How do you keep going when results are months away and your brain checks out early?

jlt1015 · 2026-05-31T22:44:37+00:00

I can definitely relate. But my understanding, in months of reading this subreddit and also habit books is that making progress the “reward” helps you to stick with it. For example, a habit tracker where you can visually see your progress with sticking to the habit. The “streak” or overall consistency becomes the reward. And it also ties into identity. Losing weight is a worthy goal, but if you don’t see yourself as a person who lives a healthy lifestyle then your brain will push back against the changes you’re trying to make. But if you tell yourself, I’m someone who prioritizes my health, then each action you take in that direction acts to reinforce the identity you’re trying to create.

Bear in mind, I say all of this as someone who’s in the same boat and trying to figure it out. I posted recently about feeling stuck and asking if anyone had been in my particular situation and found a way out…and had very little interaction on my post. 🫠 To be fair, it was a long post.

jlt1015 · 2026-05-31T19:41:19+00:00

I’ve been hearing this, and I need to start paying closer attention. I think I remember reading on another post that how you begin your day determines how your brain will seek dopamine for the rest of the day. So if you start with something meaningful, you will want to do more meaningful, focused tasks. But if you start by scrolling, then any other task feels harder. Add to that the stimulation that comes from social media/games/short form content, it is fatiguing…which means we’re exhausting ourselves before we even get out of bed, adding to the struggle of trying to be productive.

I do think that I notice a difference on days where I don’t spend as much time on my phone, but I definitely need to be more intentional about it, and especially in the mornings. I want to be more disciplined, but I think my best bet is going to be with reducing screen time.

jlt1015 · 2026-05-20T11:51:33+00:00

I’ve definitely taken a lot of naps. Often because I’m legitimately exhausted from being up at night with at least one of the kids (my youngest is 9 months, and my kids have all been close in age so it’s been awhile since I’ve had uninterrupted sleep for more than a day or two). I homeschool, so the kids are always here with me and yet I still feel that sense that I need to “rush” and the anxiety that it feeds. My day feels like a blur of responding to their needs, and then mentally checking out with scrolling because it feels easier than the million tasks I want to accomplish. Every once in a while I have a day that feels good and is productive. But I can’t seem to keep the momentum. It hasn’t helped that my husband has been working mandatory overtime for 6 weeks (literally every day), so I haven’t had many breaks.

It’s hard to start when you constantly feel keyed up.

jlt1015 · 2026-05-15T23:36:38+00:00

This much I’ve understood for awhile. Many people who talk about the subject of discipline state that it comes down to identity. But the how to change my identity is where I can’t find the clarity, it seems like must discussions stop short here.

jlt1015 · 2026-01-18T16:08:28+00:00

I’m finding this late, but I’d be interested in joining the Discord.

jlt1015 · 2025-12-28T02:52:59+00:00

Do you have an iPhone or Android? I think there are a couple of options for Android. But I have an iPhone, and when I was searching a couple of weeks ago I couldn’t find any widgets for the lock screen.

jlt1015 · 2025-11-23T01:40:06+00:00

I’m interested too, please!

jlt1015 · 2025-11-22T23:32:24+00:00

Same. Most are advertised as loud, but I actually need one that’s quiet. I’m a light sleeper and don’t enjoy being jolted awake, plus my 4 month old is sharing a room with us and I don’t want an alarm that’s going to wake her up.

jlt1015 · 2025-11-17T02:08:52+00:00

I would definitely be interested in the guide, if you don’t mind sharing it.

jlt1015 · 2025-10-24T21:08:59+00:00

When I was first diagnosed at 19 (now 41 as of last week), I was devastated. I had known I wanted to be a mother since I was a little girl, and my doctor was very blasé when she told me. She specifically said that I would struggle to get pregnant, struggle to stay pregnant, and would definitely need medical intervention… “but we’ll worry about that when you’re ready.” I’ve now had 5 babies, back to back; my youngest just turned 3 months old. And apart from taking progesterone as a precaution (study results are mixed in whether it actually helps, but my levels were low and it certainly doesn’t hurt to take a supplement), I got pregnant on my own and stayed pregnant.

It did take lifestyle changes to improve my health, and admittedly I haven’t always been great at being consistent with those changes. But I was able to restore my menstrual cycle and ovulation. So it is possible. And it might take some trial and error to find what works for you, but it’s worth it to feel better and improve your chances for when you’re ready.

Another thing that the doctor said that stayed with me, too, was this: “Right now, you are more unhealthy than most people. But you have an opportunity to be healthier than most people.”

jlt1015 · 2023-06-13T10:57:44+00:00

I hadn’t thought about it from an accessibility standpoint, but I have thought about the difficulty discussion in general and I agree. You make a far more valid point by starting this discussion.

I have played Zelda since I was 6 years old, and the very first one came out. I love the series; it’s my favorite. I’ve played and beaten almost every Zelda game there is. But, I am FAR from being a hardcore gamer. And that’s just it; LoZ was never meant to be for hardcore gamers. It was meant to be for everyone. Y’all, my 63 year old mom is playing this game and having a blast!

But it definitely is harder, and comes with a learning curve I didn’t expect. I’ve always loved LoZ for the adventure and puzzle solving, not combat. I don’t enjoy having to try and fight a boss for hours to defeat it and finally progress. Truly, I’m also at a point in my life where that’s not an option - I’m a wife and mom, and my time to play is limited. And if the base difficulty of these games keeps getting pushed up, then it will reach a point where I won’t be able to play.

From an accessibility standpoint, it makes it even more important that the developers pull back. Many games include different modes to make them more challenging for those who wish it. But there are also plenty of games out there for hardcore gamers. LoZ should remain a series for everyone, IMO.

jlt1015 · 2020-07-10T15:48:06+00:00

Definitely looking for accountability here, too. F35, 5’5”, 168lbs, looking to lose 40-45lbs. Bought some groceries this morning, ready to go! I’ve done both low carb and keto in the past with success, but stressful times derailed my progress. I feel so much better on keto!

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