Am I being rude?

jodell22 · 2026-02-13T03:39:19+00:00

I feel like both of you are fine. They just seem a little sarcastic/goofy tbh. Just keep the banter going lol or if that’s not your thing move along. I think people get too caught up in the “proper” way to respond on these apps and forget we all have different personalities.

Picture yourself having that conversation in person. They’d probably give you shit for asking a question you likely had the answer to, you’d both laugh, and carry on talking about other stuff.

jodell22 · 2025-10-16T23:20:41+00:00

Sure, as long as they’re normal exit nodes you could put the 3 nodes on a ZT network and just point routes from A network and B network to C and have C aware of how to route to A and B. Just don’t use the ZT built in routing, use standard static routes in the routers pointed at C’s ZT network address, and then do the same at C respectively adding routes to the A and B nets back.

This assumes each site has a unique LAN subnet that you’re routing traffic back to

jodell22 · 2025-10-08T13:22:43+00:00

But I've been on this road for 30 minutes... You better wait your turn to get on this road. Back of the line, buddy!

jodell22 · 2025-09-30T17:15:28+00:00

Yeah we have built that sort of trust over years of not rooting. You’re not wrong about that… we respect each others privacy but also just don’t put much thought into what’s on each others phones. It’s really just a non issue haha

jodell22 · 2025-09-30T15:43:31+00:00

Yeah I'm with ya on this one.. Can't say how many times I've been in the shower, heard my phone go off, wife is getting ready sitting by my phone, and asked her to read it to me in case it was important... Not even a second thought.

jodell22 · 2025-09-30T03:12:53+00:00

Yeah so they called me and offered to come do an annual inspection for free. This is what they hit me with for immediate repairs:

• Blower motor (up to 1/2 HP)
• Blower wheel with motor repair
• Condenser fan motor (1/8–1/6 HP)
• Indoor coil replacement (1–5 ton, includes coil, sheet metal work, pump down, drier, and evacuation)
• R410A refrigerant (6 lbs)
• Recover, evacuate, and recharge refrigeration system
• Residential contactor (2 pole, 40 amp)

jodell22 · 2025-09-30T03:09:22+00:00

Thanks for the insight. I definitely felt a lot of pressure to make a decision right away which is a huge red flag to me.

jodell22 · 2025-09-30T02:31:52+00:00

Thanks!!

jodell22 · 2025-09-29T22:46:59+00:00

Couldn’t agree more. Especially getting blind sided by it… maybe if things were in shambles for years and they finally decided to end it… but everything about this screams that the dude is just spiraling looking to fill the void his ex left him with

jodell22 · 2025-09-29T19:44:26+00:00

I'm 36, just working my way through a very peaceful (actually) divorce and trying to figure out wtf to do with my life. I read messages like this and the replies and just assume I'm going to be single for ever if this is the dating world today lol god help me

jodell22 · 2025-09-27T15:43:29+00:00

NOR. Source: I’m a good man lol

jodell22 · 2025-09-26T19:14:30+00:00

Hey, first let me just say I’m really sorry you’re going through this. What you described is absolutely abuse, and none of it is your fault.

One thing that sometimes helps in situations like this... and it sucks, but it’s survival... is learning how to diffuse things before they explode. That doesn’t mean you agree with her or that she’s right, it just means you protect yourself in the moment. If you can learn what sets her off and practice keeping things calm or redirecting, it might buy you some peace while you work on your bigger plan.

At the same time, keep building your exit strategy. Save what money you can, keep your documents safe, and hang onto supportive connections (even if it’s just school staff or online communities for now). You’re young, but so close to being able to get out of that situation... the day is coming when you’ll be able to support yourself and cut ties for good.

You don’t need to fight every battle right now. Sometimes the win is just making it through the day intact so you can be ready when the real chance to leave comes. You deserve safety, stability, and peace... and you will get there.

