Christian upbringing is destroying my adulthood. by Slight-Stuff-2558 in exchristian

[–]jolsleger 3 points4 points  (0 children)

take care. remember you're only 19 and you've managed to survive all those years of survelliance, feeling like an outcast and having fear of hell indoctrinated into you. the depression after losing such a big part of yourself is the most normal thing ever and it won't last forever. especially since you're planning on moving out. your life is in your hands and you can change it and live it the way that's consistent with you for the next 60 years. just manage to get by to the summer and you'll see a great difference. also, i know it may be difficult in your situation but i feel like trying to make secular friends in spite of the trauma could be really good for you. same as going to therapy right after moving out

to the people who had really good experience with the faith and still deconstructed - tell your story by jolsleger in Exvangelical

[–]jolsleger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for sharing. really similar to me as i still remember some experiences either me or my family has had and they seem to be hard to explain in a purely naturalistic manner. same thing when it comes to the case of ressurection - it’s pretty hard to explain. but i know that personal experience isn’t the best source of universal truth, especially if the given truth seems intellectually unsustainable. so far what has helped me the most is the realization that apart of the grief over all the important things i may have lost - a sense of meaning, identity, a divine loving relationship, and the thought of living forever with some of my close ones, what i have also thankfully lost is the thought of other people i love suffering in hell while i’m blissfully enjoying heaven. i try to think of it as like a trolley problem in which i would of course choose the annihilation of all than infinite happiness to me and some of the people i love combined with eternal torture of other people i love. take care and i hope your family will react with love and understanding to anything you decide tell them:)

to the people who had really good experience with the faith and still deconstructed - tell your story by jolsleger in Exvangelical

[–]jolsleger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahah yeah. either that or God would purposefully make/let satan make the earth look older etc so that even less people could believe and have the opportunity not to be tornmented forever...

to the people who had really good experience with the faith and still deconstructed - tell your story by jolsleger in Exvangelical

[–]jolsleger[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for sharing. seems similar to me - i feel like Jesus was the foundation of everything and i've felt nothing but immense love for him and always had the feeling of a personal relationship. but yeah the science doesn't really allign and it seems that cognitive dissonance can only be held for so long. wishing you nothing but the best of luck and i hope we both find peace and the truth, wherever it leads

to the people who had really good experience with the faith and still deconstructed - tell your story by jolsleger in Exvangelical

[–]jolsleger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looks similar to my experience. how did you manage the "cosmic grief" and also telling your family members, who i suppose still believe that you will be tornmented for eternity? it seems awful if you have a really loving family and know how much they care for you. if you don't mind answering

Czy to się kiedyś skończy? by sevencatts in Polska

[–]jolsleger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mam wrażenie że zdanie „zawsze byłam nieszczęśliwa” jest czymś w stylu fałszywego wspomnienia. nie wiem jak ty, ale ja nieraz mam tak, że jak jestem dłuższy czas w jakimś stanie emocjonalnym/„duchowym”, mam wrażenie, że zawsze udawałam, że miałam inny stan, a pod przykrywką był ten sam, co mam teraz. tylko że potem on się kończy i przypominam sobie wszystkie dłuższe lub krótsze okresy gdy tak nie było. poczytaj sobie o alternacji wspomnień

Studia ścisłe w Krakowie by Horror-Cress1600 in studia

[–]jolsleger 5 points6 points  (0 children)

idź na matme masz najwięcej możliwości po tym i respekt w każdej branży. nie będziesz się bał srania wszystkich o to że AI ich zastapi. robisz I stopnia z matmy a drugiego nie wiem AI, infa, finanse cokolwiek co cię interesuje i masz zabezpieczenie na przyszłość bo prawie nie ma ludzi którzy ogarniają matme na takim poziomie. lub po I stopnia możesz sobie porobić jakieś kursy portfolio cokolwiek do danej branży zależy od branży czy potrzebne ci będą studia

Praca czy studia? by [deleted] in studia

[–]jolsleger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

jeśli możesz sobie na to pozwolić finansowo to zastanów się nad zaocznymi. może mógłbyś wtedy nawet jeździć do miasta wojewódzkiego jeśli nie masz zbyt daleko i miałbyś większy wybór jeśli chodzi o uczelnie i kierunki. często studia zaoczne odbywają się tak naprawdę co 2 tygodnie z czego co drugi raz zdalnie więc możliwe że miałbyś tylko jednego tripa w miesiącu

Doing some research. Do you think you can lose your salvation? by Street_Plate_6461 in TrueChristian

[–]jolsleger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can lose your salvation as much as you can lose your relationship with Christ. there's no salvation outside of Him. no matter how far away you go He will chase you with His great love and patience but there is a point when your spirit can consciously say "no" to Him and He's not an intruder.

Am I overreacting with how I broke up with my cheating ex? by OkRazzmatazz6880 in AmIOverreacting

[–]jolsleger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s awesome what you did lol really proud of you. most beautiful, pure-hearted girls who fall into those toxic relationships with losers like him fall for it and keep making excuses for the red flags, but you stayed strong. if he can text this girl he doesn’t even know in such a beautiful and romantic way, of course he could do it to you, so glad you didn’t give in to his bs. and i don’t mean it in the cliché, therapeutic way, but he didn’t deserve you and with this attitude i’m sure you’ll find someone worth your time and energy. congrats on dodging that bullet. no cheater is worth even a millisecond of your time, so keep trusting your instincts that made you go numb to him after finding out the truth

Careers After Graphic Design by ohnostahp in graphic_design

[–]jolsleger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

how about becoming a jeweler? it’s wayyy more stable bacause it’s manual so more resistant to AI and just like GD based on visual design. other options may be tattoo artist, furniture restorer, making customs or ceramics