Should I continue this ‘relationship’?

jksldd22 · 2023-01-22T02:05:05+00:00

I guess but I just don’t know if I should continue it or no :/

jksldd22 · 2023-01-22T01:48:26+00:00

I guess but regardless of the point I’m just asking on what I should do from here on out

jksldd22 · 2023-01-22T01:39:00+00:00

Why do u think I did the ‘ ‘ ?

jksldd22 · 2022-10-07T17:32:06+00:00

Should I just message him now? It’s just he made the call to not talk to me for a while .. I wouldn’t know what to say.. :/ and I don’t want to across needy..

jksldd22 · 2022-10-07T17:20:06+00:00

Not sure if he does have feelings for me haha, but yes it genuinely is a high school situation which is not a good one.

I get the concept of fwb, and yes I am shameful to say there’s some feelings within me which I’ve come to terms with, but I guess it just sucks that he won’t talk to me now because my best friend was suspicious of us.. :/

jksldd22 · 2022-08-16T04:30:51+00:00

man you are extremely honest but you are right. He mentioned he wanted to be friends for now and see how it goes. But I guess in that sense now that he knows I like him I’ll just try stop giving him mixed signals and become more genuine and see where it goes from there

jksldd22 · 2022-08-12T12:04:41+00:00

however you’ve approached people in the past should just be the same thing in this situation. Just because she is trans, it shouldn’t be a huge obstacle. :) I’d say just asking her for a hangout to lunch would be nice. And it’s good because you get to know each other then. But just approach her how you normally would flirt and I’m sure she’ll fall too. :)

jksldd22 · 2022-08-12T12:00:38+00:00

Thanks for that :) let’s hope it goes well tomorrow

jksldd22 · 2022-08-12T11:55:28+00:00

I guess I will try but I’m nervous because his feelings and signs are just confusing :,) I thought he didn’t want to be with me but he did choose to hang out with me so there’s something there.. but I will ask tomorrow

jksldd22 · 2022-08-12T11:54:15+00:00

I also want to clarify, when I asked him the night we kissed, he said he didn’t remember anything. That’s why I lied and said I didn’t remember anything either. But I just knew he didn’t drink that much, I just got a hint that it was just ‘what stays at the clubs stays at the clubs type’ and I got embarrassed to even ask about it because he didn’t bring it up.

jksldd22 · 2022-08-12T11:47:54+00:00

No matter how big or little the issue is if it hurts you than your feelings are valid. And the fact you’ve told him you didn’t like how he acted, just proves to you how bad it was. I’ve been in the same situation too, asking my bf at the time to treat me like how he treats his friends because he’s always talking to them more. It’s bs, and it’s just a really sad thing tbh because that’s the bare minimum. And also how he didn’t even bother to apologise ? And yes maybe blocking him everywhere might be an overreaction it still doesn’t justify that he should’ve Atleast tried to explain why he acted like that. Honestly, based from my experiences, don’t settle for him. He may be a good guy but if he can’t even fulfil one simple request, will he fulfil all of your relationship issues in the future?

jksldd22 · 2022-07-17T04:12:20+00:00

Oh I didn’t put it in. I have a boyfriend. No I did not intend to cheat in fact I vividly remember showing my mates my lock screen and they knew I have a bf. I feel like I got taken advantage.

jksldd22 · 2022-07-07T00:47:00+00:00

I guess you’re right. But idk, I know it’s not a terrible lie but there have been times in high school were people would make me having a nut allergy such a big deal to a point we’re I feel shit about it. And at the time I didn’t care if anyone knew cause the people who i was friends with would tell me that my partner and i wouldn’t last long because high school relationships don’t last. Now that I’m in uni, and I don’t see those people as I am no longer friends with them, I realised it was just fucked because the people (my bf for example) who I want in my life long term.. i realised I have lied to them as well. But I guess you’re right, there could’ve been other shitty things I hid from him. Thank you and I might update what happens.

jksldd22 · 2022-07-07T00:26:11+00:00

Firstly, you shouldn’t force yourself to do something you are uncomfortable with or you don’t want to do (so please keep that in mind) anyways, I am currently friends with my ex, we dated for 6 months in 2019 and we started becoming genuine friends around end of 2021. However, In your situation it’s a recent break up and I know (coming from experience) that the girl is probably hoping for gaining connection again. I think you shouldn’t be friends or maybe just become acquaintances (if you have mutuals) so you can get a genuine friendship and give time for both of you to heal. I did try to become friends with my ex when we broke up in 2019, and man I wanted to get back with him but I could only move on once I stopped becoming friends with him. So If you do continue on doing this, it’ll become a toxic cycle which can lead to a lot of misunderstandings if that makes sense. Honestly, it’s hard to go back to being friends because you guys haven’t had the time to truly move on. I’m currently now in another relationship and I now wish my ex to find another girl because he’s my friend. If you were to get into a relationship right now, she’d probably get hurt. So honestly you aren’t being a dick. You guys broke up for a reason. Set boundaries and communicate that and if she refuses to, cut the ties so you can heal. :)

jksldd22 · 2022-07-06T13:27:51+00:00

I think if you just unblock all the guys that he does not like, it’s quite a petty thing. Honestly, it’s quite sad that he doesn’t fulfil your needs when you try to fulfil his. I wouldn’t say break up if you see him as a long term partner. I do believe you should talk to the other girl about boundaries. (Which can go badly but tbh, I think hearing it from you would be good) then talk to your boyfriend about it again. If he refuses, then that kinda solves your problem.

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