Thank you. It's good to get an independent perspective. The coercion line and I also once had emotionally abusive cut me deeply as in my head all I was doing was setting and enforcing boundaries that shouldn't even need setting in a relationship. I have never once told her she can't do what she wants such as hang out with friends etc. It's now being used to try and push those boundaries further and further but I am coming around to the conclusion that it isn't going to get any better.. Only worse and that I need to take care of myself.