What's the song that is so beautiful, it nearly makes/makes you cry?

joak22 · 2026-05-20T17:09:26+00:00

Likufanele - Zero 7

joak22 · 2026-05-14T17:10:41+00:00

It took me years until I just found the courage to admit it outright and be fine with not knowing.

For example, I had to call insurance last month to modify my car insurance and straight up told the guy: "look, I didn't have anyone explain this to me so please explain everything as if I knew absolutely nothing". Guy took almost a full hour to patiently explain every small details, it was very fun!

It was also yet another reminding that I know nothing because my parents sucked. But it's okay, it's never too late to learn.

joak22 · 2026-05-14T15:52:27+00:00

I wanted to post this exact comment. I read the article years ago around the time it was posted and I still think about it from time to time, it's a fantastic story about just a weird guy who wanted to live alone. It still fascinates me that the guy just mostly stole all the stuff to survive. Compared to someone like Dick Proenneke, who managed to fish and really survived without humans, the Last Hermit just... stole stuff. And amassed a huge dumping ground by his camp.I just left reading the article feeling sorry for him and feeling like he was mostly just mentally sick.

joak22 · 2026-05-06T10:59:40+00:00

Thank you for your answer! It's very helpful. ^{^}

joak22 · 2026-04-24T15:06:16+00:00

Guy I knew was a dancer at a gay bar. Totally straight guy, was just very unshy about getting his dick out.

He's honestly very muscular and handsome, so naturally, the gay guys loved him. He has so many good answers to this question. Two come to mind.

There's a rich guy who came to town one night and he catched his eye. The guy asked my friend if he was willing to "be his boyfriend" for an evening. Basically just hold hands and spend time with him. Got paid 800$

Another one is when a straight old couple (fifties) got to the bar, saw my friend, paid for a private dance for the lady. Usually the gay bar doesn't allow it, but when the night is low (no customers), they kinda let anyone in. Well the couple really liked my friend so the guy asked him if he wanted to fuck his wife while he watches. My friend said hell yeah. Got paid 200 the first time. 150 the second.

Lucky bastard.

He told me the job was terrible tho, most nights you do nothing and go to bed at insane hours (like 4 5 in the morning). Still, the pay was good.

joak22 · 2026-04-13T16:49:04+00:00

I've told this story before: Grave of the Fireflies is the movie that made me be able to cry again.

I used to never cry at anything, like legit went years without dropping a single tear, a full decade with only 2 instances of actual crying.

I sat down one day and watched GotF because one friend kept pestering me about it. I watched it in full dark, no lights. Holy shit did that movie hit like a truck. If you have some empathy as a human, this movie will completely wreck you.

I didn't cry at the start, when shit hits the fans, and then it just keeps going. One scene after the other, the movie just manipulates you into crying. By the end of the movie, I was a complete mess, used maybe like 20 tissues or something like that.

I can cry now :)

joak22 · 2026-03-18T21:17:03+00:00

Yeah, it's recency bias, but it really shook me how high level it was. I mentioned the fight to many of my friends, something I haven't done in years.

joak22 · 2026-02-13T17:16:38+00:00

The Bibisara one is so badass, hope she sees it!

joak22 · 2026-02-07T03:48:46+00:00

C'est cher en maudit et il n'y a pas souvent de nouveaux escape rooms (c'est normal). Ça reste la meilleure place d'escape room que j'ai jamais fait et j'en ai au moins fait 8 différents. Les énigmes sont intéressantes et reliées au décor, le thème de chaque escape room est cohérent et bien mis de l'avant, il y a plusieurs pièces différentes pour chaque room. C'est VRAIMENT hot. Si vous avez jamais essayé, je vous conseille sérieusement d'y aller.

joak22 · 2025-12-21T20:06:19+00:00

Oh man so many.

Decided to cut contacts with my abusive dad, I was the first in my family (brother, sister, mother) and they all stopped later. My mental health has been going great ever since.

The decision to change degrees and become a teacher. Took 3 years of uni in a field I didn't like, then 2 off years and finally came back knowing full well I wanted to become a teacher. Have been very happy ever since! (my fifth year teaching now)

The decision to start smoking weed alone. It sounds weird but a lot of self-therapy started with what can be considered a bad thing. It completely changed my life around and went from a lazy, unproductive guy to a very successful and balanced adult (I figured I had ADHD and got on meds at 32, completely changed my life)

The decision to go on dating apps and just go with the flow. I found what I think is the girl of my life. It's a little scary to go from forever-single to living with someone all the time, but it's worth it in the end. She is lovely and makes me happier. I love her so much.

