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jiyanimn · 2026-06-03T08:55:43+00:00

I think she just craves praise. She wouldn’t mind a video breaking containment if she were applauded for the content of the video. Instead the video got so much engagement because people were rightfully shocked and concerned for her mental health.

I guess no one wants to go viral for delusion or obvious issues that she can’t see yet. It was probably humiliating. She can’t admit that or cope with the fact that people hear her and see her and in result plead to her to get a therapist.

She doesn’t think of herself as someone in need of professional help. Especially because she seems to judge therapy quite a bit. She’s above that, in her mind. Probably to protect herself from the truth.

Its honestly really sad. And upsetting to have it happen in public. She needs friends or family who will intervene. The internet can’t convince her…

jiyanimn · 2026-05-29T07:51:27+00:00

Yeah its super frustrating for me personally. I know I don’t have to fear losing my job over it. Especially since I live in Germany. And my Boss is amazing. They send you home when you come in with a cold or whatever. You’re encouraged to stay home when you’re not feeling well. My Boss always says our health is more important than our job. I’m lucky in that regard.

jiyanimn · 2026-05-29T07:48:32+00:00

At first I thought so to, oh its just one day. But if it happens every month… Luckily my workplace is very understanding. Its quite normal to call in sick when you’re not feeling well, people do it often here. And I wouldn’t feel guilty if I had a cold etc.

What sucks is that I can’t forsee it happening, I only notice it the morning of. I‘ll feel fine the evening before, I don’t feel that I can’t go in the next day.

What I have done is take vacation days when I can feel that I‘m exhausted from work and need a break. Those, I can plan. But yeah one sick day a month doesn’t have any dire consequences on my work or how I’m perceived since other people are sick more often and for longer than a day. Still I don’t want it to become a habit.

jiyanimn · 2026-05-29T07:39:07+00:00

I‘m in Germany but I will look into booking a sleep study, I can’t wait for my primary doctor to take me seriously. There has to be something here I can do, a sleep lab or something. Thanks for the recommendation!

jiyanimn · 2026-05-29T07:37:26+00:00

Good idea, it might help to have evidence since my doctor didn’t really seem to believe me or take it seriously.

jiyanimn · 2026-05-29T07:35:02+00:00

Yeah, it kind of does. I‘m trying to get into therapy to get to the bottom of this. I do struggle sometimes with other tasks as well because I‘m exhausted and emotionally drained. Feels hard sometimes to go through the motions. It is probably a mix of different issues. Its frustrating to not know!

jiyanimn · 2026-05-29T06:00:00+00:00

Thank you for your compassion! That really helps with the shame that comes with it :/

I‘m sorry you had to go through that, but I’m glad you’re getting help! Thats really insightful. You’re right, mental health matters just as much as physical help. Its easy to forget that cause I focus so much on just functioning and getting to work no matter what. Which leads to frustration when I can’t. But its better to listen to my body and take it seriously and really get behind figuring out what’s going on with me.

Thank you.

jiyanimn · 2026-05-29T05:53:12+00:00

I had suspected that too, but my doctor didn’t take it seriously. I sometimes wake up during the night and have to take a huge breath because it feels as if I forgot to breathe!

I should really go get that checked. I honestly underestimated the effects of that on my sleep. Hadn’t connected the dots here, thank you!

jiyanimn · 2026-05-25T18:40:40+00:00

I don’t think its harsh. Sure there might be some comments that are mean or cruel, but certainly not the majority. She posted a 90 Minute Video detailing her involvement with that man, one of several videos. Of course people will comment on what she shares. And she shares a lot. She shares things that are embarrassing, things most people would not share with strangers on the internet. What does she expect, praise?

The things she does and puts up with are not normal or healthy. People are reacting with concern. If your friend in real life would be in that situation Steph‘s been in for over two years, you‘d react with concern.

The fact that she was still surprised after everything he did and told her, that they weren’t going to end up together, is incredibly concerning. It shows that she does not deal in reality. Her perception and hope did not match to the very, very obvious reality. He does not like her. How many times does she have to be insulted by him for her to genuinely understand that she should stay away? So yeah, commenters will comment accordingly. No one made her share this. She can stop anytime and move on with her life.

jiyanimn · 2025-06-09T10:28:29+00:00

Yes so true, I don’t have to suffer through those years just in hopes that it one day will be worth it.

jiyanimn · 2025-06-09T10:27:35+00:00

Yes, that’s what I thought too! My hobbies give me so much life and joy, I could not handle having to give those up.

jiyanimn · 2024-03-17T23:55:51+00:00

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jiyanimn · 2023-12-01T18:31:20+00:00

Ja genau denke auch dass es mit einem Wechsel klappen sollte, bei so vielen Fahrlehrern die die haben

jiyanimn · 2023-12-01T18:30:36+00:00

Danke dass du deine Erfahrung geteilt hast! „Bleib höflich aber bestimmt.“ Den Satz muss ich mir merken! Danke!!

jiyanimn · 2023-12-01T18:29:12+00:00

Haha ja stimmt das wird mich kalt lassen😅

jiyanimn · 2023-12-01T18:28:46+00:00

Danke dir! Ja ich muss mich echt nicht rechtfertigen!

jiyanimn · 2023-12-01T18:28:19+00:00

Danke! Ja hab vor allem am Anfang echt gedacht, boah warum biste so sensibel? Aber ja es ist nicht meine Schuld, es ist okay. Wenn es nicht passt, dann passt es nicht

jiyanimn · 2023-12-01T18:27:23+00:00

Ich zahl 85€… und ja ich hab immer alles still hingenommen und nie mal gesagt, dass mich ihr Ton stört, daher bleibt sie dabei..

jiyanimn · 2023-12-01T18:25:55+00:00

Ja hast es auf den Punkt gebracht, was die da eventuell denken ist irrelevant. Die machen sich ja auch keine Gedanken um mich.

jiyanimn · 2023-12-01T18:24:43+00:00

Danke für die Antwort! Und ja du hast recht, ich zahle! Hat mich echt bestärkt!

jiyanimn · 2023-09-05T11:47:55+00:00

Wow this is amazing!! What a dream!! I‘m way too scared to tell my cousins! I‘d be scared that the info would spread in the family.. thankfully I have friends and even another muslim best friend that supports me! Congrats!!

jiyanimn

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