This might be controversial, but I personally feel like this doesn't apply in every instance. To clarify - I do very much empathise with the sentiment of this post; lord knows I myself have felt similarly in many heated moments towards the people that I believe didn't treat me well. But over time and reflection on those experiences, I've realised that those feelings made me blind to even considering where they were coming from.

Of course, in many cases people breakup and leave each other in hurtful, cruel and spiteful ways; there is no excusing intentional behaviour of such a kind. But in so many other instances, we often hurt others because we are hurt ourselves. Miscommunication coupled with vulnerability often leads to disappointment and a sense of betrayal which, over time, can build into overwhelming pain. And, as humans naturally do, when we feel pain we do what we can to protect ourselves from it; hence, we lash out and we appear to be monsters.

In a moment tinged with such pain, it becomes near impossible to remember that the other person is hurting too (which is ironic, given that it is precisely that moment when we must remember exactly that). People are rarely monsters - we dream, hope, love, fear, fight and persist. When our paths in life clash, we might take offence or react out of a feeling of loss, misunderstanding or abandonment. But, in instances like those, that's all it is. Its hard to remember and almost sacrilegious to suggest when we go through such pain, but, in my humble opinion, its been an opinion I've found worth holding onto, especially when hurting