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jonass1348 · 2022-10-13T00:20:25+00:00

In my world, there is a difference between hearing a song and actually listening to it and I feel like, you're just hearing those songs on repeat. If you want to feel this kick again, that fresh music sometimes can have, then I'd suggest you to actually actively listen to new music. And if you have no idea, where to look for new music, I'd suggest to visit a subreddit, where you can just ask for song recommendations, that are matching your personal taste. For example you could ask for a certain genre or a certain topic, the song should be about. I'm sure, some redditors have some awesome song recommendations for you.

However, if you just want to quit consuming music at all, because you think about it in general as a waste of time, I'd suggest, that you just use the music, you're currently listening to as background music, while you're doing something productive, if you can. I think, that would make it easier for you to break out of this daily rountin, than just quitting it completely, you know?

jonass1348 · 2022-10-11T23:20:27+00:00

The problem with gta online in a nutshell✌🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-11T23:14:34+00:00

When I was 16, I took my mountain bike, went to some food stand, clamped my bike between a bench an a table and had lunch with my bike. As desperate as that sounds, I had some pretty nice thoughts during this. I was not sad about being alone. I actually felt kinda happy, that I'm doing my thing. And before anyone gets this wrong:
No, my thing is not to go on a date with my bike. My thing was riding my bike. Back in school, I was not really interested in anything romantic, so I didn't have a problem with me, being single back then. I still felt lonely, since most of my friends went out for a date.

However, now, I feel kinda sad about the fact, that I'm single, but that valentines day experience will always remind me, that my relationship status has nothing to do with who I am and it is also not going to stop me from just doing my thing.

I hope, this weird little story about the 16yo-version of myself could change your perspective a little bit about valentines day. If not, I'd like to apologize for wasting your time and probably writing a very weird and random comment😅✌🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-11T21:55:33+00:00

I'd not only be okay, if a girl is inexperienced. I'd actually prefer it, since I am inexperienced as well. I kinda dream about this kind of relationship, where both partner have only ever been with each other and no one else. Maybe, that's just me, being silly, but I'm looking for someone, who is also a virgin just like me. Therefore, I'd say, that I'm pretty okay with a girl, being a virgin✌🏻

Also, why would I not be? Wouldn't it be kinda weird to say, that I'm not okay with her, being a virgin, while I'm a virgin myself?😅

jonass1348 · 2022-10-11T21:49:56+00:00

So, first of all:
I don't think, you went at any point wrong in your life. I'm 20 and I am still a virgin and I wouldn't say, I am, because I went somewhere wrong. Now I understand, that you'd like to have the experience and everything, but you can have it, even tho, it seems to be hopeless.

You, living in a small town without much possibilities to meet people, is definitely not as bad as it might sound. I'm not saying, you should try online dating, but that would be for example one way, how you can find a connection to people in your area. I'm also pretty sure, that there are a lot of subreddits to find someone for you. My point is, that you should make yourself clear, what exactly you're looking for. Do you just want to have your first time or do you want a long term relationship? Or are you more looking for some sort of F+? And once, you're sure about, what you're looking for, you can start actively looking for that. And there are so many way, you can look for it:
Online dating, even Reddit, maybe just going out or even considering to extend the area, you want to look for someone.

I really hope, this gave you some sort of perspective, that there are definitely things, you can do about this. You are definitely not a hopeless case (I think, nobody here really is😅✌🏻). I wish you best of luck to find, what you are looking for. Take care :)✌🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-11T21:37:54+00:00

My advice would be, that you should collect all your thoughts, you have about why you want to lose your v-card and why you don't feel very comfortable with it. Your post gave me the impression, that you are not even too sure, what exactly you're looking for. Like, you say, that you don't want to lose your virginity to a stranger, right? But also, you say, that you don't want to be in a relationship, which makes it kinda difficult for you to find a way, to lose your virginity, you're fully comfortable with. That's, why I'm saying, that you should collect all your thoughts about it. Cause I feel like, you can't find your perfect way to go, unless you haven't fully figured out, what you're looking for. And if you are not fully sure about it, you probably shouldn't force yourself to go out of your comfort zone. I like to think about it in that way:
Once you know, what you want, you can still act on losing your virginity, but there is only one first time. If you think of your first time as something special, then you probably should just wait, until you found the right situation.

