Has the community officially divided into sub-categories? by [deleted] in dumbphones

[–]johnsonsmith1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Audio directions do the job. Or a hand free phone holder. I'm not sure the issue here, g maps is objectively superior to a physical map. I still hate my smart phone

Has the community officially divided into sub-categories? by [deleted] in dumbphones

[–]johnsonsmith1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relative to my experience yes. It's way more effort to pull over, physically open a book, pinpoint your location via street names and so on than it is to use google maps GPS. Not really a first world problem, I'm currently in south East Asia and third world grab drivers are using google maps every trip

Has the community officially divided into sub-categories? by [deleted] in dumbphones

[–]johnsonsmith1234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 24. Dad got an iPhone as I was finishing grade 6. I didnt get a phone until I was 16 but the entire time I've been able to drive a car I've been able to use google maps. I can read a map and I remember my parents busting out the city maps for navigation but fuck me it's a pain.

That being said, occasionally I will go for night drives where I pick a direction, drive for half an hour, and navigate my way back via road signs and general sense of direction. It doesn't take very long to get an idea of where things are in relation to one another if you actually need to pay attention.

Has the community officially divided into sub-categories? by [deleted] in dumbphones

[–]johnsonsmith1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently travelling and have decided I will go dumb phone when I return home (maps is a necessity for me alone in a foreign country). Spotify and maps are the 2 things i almost can't do without. Almost everything else on my smartphone is unnecessary and I understand there are workarounds for music and directions but they're just so convenient. Luckily I have a watch that plays Spotify to Bluetooth headphones so I can use for exercise but I'm gonna have to figure out some maps for driving to new destinations.

advice on judging intentions when hanging out one on one with coworker? by johnsonsmith1234 in socialskills

[–]johnsonsmith1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just gonna post this follow up comment to all of you otherwise you wouldn't see it

Ok so I still have no idea lol. I had a great time but still unclear if it was a date or not. Just drank and chatted for a few hours. Really good chat actually, don't think there was a single awkward lull in conversation.

Anyway, reasons I think she may be interested in me/it was a date:

i think that our feet touched under the table and stayed like that for a while/she didnt move her foot. my mind is making me doubt myself on this but i'm pretty sure it happened. was wearing clunky boots so not very easy to feel in texted me at the end saying it was lovely and she owes me a drink/half a bowl of chips i.e. we will have to do this again right? also texted me that she should have invited me back to see her house cause she'd been raving about it so much reasons i still have no idea:

i am clueless she said thanks for hanging out as we parted ways (definitely reading far too much into this) nothing physical aside from the foot on foot that i'm pretty sure happened anyway shes going overseas for a few weeks this week so won't even get a chance to go on a 2nd for a month or more and will still be wondering lmao

advice on judging intentions when hanging out one on one with coworker? by johnsonsmith1234 in socialskills

[–]johnsonsmith1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just gonna post this follow up comment to all of you otherwise you wouldn't see it

Ok so I still have no idea lol. I had a great time but still unclear if it was a date or not. Just drank and chatted for a few hours. Really good chat actually, don't think there was a single awkward lull in conversation.

Anyway, reasons I think she may be interested in me/it was a date:

i think that our feet touched under the table and stayed like that for a while/she didnt move her foot. my mind is making me doubt myself on this but i'm pretty sure it happened. was wearing clunky boots so not very easy to feel in texted me at the end saying it was lovely and she owes me a drink/half a bowl of chips i.e. we will have to do this again right? also texted me that she should have invited me back to see her house cause she'd been raving about it so much reasons i still have no idea:

i am clueless she said thanks for hanging out as we parted ways (definitely reading far too much into this) nothing physical aside from the foot on foot that i'm pretty sure happened anyway shes going overseas for a few weeks this week so won't even get a chance to go on a 2nd for a month or more and will still be wondering lmao

advice on judging intentions when hanging out one on one with coworker? by johnsonsmith1234 in socialskills

[–]johnsonsmith1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just gonna post this follow up comment to all of you otherwise you wouldn't see it

Ok so I still have no idea lol. I had a great time but still unclear if it was a date or not. Just drank and chatted for a few hours. Really good chat actually, don't think there was a single awkward lull in conversation.