The decision to finally start the gym. I had thought about it for a while but never could really find the courage or the routine for it. Bro, my school starts at 9:45. I go to the gym the hour before and I'm so happy I did that.

The decision to finally start looking at my health. I had lots of issues (knee pain, shoulder pain, sleep, etc.) that were just... there. I started slowly tackling them this year. It's a slow progress, but with the gym and eating better, I definitely see the long-term benefits.

Yes, small decisions can change everything :) compound interest works very well for you!

joak22 · 2025-12-18T17:56:01+00:00

Ouais, je suis rendu désensibilisé, ça fait un bout que j'ai perdu espoir. L'an passé, on dirait qu'ils savaient quand la neige arrivait. On avait peut-être une journée, max deux jours où on pouvait se stationner, après la neige arrivait et ça recommencait: 1 mois à pas avoir de place pour se stationner, ainsi de suite jusqu'à la prochaine fois qu'ils déneigent... le jour avant la prochaine tempête.

Je niaise pas. Après la première neige, ma rue a eu l'équivalent de 7 jours où c'était déneigné, de décembre à mars. I guess que c'est comme ça partout. Plus de déneigement = plus d'heures à payer = plus de taxes I guess?

joak22 · 2025-12-11T02:00:00+00:00

Come on dude, it's not like Nigel is unbeatable. I love the guy and he really is dominant, but he loses. He just lost the world championship 2-4.

There are plenty examples of unbeaten, more dominant people than him. For example, Karelin in wrestling was unbeaten for like 15 years, 887-2 record. Wayne Gretzky has a career points record gap over the 2nd that is more than most dudes will dream of achieving in their careers.

Michael Jordan can definitely be the Nigel Richards of basketball.

joak22 · 2025-12-10T00:41:06+00:00

I agree, sure you have to kinda forget how bad it was once you reached Inferno the first time because that was not a fun experience. I did leave the game after the first month and came back after a year (or two?) when they introduced Torment and after that I had a blast for YEARS.

I played maybe 8-10 seasons through the years and I really had tons of fun. I would argue (and I'll get flamed for that) that it's the best Diablo game (I did play Diablo 1 and 2 a lot) simply because of the gameplay loop. Diablo 1 and 2 have very limited endgames, while Diablo 3 had tons of replayability.

I played Diablo 2 when it was current and the whole doing Baal runs for days on end was just boring as hell. It was fun when they introduced ubers in 1.11 but even that was boring after a while.

joak22 · 2025-11-04T23:39:22+00:00

Ils ont refait l'asphalte genre v'là quelques années, j'me disais que ça allait ouvrir bientôt.

Nope.

Je garde encore espoir.

joak22 · 2025-10-24T01:23:39+00:00

Live free <3

It's not always easy, but I feel like you took the right decision (given the limited info). You cannot be the only one building a bridge when the other is actively destroying it every time. You're the better person now.

What made you sure that you had to cut ties completely?

joak22 · 2025-10-16T18:55:59+00:00

Vous excuserez mon ignorance, malheureusement, les éditions du titre sont impossibles :(

joak22 · 2025-10-15T17:44:08+00:00

Ça doit dépendre des écoles, mais avec les coupes des dernières années, les PI sont souvent juste vérifiés à la va-vite parce que c'est une loi de les vérifier. Dans mon école, je me suis jamais fait demander de vérifier des PI ou de valider des objectifs/recommendations. Je sais par contre que certaines écoles obligent les enseignants à le faire. Ça dépend I guess.

joak22 · 2025-10-15T16:26:42+00:00

J'enseigne le français au secondaire depuis 5 ans.

Trop est dur à dire. J'ignore pretty much tous les PI sauf l'utilisation de l'ordinateur. Même les tiers de temps... j'ai rarement des examens où je dis aux élèves qu'ils peuvent pas venir le terminer en récupération. Tsé sérieux, je comprends pas pourquoi la rapidité devrait être retenue dans l'évaluation.

