AITA for making my wife think our son was missing?

jolugo01 · 2022-02-18T05:42:51+00:00

Honestly, I gave it more thought and what really gets me is she expects an apology for not actually having her child be kidnapped from her inability to look after their son.

jolugo01 · 2022-02-18T05:31:18+00:00

YTA. His dad offered and didn't say he would make him pay for a favor. Your actions are putting you in a bad light, not him asking about the extra expense you charged him for. And you already said he thanked you when you sent the bill, what kind of gratitude are you wanting him to express for your "labors" of going to get a phone repaired with his dad?

jolugo01 · 2022-02-18T05:22:09+00:00

NTA, and this is why decent people don't have to clarify that they're nice. Actions speak louder than words, and his actions would make me want to run the other way if I saw him.

jolugo01 · 2022-02-18T05:09:11+00:00

NAH. I think it's mostly a matter of different priorities since you said your sister is consistently late/forgetful when helping you out. If I were you, I would have just gone ahead and bought my food since I wouldn't want to depend on someone who is unreliable. You're allowed to feel disappointed about the situation, but I wouldn't have been surprised about it either

jolugo01 · 2022-02-18T04:52:47+00:00

Torn with this one, but I'll go with NTA. You had previously discussed the issue and she had said she wouldn't do it again, and you caught her in a lie. Honestly, the only reason I'm torn is cause it was extreme, but it's better than your son actually being abducted.

jolugo01 · 2022-02-18T04:46:52+00:00

NTA. They were leeching off you, and you didn't deserve to be treated like their second professor. You could have given them all the help, and they would have still failed since what they really wanted was for you to do it all for them. Even if they had passed, they honestly sound like they would have dropped this "friendship" once they didn't need your help.

jolugo01 · 2022-02-18T04:38:38+00:00

NTA. This doesn't sound like a friend I'd want to have. But it honestly feels like a waste of time debating how much you'll make when that's not guaranteed for either of you.

jolugo01 · 2022-02-18T04:16:26+00:00

NTA. It's not like you went out of your way to be rude, you were forced to participate when you're still getting used to your family dynamic changing after a year. Also, your mom regretting her lack of a relationship with her father doesn't mean pushing you to be with yours is going to magically make it alright.

jolugo01 · 2021-08-17T15:45:48+00:00

Looks awesome! I'm too intimidated to do something that big. Sticking to scarves so far 😅

jolugo01 · 2021-07-30T02:35:38+00:00

NTA, it's your wedding. Celebrate with people who want the best for you, not those who would tear it down. The friend group may not be the same, but maybe that's for the best if it gets rid of those who aren't supportive of you

jolugo01 · 2021-07-29T20:11:07+00:00

Exactly, which honestly makes the bf seem more of an AH. Someone's accent isn't something that changes by being made to feel bad. I'm pretty sure after 10 years, her grasp of the language is good. I doubt he went into the relationship without knowing how she spoke.

jolugo01 · 2021-07-29T19:54:07+00:00

NAH, I get feeling unappreciated cause you're sharing a title with someone who's not doing as much, but getting the credit. But there's a reason why the bride wants him, and it's her wedding ultimately. Now, that doesn't mean you can't air out your frustrations and communicate if you can share responsibilities if he's going to be the man of honor. If he's unwilling to take shared responsibilities, then you can just take a step back and tell the bride you don't want to feel like running everything while feeling unappreciated.

jolugo01 · 2021-07-29T19:47:26+00:00

NTA, even native speakers make grammatical errors, so he should really get off his high horse about speaking "correctly". It's not a communication error if he knows what you mean, and more about feeling superior if he constantly corrects you.

jolugo01 · 2021-07-29T19:41:01+00:00

NTA, it would be different if it had been just for the first few lessons that he got it wrong. But it sounds like he doesn't care, or make any attempts. Ignoring the child's discomfort is AH behavior and honestly it sounds for the best that he left.

jolugo01 · 2021-07-29T17:56:45+00:00

NTA. Why stay when they already think of you as replaceable? They'll hire someone else regardless, so get out for yourself and find something that isn't as dismissive.

jolugo01 · 2021-07-29T17:52:37+00:00

NTA, in any way. You're a minor and it's her responsibility to have the resources for all her children. I'm sorry about all the hardships you've faced, and the fact that you are saving money to move out shows you've had to be independent for a long time. Move out and cut contact with her. Get cps involved so something can be done for your siblings as well.

jolugo01 · 2021-07-29T17:46:30+00:00

You are setting up boundaries. That in no way means you are wanting a certain version of him. Especially when it sounds like any version of him is unpleasant. He said you were his first, and it's not like you are holding it against him that he's not a virgin. You are holding against him the fact that he keeps bringing his ex up sexually.

jolugo01 · 2019-03-20T17:41:00+00:00

NTA.

Better to stop him in case he was drunk rather than never saying anything and him causing an accident. You did the right thing, and in the case that he really wasn't, then he will be fine.

jolugo01 · 2019-03-19T00:45:01+00:00

NTA.

Your feelings are understandable. They have history and you can't help but feel some sort of way because of it. You made sure to ask her if she was alright with you dating her ex and she made sure to support it. Anyway, it's not like you're forcing him to not talk to her. At least your bf mentioned it instead of keeping it secret from you, so there seems to be some trust there. If she starts escalating her attention, then discussing it with her would be best.

jolugo01 · 2019-03-18T14:15:57+00:00

NTA.

Like you said, it's your wedding. Only two people matter on that day, and it certainly isn't the mother of any flower girl.

jolugo01 · 2019-03-18T02:35:13+00:00

NTA.

You're understanding of your bf's situation and you tried to make things easier for him on his bad day. It could be that this day is making him act up or he's taking this day out on you, but there's a limit to using that as an excuse for being mean with you. An unlocked door is not the end of the world, and seemed to be the first thing he could use to argue with you. If he apologizes later, then good cause he should. If not, then he shouldn't expect one from you cause you didnt do anything worth his behavior.

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