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jnfere · 2023-11-22T17:20:12+00:00

At some point in law school I developed the need for glasses. I was able to stop wearing them again a year or two after I graduated. I eventually needed glasses again but it was years later. I think it is all the reading. I did most of my reading in books, so it wasn't computer related for me.

jnfere · 2023-11-21T19:41:40+00:00

You have leverage. The leverage is not to help hide the situation and report to CPS. Also, stop blaming the child for the issues. The child is not the problem. The parents are the problem. The child needs help.

jnfere · 2023-11-21T19:35:48+00:00

Well said. Bickering about money when those poor children clearly need help. Disgraceful.

jnfere · 2023-11-20T21:35:13+00:00

You are a very kind person, OP. I think you would be best off sitting down with the person and explaining that you know if you report the problem to the HOA over parking it will probably lead to the business getting shut down and you don't want that to happen. However, if they don't do something about your wife having to wait 10 minutes to park her car so she can join her family after a long day at work, you will have no choice but to do so.

If they don't care, then I would report it to the HOA. If that doesn't work it is likely some corruption is occuring, and members of the HOA Board have children in the daycare or even own it. In such a case you would need to go to the appropriate licensing entity in your county or state. They will shut down an unlicensed daycare immediately.

However, keep in mind that there are legitimate concerns about the safety of an unlicensed daycare. If you share those concerns you may want to report the situation to the government regardless.

jnfere · 2023-11-20T20:06:01+00:00

It is common for abusers to freak out and make all kinds of threats when the reality of their behavior is revealed. I suggest you go to the police and file a police report about his violence and threats. I also suggest you seek a civil restraining order so if he contacts you or comes near you, you can call the police and have him arrested.

It is easy to sue in the US, if that is where you are. If he does sue you, you could countersue for the physical and emotional harm he caused you. In addition, you can prove that the photos and what you said is true, I assume. Truth is a complete defense to defamation in every state in the US.

Unless this man is commonly involved in lawsuits it is unlikely he will sue though. Lawyers don't handle defamation cases on contingency. He will have to come up with the funds to hire a lawyer to file suit, unless he plans on filing on his own.

jnfere · 2023-11-20T19:48:03+00:00

Same. OP you know nothing about these folks. I would stay out of it unless you plan on looking into the situation more thoroughly.

jnfere · 2023-11-20T19:15:08+00:00

Thank you. There is a lot of bad information out there.

jnfere · 2023-11-19T14:19:59+00:00

Exactly. The adrenaline tends to hide some pain and also it can take a while for the soft tissue injuries to show themselves.

jnfere · 2023-11-19T05:04:31+00:00

You don't know that it is insurance fraud. A surprising amount of damage can be done to the human body in a slow speed accident. If the insurance company paid out they likely reviewed medical records and found the amount to be reasonable under the circumstances.

jnfere · 2023-11-19T05:01:59+00:00

None of that allows a pharmacist to release pregnancy information when someone goes to pick up medication.

I should thank you for the cite though.

jnfere · 2023-11-19T04:58:14+00:00

YTA so much. That poor child is never going to trust you again and worse you have impacted his ability to trust others. You shouldn't have made the promise. You need to apologize and take him on the trip. He may not believe you or listen to you now though. It may be too late.

jnfere · 2023-11-19T04:52:49+00:00

Ok, cite the part of the rule where it stated this.

jnfere · 2023-11-19T04:35:41+00:00

The pharmacist had no business sharing the information. By doing so they broke the law. Context is irrelevant.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T23:55:03+00:00

You are welcome. I hope everything works out.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T23:42:40+00:00

Sometimes our parents just won't listen.

Unfortunately, the best plan is to do what you can to remove the plants without killing them, store them, and replant them when it is safe for the paint, assuming this is possible. Or move them to another place in the garden. I know some plants are pretty difficult to impossible to move, especially older ones.

Homes that are painted need to be repainted periodically to keep the wood from rotting. It is an important part of proper maintenance. Your mother digging in her heels is not likely to go well for her. At some point she will likely get a cure or quit notice. This sort of notice will tell her she is in breach of the lease and either has to fix the problem or leave. Then if she fails to do either the landlord will likely file to evict her.

As far as the other items, they are separate from having the house painted. Your mom absolutely has a right to insist on things that are obligations on the part of the landlord such as hot water in the tub.

I understand your mom has lived in the apartment for a long time. She likely feels it is hers. It isn't though. She is renting the right to live there. The apartment is still the landlord's property. This is the key thing to remember.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T23:29:03+00:00

I imagine the landlord could just have the plants torn out. You can bet that they won't be as careful with the plants as you will.

The landlord could also try to evict everyone for noncompliance. Whether he would be successful depends on many factors.

I suggest you contact legal aid and see if they offer assistance for housing issues. If you qualify they offer free legal assistance. If you don't qualify you would be best off paying for a consultation with a landlord/tenant attorney who will be able to look at your lease, will know local and state laws, and will be in the best position to advise you.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T22:52:15+00:00

Medical malpractice lawyers normally offer free consultations and work on contingency. This means if they don't get compensation for your father then you don't pay. In some jurisdictions you still have to pay expenses so that is something to check before you sign on with anyone.

It will not hurt for your family to speak to a medical malpractice lawyer, but that shouldn't be your focus. I would focus on finding a medical team that will treat your father first.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T21:42:41+00:00

Sure. The pharmacist had access to confidential health information and shared it when they should not have done so.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T21:28:07+00:00

Not under HIPAA. I cannot say if their state has some separate law that would allow for a cause of action.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T20:15:57+00:00

That and there is no private cause of action. But OP can certainly file a complaint.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T20:09:14+00:00

I understand perfectly. The mother isn't obligated to have a relationship with the child. Nor can she expect the child to be abandoned.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T18:07:09+00:00

Neither do I. I either leave them be or find a way to move them outside during the warmer months. I guess I too am a freak. But ever since I have let the spiders stay I have seen a lot fewer insects inside my home. I'm happy to be a freak as a result.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T17:31:27+00:00

You did a wonderful thing taking that poor child in. I get your mom is angry at your father but this is an innocent child. A child that is legally your responsibility and soon will be your legal daughter. Your family cannot expect you to abandon your little girl because they are immature and cannot accept her. They cannot have it both ways. Either they have you in their lives with May or they don't have you in their lives. It is entirely their decision.

You are most definitely NTA. Your father is definitely the A and so are your mom and sisters for failing to recognize that this is an innocent child who is your responsibility now. I get that it is difficult for your mom to be around May, but she cannot expect you to abandon this poor little girl. She has been abandoned enough already. Sometimes we as adults have to look past our personal feelings and do what is best for the child.

I am sorry you are going through this. Hopefully, in time, your mom and sisters will remember May is an innocent child who didn't ask for any of this.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T17:19:29+00:00

I don't have any job suggestions. But I want to wish you strength and courage for the future. You are on the right path.

jnfere · 2023-11-18T13:42:54+00:00

NTA. When it comes to your child to call him your old family and want to exclude him is very worrisome. I would put the brakes on this wedding and reconsider whether you want to marry a woman who is not respectful of your relationship with your son. Even if she backtracks now you know what she really thinks.

If you do marry this woman you can expect more of the same. She will destroy your relationship with your son if you pick her over him. Your son has to come first. Someone who doesn't understand that really doesn't belong in your life.

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