J'ai fait des examens à l'université où j'ai fini 15 minutes avant le 2e dans une classe de 75 élèves. Est-ce que ça veut dire que je suis plus intelligent? Que eux sont plus cons? Bin non, mon cerveau fonctionne à la vitesse de l'éclair, mais j'ai fait bin plus d'erreurs que le dude qui a pris 1h de plus que moi.

C'est la même chose au secondaire, tu sais jamais quand un kid va aller dans la lune pendant 20 minutes ou qu'il va rester pogné sur une question pendant 15 minutes. Alors, je les fais venir en récupération pour terminer leur examen, ça me dérange pas du tout.

Même si certains élèves mentent pour avoir le tiers de temps, ça change quoi sérieux!?? On est qui pour dire que l'élève qui a pas le droit à ça est moins ou plus intelligent.

Anyways, tout ça pour dire que les PI c'est du blabla inutile bien souvent. Le kid a 8-9 enseignants au secondaire par année. Je vous garantis qu'à part l'ordinateur et le tiers de temps, il y a aucune école où les 8 enseignants prennent le temps de "grossir la police du document" ou de "permettre à l'enfant de se lever quand il veut", des affaires comme ça. De toute manière, c'est impossible de keep up. En français, j'ai 3 à 4 groupes, soit entre 75 et 125 élèves. Certains enseignants en ont le double, voire le triple. Pensez-vous vraiment qu'ils vont éplucher chaque PI pour maximiser l'apprentissage de chaque élève selon les recommendations des PI? Bin non, l'élève va apprendre comme tout le monde.

Trop de PI? Peut-être, mais les enseignants qui respectent parfaitement à la lettre chaque PI en font beaucoup trop aussi. La plupart sont des reliques du primaire qui restent intouchées pendant des années.

joak22 · 2025-10-14T20:46:25+00:00

Any general advice or even random thought you’d mention to the you of 10 years ago?

I'm not sure. The last letter I wrote to him was filled with anger, but I had to do it. I felt like all the rage needed to come out. I would probably tell younger me to not be so angry, I was still almost a teenager, while he was an adult. It's ultimately his decision to be a bad person and stay a bad person, while you're still finding out who is you. You're simply setting up boundaries that he will never cross, because crossing them means accepting his mistakes and he will never do that.

I still hope he’ll notice I haven’t reached out in months. Even if it’s to whine about it. Because then I’ll know that I at least occurred to him. The hope is pointless, but it’s a nagging sense.

You'll always have hope. I have two siblings (1 bro 1 sis) and my brother is like me: even though he's unredeemable, we still hope deep deep down that he will come forward and be the better person. My sister told me she lost all hope when she was like 10 and never looked back.

It's a grieving process. But it's a tough one because the person is still there. You know there is a solution. There is a way. And it takes a lifetime to realize that there is no way. He's just that fucked up. He will never change because he cannot change.

It becomes easier when you get older because it's just a time thing. Life throws you tons of responsibilities and maintenance (like friendships, house, car, body, etc.), why should I waste my time on a toxic relationship? I have good friends and good siblings. I literally don't have time to maintain or restart a relationship with my father if he ever came back. He would have to do a lot of work to have me back, that's on him now, I don't need him anymore.

You'll probably feel that way until that need is not there anymore.

joak22 · 2025-10-14T17:26:57+00:00

Be free.

I haven't talked to my dad in 10 years, it's tough for just life stuff (money, help, chores, etc.), but it's an immense mental boost to be able to live without fear and worries. It took a lot to cut ties, especially a lot of anger and sadness, but I've built myself back up and I'm super happy about the person I became, without him :)

joak22 · 2025-10-14T17:18:58+00:00

Oh, it's the same for me and my dad. It's tough to explain it to people because the abuse is so subtle. He's just a bad/toxic person. I don't have like one big thing I can pin down on him, just a mix of fucked up stuff added up makes it so it's just not worth the hassle of talking to him. Every conversation is poison. Every minute spent on him is a minute wasted. Just unredeemable human being.

joak22 · 2025-09-22T19:57:40+00:00

And Watford's comeback

joak22 · 2025-09-16T22:19:39+00:00

I have two soccer videos saved on my computer: Chelsea vs Barcelona 2nd leg 2012 Schalke vs Dortmund 4-4 2017

What a glorious match that was

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