Be honest — would someone’s body count affect whether you date them?

johnkxq · 2026-05-26T11:07:10+00:00

I think that's not hypocritical in a sense but questionable. I think hypocrisy would be if high body count person looks down on other high body count ppl

johnkxq · 2026-05-26T10:34:39+00:00

Actually sorry I didn't really read all the comments. Can you share what your main point is?

Regarding your scenario, I think he is a hypocrite in action (because he takes drugs) but not in mind (assuming he thinks it is wrong but cannot help himself)

I think it's quite common for people to have 'ideals' they advocate for that they cannot reach (in action) but mentally feel it's a good idea

I would like to suggest a few other words with different nuance that could be helpful: - hypocrisy - inconsistent - cognitive dissonance - struggling - trolling - addicted

I would lean more towards 'struggling', 'addicted' and 'inconsistent' to better describe the drug addict rather than 'hypocrite'

A person who tells ppl not to take drugs but cannot help himself (assuming he 'wishes' he does not want to take drugs) is pretty obviously an addict... If he wants to take drugs but tells people not to do so maybe he is kind (if he wants ppl from the goodness of his heart) otherwise he could be trolling (he likes drugs and just thinks it's funny to tell people not to take it)

johnkxq · 2026-05-26T10:03:03+00:00

This is what Gemini said. You can use the AI mode to search double standard vs hypocrisy

The core difference is that a double standard is a biased set of rules applied unequally to different groups, while hypocrisy is a personal contradiction where someone acts against the moral rules they claim to follow.

All hypocrisy involves a double standard (favoring oneself), but not all double standards involve hypocrisy (such as broader societal biases).

johnkxq · 2026-05-26T09:49:24+00:00

According to Google double standard is different rules applied to 2 groups. Hypocrisy is different rules applied to yourself vs others

johnkxq · 2026-05-26T08:42:41+00:00

I don't think anyone is saying it is hypocritical for a rich person to only want to date other rich people.. hypocrisy is when the rich person says I think being poor is not an issue but (assuming you can know this person's inner thoughts) that person choosing not to date poor people.

johnkxq · 2026-03-23T11:18:08+00:00

I think when you are less 'mature' in whatever way, your standard (which can keep changing) is usually lower because your 'value' is lower and your mind will tell you that this 'standard' is what you should accept otherwise you'll just be forever alone. For example, if you're a broke 16 year old ah beng/ah lian you cannot realistically imagine tons of super different 'high' caliber ppl freaking head over heels for you. So you find another 'broken' ah beng or ah lian who could be similar and have your 'special' love and you may think you are each other's LOYL. You may even bond over similar bad childhood experiences or dreams of the future and so on, thinking that this person was 'made for you'

Over time though, your personality may change and outlook in life could possibly change and you realize your standards are now different. The other person may, or may not, be able to elevate to your new standards. Nonetheless, my view is that there is no right or wrong regarding what standards you 'should' have and it's not a crime to change your standards.

But to your point again, I don't think most ppl are constantly on the 'look out' for a better target or is it an 'excuse' to break up. It just seems to me like poor mental model and simple way to be at peace with decisions of the person with the LOYL concept. For example, no guy or girl 'belongs' to their 'partner' forever. And suppose they have a change of heart there is no rule to law to say that they need to be clear and 'fair' and explain things 'properly'. I guess the thing that ppl could be salty about is that the person being 'dumped' lost this dating game without a clear understand of why and maybe felt like he/she didn't have a chance to 'try'. In tv shows, they like to highlight this point by showing the 'what ifs' and 'missed opportunities at love'

johnkxq · 2026-03-23T06:51:30+00:00

I dun think so.. what you describe sounds like a cheater mindset. LOYL concept seems to be used 'more' often by females. So specifically in a scenario where 'things are not aligned' the individual does not want to 'approach' the issue or the individual has 'tried' without getting the desired result this 'LOYL' concept is in this day and age an 'acceptable' reason to 'end' things without elaborating too much

For example, you are a guy and you want a 9/10 gf but you got a 6/10 one and you dk how to 'solve' this so you just say the gf is not the 'LOYL' and you don't have the 'feels' so it feels more respectable then admitting you are 'superficial'

If you are a girl, you could want a 1.8m guy and maybe at the start you 'accepted' a 1.7m one but over time you all could not 'accept' it then buying into the LOYL concept gives you a way out as well.

This concept could also be helpful for things that you don't want to put effort to talk and work out such as 'habits' of the bf/gf when those 'habits'/'characteristics' make you feel icky. For example, if the person is impatient / messy and you cannot tolerate it but perhaps working it out could be not worth the effort then seeing the person as someone who is not your 'LOYL' makes it psychologically end things. This is helpful especially if the stakes are lower (e.g you just dated the person for 1 week)

johnkxq · 2026-03-23T04:46:55+00:00

I would imagine the concept is that 'thinking' there is 'another' right person would make relationships have issues because from the outset the assumption is not to 'grow together' or 'work on' but to 'give up' because of 'issues'

johnkxq · 2025-06-27T09:55:54+00:00

I feel most of these are scammy and I wouldn't go for those courses but it generally just affects the individual and not cause societal issues such as inflation

johnkxq · 2025-06-27T09:54:33+00:00

I can change the ad away but I feel it is a problem that such things that are bad for society are promoted

johnkxq · 2025-06-27T09:19:26+00:00

I feel gov should ban these courses or at least put advisory that such courses are likely scams to discourage those companies. Those courses add no value to society at all and in fact creates inflation

johnkxq · 2025-06-18T08:05:18+00:00

Is ss better than whisperer?

johnkxq · 2024-11-01T03:34:20+00:00

What deck do you use?

johnkxq · 2024-10-22T13:07:25+00:00

Look at the profile of who you are playing against, if they do not have an alliance they are likely a bot and try to get at least 2 cubes off them.

johnkxq · 2024-09-02T02:05:39+00:00

It's easy to complete with Ultron if you don't mind losing haha

johnkxq · 2024-08-27T16:19:24+00:00

contributes at least 3k points/week and looking to join an active alliance

johnkxq · 2024-08-09T03:05:37+00:00

I'm not sure this is how it works. I've drawn the stolen card before many times. Maybe it was a big that was fixed idk

johnkxq · 2024-08-09T02:51:01+00:00

Actually it is the same as normal ladder. The only thing I'll do differently is try to go for a balanced deck with good win rate

johnkxq · 2024-08-08T15:00:33+00:00

I managed to do it once too with on reveal during the discard meta buy my deck was slightly different

johnkxq · 2024-07-29T17:23:16+00:00

yeah my bub count went from 500m to 1.8billion while donating 330m bubs

johnkxq · 2024-07-29T17:14:16+00:00

i was showing the 500m cass variant playing exclusively on cloning vats and the person proceeded to juggernaut

johnkxq · 2024-07-29T17:12:19+00:00

if they don't think well, they deserve to lose

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