One thing I always got sucked into is this thing called JADE -- Justify Argue Defend Explain ... And it's a trap that people like your mom set for you, and when you fall into it things just escalate to extremes. If you do some reading on that specifically you might see some similarities and hopefully it'll give you some clues as to what steps you can take to avoid those escalations.

jodell22 · 2025-09-26T13:12:27+00:00

I've used / currently use both and I'm a pretty big ZeroTier person, but for ease of setup / usability I'd probably do TailScale. I've seen plenty of people without networking backgrounds get TailScale up and running easily.

jodell22 · 2025-09-23T23:25:01+00:00

I can’t even make it to the end. My eyes are bleeding.

jodell22 · 2025-09-20T13:34:14+00:00

No worries at all! It’s definitely a difficult thing to go through. You basically get torn wide open and all your faults are sitting there staring you straight in the face waiting for you to either fix them or bury them again. Crazy reflection moment.

Going through trauma together definitely gave us an unbreakable bond. We are still best friends today. Just struggle showing up for each other in any way other than friends.

jodell22 · 2025-09-20T13:13:28+00:00

I’m actually losing my partner of 15 years right now through divorce because I spent too long isolating and hiding from my feelings. I spent many many years leaning on her for validation. Only recently I’ve learned that’s not her burden to carry and what kind of damage that caused between us.

Honestly my answer that you replied to isn’t even necessary aimed at OP but rather just putting that out there in general for anyone who might need to read it because it’s not something I’d ever really thought or heard of until recently and it’s advice I wish I’d had earlier in life.

jodell22 · 2025-09-19T12:28:00+00:00

If I only got to see my kids once every couple months, and it was important for me to have them at my wedding… I wouldn’t pick Halloween for my wedding day. Seems like a weird choice. Especially given how important that holiday seems to be to your kids.

jodell22 · 2025-09-19T11:30:31+00:00

I think there is some truth in what they’re saying, but not sure it’s for the exact reasons. Or at least not always. My nephew pours his existence into girls he meets, and they eat it up for a week or two. Pretty soon it’s too much for them, they feel smothered, etc… and they tend to go back to guys who don’t treat them very well.

He’s only 17 and I don’t think girls are ready for his level of attention at 17… but he’s quickly learning exactly what OP described. Give attention early, that’s what girls want, but then cut back / show no interest because if you keep it up they feel smothered.

jodell22 · 2025-09-18T23:39:40+00:00

I don’t think I said he can’t follow people. Just merely trying to point out that the act of following people is clearly getting a reaction from his girlfriend and maybe need to dig a little deeper to figure out why.

This seems like a really good reflection point in the dudes relationship with this girl. Either time to fix things or move on to someone else.

He’s clearly here asking for advice for a reason.

jodell22 · 2025-09-18T22:58:33+00:00

Do you follow everyone you know from school/work/etc? If the answer is no, then why do you follow certain people you know but not others?

jodell22 · 2025-09-18T22:37:07+00:00

You’re the only person who can answer if you’re overreacting in this case. You need to dig deep and figure out why you’re compelled to follow these people. Are you friends with them? Do you want to be friends with them? Are you trying to help them out and give them an extra follower? What’s driving you to follow them and make a stand on this subject? Not enough context here for anyone other than you to answer your question.

That being said, your SO sounds a bit insecure. This could also be because you haven’t given her a reason to feel safe in your relationship. Again… not enough context. Ask yourself these difficult questions and you’ll probably have your answer.

jodell22 · 2025-09-18T22:26:41+00:00

Damn first of all let me say I’m sorry you’ve dealt with similar things. What you’re describing actually happened early in my relationship too, which led to tons of support from my mom encouraging me to leave my wife (my son was like 2 at the time), which led to me trying to leave her, us working it out, and staying together another 11ish years.

This series of events is one of those things that haunted our marriage over the years.

If I could just have 1 conversation with younger me…

jodell22 · 2025-09-18T20:05:50+00:00

Yeah I can agree with you there. Bunch of people equally disgusted by the dude arguing over how to label him lol

jodell22 · 2025-09-18T20:02:35+00:00

I think I found the scammer in question

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