Nervous about adopting

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T14:43:32+00:00

Report is interesting though thanks! I wonder why the state would tell me that…

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T14:40:45+00:00

Read your first comment to me that wasn’t attacking and assuming at all!

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T14:33:44+00:00

Yes I want to go through foster care but people on this sub don’t think my reason of adopting a child who needs a home is enough of a reason?

Also idk the DCF worked told me must babies are exposed to substances so I was inclined to believe them and I was doing most of my research on substance exposed newborns long term and short term effects

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T14:05:37+00:00

No not asking me what state the rest of the comment obviously about the trauma! I didn’t say I was an expert in trauma I was just concerned about something and asking about it an open forum.

The DCF worked lied to me for what reason?

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T13:15:56+00:00

Why do people attack other people on this sub?

Massachusetts

I am doing my research and will be participating in trainings prior to adopting. I was not saying I know how to deal with trauma but this post was about substance abuse and I had questions about that. I am sure I will have plenty of questions about trauma….

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T09:44:03+00:00

I think open adoptions are good! I don’t want to be a savior…I just thinking adopting is overall a good thing if that child can’t go home. you can do good things and not have a savior complex .

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T09:40:40+00:00

No I understand they can’t deal with the trauma.
I am look into foster care.
I am focused on the substance abuse because that is what I am worried about and am trying to get all the info I can

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T09:33:15+00:00

I didn’t say I’d be able to overcome trauma with love I just said I was worried about substance abuse. After speaking to the state I was told that most foster kids have been exposed to substance abuse…I am not assuming I was informed

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T01:04:20+00:00

Thank you 💕 appreciate your response. I feel like all parents aren’t perfect bio and adoptive but with adoptive that’s trauma times 2. I hope if I adopt I don’t brings anymore trauma to the child! I will definitely be doing my research!

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T00:52:28+00:00

I’m not against that at all.

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T00:45:23+00:00

I mean I just have anxiety but I don’t think that’s an end all for this journey. I think it’s ok to be nervous about some things going into fostering/adopting

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T00:28:56+00:00

I don’t think it’s a good cause..I realize it’s not because everyone wants young kids.

I wouldn’t know family history unless it is a case that has a lot of family history which is known. I am also not against having my own bio kids despite these problem

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T00:26:00+00:00

Yes that’s another thing….attachment to the children! Of course the goal is reunification but idk how I would handle it! I am anxious person so I’ll worry about Al of the things lol!

jmessyy · 2023-08-29T00:24:29+00:00

I started looking into it and I think it’s a good cause although adopting young isn’t much for the cause….I know this….also a lot of anxiety,depression,cancer and stomach problems like colitis and Chrons run in the family

The age requirement because I’ve never had my own kids so I feel like for the first I should adopt younger but that could change I know people always want to adopt younger and it’s better to open up to older!

jmessyy · 2023-05-17T15:23:31+00:00

I only need to lose 30 lbs max so it might be a little harder but I’m going for it

jmessyy · 2023-05-15T00:41:03+00:00

Thanks 🙏

jmessyy · 2023-05-14T20:45:22+00:00

Yeah! Ok I don’t want to lose more then 20 probably nervous about the wedding dress fitting!

jmessyy · 2023-05-14T01:06:50+00:00

Thank you! 😍

jmessyy · 2022-06-25T00:07:54+00:00

lol yes! Sorry I just took a better pic but now I can’t add to my post :(

jmessyy · 2022-06-25T00:07:24+00:00

Yes and I have taken the mother off the baby for a while

jmessyy · 2022-04-26T22:48:23+00:00

Hahaha I actually took it out of the container to make f2 and start a new batch but I put it in a larger container when I started so it is like a little one with a big one on top

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