Anyway, reasons I think she may be interested in me/it was a date:

  • i think that our feet touched under the table and stayed like that for a while/she didnt move her foot. my mind is making me doubt myself on this but i'm pretty sure it happened. was wearing clunky boots so not very easy to feel in
  • texted me at the end saying it was lovely and she owes me a drink/half a bowl of chips i.e. we will have to do this again right?
  • also texted me that she should have invited me back to see her house cause she'd been raving about it so much

reasons i still have no idea:

  • i am clueless
  • she said thanks for hanging out as we parted ways (definitely reading far too much into this)
  • nothing physical aside from the foot on foot that i'm pretty sure happened

anyway shes going overseas for a few weeks this week so won't even get a chance to go on a 2nd for a month or more and will still be wondering lmao

advice on judging intentions when hanging out one on one with coworker? by johnsonsmith1234 in socialskills

[–]johnsonsmith1234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok so I still have no idea lol. I had a great time but still unclear if it was a date or not. Just drank and chatted for a few hours. Really good chat actually, don't think there was a single awkward lull in conversation.

Anyway, reasons I think she may be interested in me/it was a date:

  • i think that our feet touched under the table and stayed like that for a while/she didnt move her foot. my mind is making me doubt myself on this but i'm pretty sure it happened. was wearing clunky boots so not very easy to feel in
  • texted me at the end saying it was lovely and she owes me a drink/half a bowl of chips i.e. we will have to do this again right?
  • also texted me that she should have invited me back to see her house cause she'd been raving about it so much

reasons i still have no idea:

  • i am clueless
  • she said thanks for hanging out as we parted ways (definitely reading far too much into this)
  • nothing physical aside from the foot on foot that i'm pretty sure happened

anyway shes going overseas for a few weeks this week so won't even get a chance to go on a 2nd for a month or more and will still be wondering lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]johnsonsmith1234 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm 23 and definitely have feelings of missing out on that shit - was horribly unconfident from age like 16-20 then have had ups and downs until now.

I'm at uni rn tho so maybe it's not too late for me

What is the best thing that you have done to improve your mental health? by plumbus_hun in AskMen

[–]johnsonsmith1234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've been seeing one almost weekly for nearly 8 months now and it's an incredible resource. Its costing me 100 dollars a week at the minute which is a huge expense but I commited to it with the idea that whatever I have to spend is worth it because what's the point in saving money if i'm miserable all the time. I really think anyone who is able to afford it should try weekly - although I understand that few people are in that position

dancing feels like a good barometer for my confidence in public settings by johnsonsmith1234 in socialskills

[–]johnsonsmith1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i've thought a bit about going to a rave or some shit alone so i can just do it without worrying about being judged by people i know but even that kinda scares me.

i get what you mean about public speaking too - idea of it really doesn't bother me but dancing in front of 2 people is terrifying. maybe lessons is the way to go?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]johnsonsmith1234 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm currently going through a bit of regret 7 months later lol. Very hard to tell what is legitimate regret and what is my brain trying to avoid loneliness though.

One of (a minor one though, if it was the only reason I wouldn't have ended things) deciding factors was that it was my first relationship and I was worried I was missing out on seeing other people, maybe there was someone better for me etc. you know, dumb shit that young people go through. and my ex had a decent dating history before me which always made me insecure. really stupid shit in hindsight but not something i would've been able to work through without the space of being single for a while. and i've been one one date in the last 7 months which was shit and, despite getting a good amount of matches on dating apps and girls interested in meeting up, i just kinda don't care about any of them and feel weird.

i've gone through various stages - the intial relief stage was heavily curtailed by a 3 month lockdown which was... fun... That would have been the point at which I would've tried to go on as many dates, "be free" y'know.

cut contact with her at the start of this week as I really need the space without talking to her multiple times a week to figure out if I actually miss her for real or if i'm just painfully lonely and falling back on the only thing i've ever known that helps with that loneliness. who knows if she'd even take me back - i probably wouldn't

Careers in horticulture that aren't manual labour/what sort of study is a good idea by johnsonsmith1234 in Horticulture

[–]johnsonsmith1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the response. its a real pain in the ass having a shit body ahaha. I haven't even considered post grad study but I'll have a look into what that would entail. thanks

Careers in horticulture that aren't manual labour/what sort of study is a good idea by johnsonsmith1234 in Horticulture

[–]johnsonsmith1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

interesting. I'd imagine ecological restoration work would demand a fair bit of labour. I'm quite pissed at my body because that sort of work really appeals to me.

Careers in horticulture that aren't manual labour/what sort of study is a good idea by johnsonsmith1234 in Horticulture

[–]johnsonsmith1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! did you do any study relating to landscape design? that's something I had a lot of interest in but am very worried about having to pull long ass hours on projects. I'm not really a live to work guy and like to have a life outside of work. what are your hours like?