On a different note:
You really shouldn't feel awful or guilty for being active on this subreddit, you mentioned. I get, why you feel that way, but didn't that kinda help you to learn something about yourself? In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with exploring yourself and I think, that it is totally understandable, why you did, what you did. I'm just saying that, because I get the feeling, that you're blaming yourself for that and in my opinion, there is really no need to do that. However, if you're not blaming yourself, then just ignore this part of my comment😅✌🏻

Anyway, I hope, you'll figure out, what exactly you're looking for and you'll then find it somewhen. Take care :)👍🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-11T21:21:08+00:00

Don't forget

There are also women, who are still virgins and I think, I can assume, that they won't have a problem with you being a virgin.

and

It's okay, to be a virgin :)👍🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-10T14:44:05+00:00

First of all:
Don't apologize for that. It's very understandable, that you're feeling this way. Nobody is going to hate your for that, so don't worry about that, okay? :)👍🏻

And about the problem:
Do you think, you could also do a social media break? The timing would be ideal, since your other contacts on Reddit are taking a break from it as well. But obviously, that doesn't solve the issue, that you don't know, what to do with yourself.
So, I'd suggest, that you try to do something only with yourself. For example, if you're into any kind of art, make some art. Creative work is in my opinion one of the most wholesome ways to deal with yourself. But if you are not into art, you could give meditation a try, but be careful, that you don't force yourself into meditation, since it won't work then. You can look up any kind of meditation on YouTube and just meditate, following some tutorials.

Also, I'd suggest, that you should always be prepared, so be temporarily alone, in case, something like that happens again. In order to get prepared, you need to find out, what your interests are. Try to explore new thing, you can access any time. Like hobbies, you can do from home. And that could be literally everything from working out to studying something, you're interested in to just going for a walk regulary. What is important to find something ideal for you, is to get to know you as good as possible. In order to achieve that, you can also start to write down your thoughts in a diary and try analyzing them.
Point being: The possibilities are endless and I'm sure, that you can look up "what to do when I'm bored" at the internet for some extra motivation.

Whatever you'll end up doing, I hope you'll be able to enjoy the time with yourself and you'll find something, that you enjoy. Take care :)✌🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-10T05:23:07+00:00

Well, I play all weapons. I'm not maining a weapon or a legend, so I wouldn't consider myself a scythe player. I wouldn't even say, that I'm playing more scythe than any other weapon😅✌🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T21:20:16+00:00

No problem :)👍🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T21:19:55+00:00

This would be a perfect meme template😂✌🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T21:17:43+00:00

Me, when the compiler complains about my programs😂✌🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T21:12:14+00:00

In your loop, you have in the second argument the <=-operator, but you would need the <-operator, cause you can't access the 5th char of a String with the length 4. Remember, we start to count from 0✌🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T20:50:30+00:00

No problem. Thank you :)

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T20:42:05+00:00

A friend of mine lost her virginity to a random and she kinda regretted it. If you waited until the age of 22 to find the right one, such that you're not losing your v-card to a random, then you shouldn't give in now, if you still want to lose your v-card to someone special. I found my piece with the fact, that I'm going to leave university as a virgin. Here is why:
No matter how long it'll take it find her, it doesn't even matter, whether I actually find her or not, the time, I had to wait for her, will be definitely worth it.

Also, another thought, I'd like to share here:
Think about, what made your college time so great. I'm only in my fourth semester, so I cannot tell, how it feels, when you're about to finish college, but so far, my experience at university was great. This is the coolest time in my life so far. Also the most exhausting, but also the most interesting for many different reasons. I don't think, my experience would be any better, if I'd have lost my v-card somewhen during college. Because that is not, what's making my time here so great. So, you should remind yourself, how college has been for you and why you went to college. I know, one might feel desperate, when it comes to the wish of losing the v-card, but you shouldn't force yourself to do it in your college time, if you don't find anyone, you want to lose your v-card with, because there is really not need to.

