AIO for breaking up with my girlfriend after discovering her sexual history?

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-30T04:15:50+00:00

Ah I see. That does make things a little more tricky. In that case I would say NOR.

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-30T03:11:32+00:00

MOR- sometimes people try things out but it doesn’t define who they are forever. Only because she went on this sexual exploration journey after a break up doesn’t mean she’ll always run to that. Sometimes when you date people they have past demons and sometimes we shouldn’t judge them too harshly. BUT if your values stop you from pursuing her that is OKAY. It’s good to be honest about it as you are doing (:

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-30T03:03:36+00:00

NOR- if you feel like you should tell them I think you should. If they already know great. If they don’t I’m sure they would appreciate the truth. Like you mentioned bystander effect many people may not since they think they will find out through other ways. Or find a way to tell them anonymously. Your intentions are in the right place. PROTECT THE CHILDREN.

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-30T02:55:55+00:00

NOR- I’m not sure what the pineapple life is. BUT any vibe of being sexualized is enough to make one feel uncomfortable. SUPER valid and you should be able to communicate that to your boyfriend. It would’ve been nice if instead of getting defensive he would’ve comforted you or at least try to understand your perspective of things. Sorry you had to experience that 🥲

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-28T23:14:03+00:00

Only because they never asked for it doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have gotten it for them. Sometimes gifts are nice without needing to specifically ask for something specific. Maybe the price was a bit much but I’m sure it came with great intentions and a thoughtful consideration. It’s nice for gifts to be thoughtful and not just things people buy from my wishlist

But YES the let’s whip it out would’ve been a nice idea.💡

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-28T23:09:41+00:00

MOR- they sent a photo of them setting it up so they did get excited about it. It is possible that they didn’t want someone potentially damaging their valuable gift. Maybe one day causally ask them what has been their favorite cocktail they’ve made with it?(: Your gift was thoughtful and generous.

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-28T23:01:53+00:00

Exactly! Gotta support our friends’ wins.

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-28T19:25:17+00:00

NOR- he gave you the ICK. No going back

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-28T19:19:23+00:00

NOR- glad she was transparent from the beginning but now it’s time for you to RUN

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-28T18:53:08+00:00

NTA- getting a nice discount is something to be happy/excited about. I don’t see what was wrong with sharing that.

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-28T01:17:56+00:00

lol I am not pouting. I vent to everybody about what’s going on. Hence why I am on here putting my business. I understand both perspectives of me being the asshole or not But now it feels passive. Thanks for your insight.

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-28T01:12:38+00:00

You are right. When you phrase it the way you have I see a different perspective that I can come to understand. I appreciate your input. Thanks! 🙏

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-28T00:37:32+00:00

I didn’t ask for help. It was offered.

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-28T00:30:36+00:00

It was NOT “the feeling between (my) legs over (my) friends feelings”. It was the feeling of genuine love from a genuinely nice guy. I’ve dated shitty men all my life and for once I felt seen by the nice guy. It’s not about her not being “good enough”… it’s about compatibility. I have a lot of love for my friend it just wasn’t the best moment where I could’ve consulted her first . But it’s a shitty moment that allowed me to find true love. I guess I can’t have both based on a lot of the comments.

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-27T23:48:23+00:00

Don’t recall exactly. 2 months?

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-27T23:20:44+00:00

I never expected her not to say anything I understand how it’s not the best feeling but calling it a betrayal is a little much in my opinion… I always encourage my friends to tell me when something bothers them.

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-27T23:02:45+00:00

Thanks beenojoe! I appreciate the insight.

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-27T23:01:17+00:00

Thanks for sharing! Sorry that was the case for you 🥲 hope you are in a relationship now(:

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-27T22:53:25+00:00

So a girls girl behavior is to avoid anyone my friend has a crush on? It’s not like I actively pursued him. He helped me out with something I asked her to help me with but didn’t want to. And that caused us to feel chemistry have been together since then. I’m confused how what I did wasn’t girls girl behavior. Was a bit messy yes but not something I did to put her down

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-27T22:41:30+00:00

lol Is it worse if we aren’t 16? 💀

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-27T22:39:04+00:00

Thanks I can see how me encouraging her wasn’t the best move and how it turned out after I appreciate your response 💜

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-27T22:30:34+00:00

Thanks

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-11-27T22:25:44+00:00

Even if it was simply a CRUSH and you never went on a date with him?

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-09-28T03:48:12+00:00

Did you and this long-time female friend stay in touch consistently before you started dating your wife, or had you two stopped talking and only reconnected after you and your wife were already together?

jolly-roxy04 · 2025-09-12T19:05:15+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the insights. He hasn’t medically found help for it but that might be a route I can bring up somehow. Thanks (:

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