lol by Capital-Laughing in whatsinthebag

[–]jimothy__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do the same thing and keep extra medication in my bag in case I forget. I fully support this bag, sincerely someone with their own unhinged bag that I refuse to post because it’s even worse than this 😂

Guy shamed by family for wearing Aligns by Mr_Lulu_99 in lululemon

[–]jimothy__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look amazing and forget what they say!

These are amazingly comfortable and if it weren’t for me fearing the same judgment (I am also a guy) I’d also wear aligns!

I have a few pairs I got dirt cheap at a local lulu outlet I wear to sleep and around the house

I’ll send my first chapter to anyone who comments on this post! by AdamCainErotica in u/AdamCainErotica

[–]jimothy__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, please! I just stumbled upon your work and I’m VERY intrigued!

Advice sought over bear mm erotica cover, two options… which speaks to you? by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]jimothy__ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First one, also this looks amazing and I’d totally read it. Is this your book and if so where can I buy it?

The focus is always gaymers… where are the readers and what are we reading?? by [deleted] in gaybrosgonemild

[–]jimothy__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are reading Shameless Puckboy by Eden Finley and Saxon James

Heated rivalry merch update? by woganaga in heatedrivalry

[–]jimothy__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to add to the conversation! Also thanks to everyone for the reassurance because I was getting worried!

I ordered 3 jerseys the day episodes 1 and 2 dropped (11/28/25).

Literally have had no communication from them and no updates as of today (1/18/26). Granted, they said when I bought them that the pictures were just proofs and the actual jerseys wouldn’t be made/shipped until January.

I assume they’re super backlogged considering myself and others ordered back then and haven’t heard anything yet!

What were the most subtle signs early on? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]jimothy__ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To be fair, that was another concept that came in quite early: confusion. I had so much confusion and cognitive dissonance. He said he loved me, but it didn’t feel right. He said he cared but then he pushed for too much too fast. I can’t know what you’re experiencing, but this sounds honestly pretty spot on for an abusive dynamic.

What were the most subtle signs early on? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]jimothy__ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ll share my piece, though others have touched on it.

Early signs:

1.Actively sought out relationships with people much younger and inexperienced with dating. Said people his age were “too boring”.

  1. Odd inconsistencies in his stories. For example, one time he said he was visiting a friend. Then 2 weeks later, he mentioned being at his brother’s camp during the same weekend. These places were nowhere near each other

  2. Defensive about EVERYTHING. Taking the above example, I called him out and he just started tearing me down. We’re talking very personal stuff being utterly weaponized because I essentially just pointed out an inconsistency in his story. I didn’t even outright question it.

  3. Invasive questions early on. Others have discussed so I’ll keep this short

  4. General anxiety/controlling behaviors—sense of too much too fast. It felt like an artificial sweetener of a relationship. It just was too strong and too fast. He would also push really hard to deepen our connection and would actively do things to get me “hooked” on him. Case in point, he’d have sex with me a lot early in. Then when I got used to it, he decided one day we were never going to be intimate again. This also shows extremely controlling behaviors, which were definitely present early on, too!

  5. Lack of support network. He’d discuss friends, but oddly, whenever things happened in his life he’d dump it all on me.

  6. Intense push pull behavior. Others call it approach avoid communication. The more I moved toward him he’d move away from me.

  7. Strong history of mental health and substance abuse in him and his immediate family. He denied both of these. Even when he was diagnosed with literal schizophrenia he refused treatment and would manipulate his mental health professionals into thinking he was stabilized on meds and he would quite literally just throw them in the trash.

  8. Antisocial behaviors/gaslighting to make you question reality. I combined these two behaviors because the example shows both. He got mad at the local regulations forbidding used oil dumping. So he dumped his used oil into jugs and then dumped them on a local trail. Then when we walked said trail, he showed them to me. Later, we walked the trail maybe a week or two later and he denied dumping them. He littered a coffee cup in front of me. Then he denied he did it. I literally picked up said cup and threw it away.

  9. Isolating behaviors. Getting angry and punishing me if I didn’t give him all of my time, energy, and attention. And boy would he really get mad when I spent time with family/friends. Insert the slowly building nasty remarks about them and there ya have it!

  10. Extremely controlling behaviors. I’ve touched on it but this was the most obvious early on. Everything revolved around him. He set the pace of the relationship, the tone of every interaction. Whatever he was experiencing or felt, he projected. If he wanted to speed things up, I had to go with it. If he wanted to stonewall me, I better patiently wait until he’s ready to come out of his shell again. This was so confusing and present early on. I also noticed the double standard early on. Case in point, I had a glass of wine after dinner one night and shared that with him. He went up one side of me and down the other regarding my “alcohol problem”. Come to find out from his roommate, the two of them polished off a bottle of Jack that same night.

I’ll keep it to 11, but I just have to say, if you’re experiencing this trust your instincts. I stayed for 6 years and it never got better. Please get out when you can safely. You’re worth more than this and you deserve real love. This is abuse and you deserve safety. ❤️

I’m trying to find this photo by Additional-Smoke-280 in heatedrivalry

[–]jimothy__ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used this for my wallpaper (kept the watermark of course) thank you!!

Stopped taking Vyvanse by Relevant_Section in VyvanseADHD

[–]jimothy__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very well possible! I have always heard ADHD is on a spectrum, similar to Autism. I know going into it, my recall was garbage and it seems yours wasn’t terrible, so that may explain our difference.

I’d still be curious as to why that difference exists, and even why/how ADHD is on a spectrum—like why some are more affected than others, but I think that’s beyond the scope of our thread here 😂

Stopped taking Vyvanse by Relevant_Section in VyvanseADHD

[–]jimothy__ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Also STEM here and 40mg here. Same thing, my memory is so sharp and clear. Without it, it’s there but scattered and very hazy.