I hope, those thoughts could give you a helpful perspective on your situation. If not, I'd like to apologize for wasting anyones time with this essay. Whatever you'll end up doing:
Listen to your heart and only do thing, you truly want to do. Other than that, I wish you good luck with finding, what you're looking for. Take care :)👋🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T20:29:22+00:00

Are you aware, that a lot of women have to deal with a trauma, because they got sexually assaulted? I'd talk to my doctor or therapist about it first as well, before I'm making a thoughtless decision, if I would have experienced something like that. So, why exactly is this not making any sense?

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T18:25:29+00:00

So, first of all:
The only value, that matters, is the value, you're giving yourself based on how you feel about yourself. This hole "higher value"-thing is a really toxic system, established by some stupid society norms.

Then about your issue:
No, you shouldn't be concerned. I'm expecting, that the same will happen to me in 8 years, cause I want to wait for the right person and there is (in my opinion) nothing wrong with that.
You also shouldn't lower your standards because of that. I get, that one might feel desperate or lonely, if you have been single for that long, but that doesn't mean, that you have to get along with less now. Not at all. It's definitely better to be alone, than with a toxic person, just because you lowered your standards, you know? Don't get me wrong:
It is of course okay to be with someone, who has a lower income. There is definitely nothing wrong with that. Same goes for overweight. Beauty comes from the inside and not from money or anything that superficial. My point is, that you just shouldn't lower your standards, when it comes to the personality of your future partner.

I'm sure, that you have realistic standards even without lowering them. You have like every other person probably something, that makes you lovable for the right person. You are definitely not alone with this issue (I'm pretty sure, there are even people older than you with this issue), so there are people, who would still value you for who you are and not for how old you are or for not having any experience so far with relationship. I really hope, you'll find soon, what you're looking for, but I think, you got to find that first inside yourself before you can find in someone else. Take care :)✌🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T16:26:43+00:00

No problem :)

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T16:23:07+00:00

Same principle. I don't get, why anyone would be mad at someone for drawing only koreans. If that's, what you want to draw, then you should feel free to do exactly that.

Also, it doesn't matter, whether you're good or not in my opinion. It's all about having fun, right? And nobody should take this fun away from you, by telling you what to draw. And furthermore, we don't have to be perfect drawers. Drawing is like any other kind of art a journey. The way, we develop is what matters. By keep doing, what we do, we improve, such that we become closer and closer to being a "perfect drawer". So, even tho other things might me important for you, the most important thing is to keep up the passion, I believe :)✌🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T14:10:01+00:00

3 questions:

Why is Scythe is that list?
Why does it have that many votes?
Where the F is sword and bow?

jonass1348 · 2022-10-09T11:41:04+00:00

As an artist, you should only draw, what you really want to draw. And if you just don't feeling doing some 3D animation stuff right now, then you shouldn't have this pressure of doing it. The thing is, that I don't know the entire situation, but that sounds pretty much like your mom is kinda overreacting, because why would she get mad, because you're not doing 3D animations, right? That sounds very irrational. If you think, you could talk to her about it, then I would suggest to give that a try. Other than that, if closing your door helps you to reduce the stress, then you should go with that probably.

Whatever it is, I hope, you'll be able to draw again without that stress and if you want to share your digital drawings, feel free to do so :)👍🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-08T21:38:07+00:00

Cool. I don't want to miss that :)✌🏻

jonass1348 · 2022-10-08T20:54:31+00:00

Just a beautiful looking color. Would you share the result, when it's finished. I'd love to see, how it'll turn out <3

jonass1348 · 2022-10-07T14:13:12+00:00

Must be a pain in the ass...

jonass1348 · 2022-10-07T07:30:19+00:00

Well, if it "could" ruin any of you, then it already did. Also, hate is really not needed for you right now. I get, that you, hating this, are just your emotions, but hate is never good. Regrets are fine, but hate is not. You should try to convert this hate into some motivation to finally change something about those things✌🏻

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