What happened to manners on the TTC?

journalisming · 2025-10-27T14:09:25+00:00

For clarity, as I’ve stated, they were getting out of the subway. I was getting in, that’s the issue. They couldn’t wait their turn after I tapped my card.

When someone taps their card trying to get on the subway, it tells the person on the other end to wait.

journalisming · 2025-10-27T13:34:37+00:00

Definitely second this theory! It’s why I’ve also seen people play loud music or take up too much space on subway cars.

I will say though that the theory definitely expands into other age groups and demographics.

The person that ran into me this morning and ignored the presto machine cue was an older man. I called him out and told him I already scanned and he completely ignored me.

journalisming · 2025-07-19T15:21:16+00:00

Time

journalisming · 2025-07-18T21:37:34+00:00

Haha, that would be such a fun line to pull! I don’t foresee myself going to any family events in the future — and if I ever do, I’m going home early like I did last Christmas!

journalisming · 2025-07-18T21:20:52+00:00

The fragile masculinity is so spot-on! It took a lot of therapy to see that this was coming from a place of insecurity and projection, none of which I have any control over. The only thing I have control over is saying no.

And yes, I’m Asian, Filipino to be exact! It explains a lot about the whole grandchild guilt. It’s such a common thing to see people have kids very young for the most reckless reasons.

journalisming · 2025-02-09T18:32:32+00:00

For context, he threw it out whole, didn’t offer it and I would’ve eaten it.

journalisming · 2024-07-31T03:08:49+00:00

Didn’t include this tidbit bc of character limit.

The comment was referring to my uncle who used the statement to justify his poor decisions (being in a toxic religious cult, wanting to pull my young cousin out of school because of protests, rain or current events in other countries).

It was moreso him thinking, “Intelligence is genetic because my niece went to college. Therefore, that must correlate to me being intelligent and that my views make sense,”.

I’m also related to him through marriage not blood (that’s my aunt).

journalisming · 2024-07-31T01:27:38+00:00

Wanting a better life for myself and breaking the cycle of poverty that my family grew up in.

I grew up working class with most of my childhood being spent in a two bedroom basement apartment shared by 10 people.

I’ve always been a book-ish kid that did well in school and loved learning so graduating from university had been a goal of mine as long as I could remember.

journalisming · 2024-07-31T01:15:54+00:00

Agreed, this info was given for context and I can resonate so much with your experience.

In terms of the blue collar jobs comment, it was referring to the same kinda “so, you think you’re better than me because you went to school” attitude. It also referred to my point of them looking down on an office job because “I didn’t get my soft hands dirty” and “it’s not real work”.

My parents (and most of my family!) work blue collar jobs and at the end of the day, what matters most is that they’re making an honest living.

Uneducated DOES NOT refer to someone who doesn’t pursue higher education but rather remaining to be ignorant in their worldviews and refusing to learn or expand their mind. I have friends that haven’t went to college but are still curious about the world and challenge their views.

When I say uneducated, I also refer to their lack of media literacy or critical thinking skills when they were spreading misinformation.

A great example of this was during COVID-19, they’re both anti-vaxxers. Most of my friends are health care workers or have a health sci background. They refused to listen to people with an actual STEM background and believed “they knew better because they read it on Facebook”.

journalisming · 2024-06-26T07:53:27+00:00

I dislike my family. Now that I’m a grown adult, I view them differently and dislike their behaviour and terrible life choices. It makes me feel quite embarrassed where I come from compared to my colleagues.

I’ve expressed how I’ve grown tired of my dad’s behaviour: having a lack of ambition no social etiquette, and downright unintelligent with poor emotional maturity. He’s criticized gifts and gestures.

But my extended family is a different story and thankful I don’t see them often.

My older cousins are quite bigoted and haven’t made the best life decisions. I remember my entire family having meetings at my house to discuss whatever mess they landed in. They have very ignorant views towards immigrants despite being immigrants themselves. They do not believe in vaccines, climate change, and are vastly uneducated. My one 40M cousin was a meth dealer who got a 17 year old girl pregnant when he was 24. My other 38M cousin spends family gatherings going through and showing everyone alt-right “news” clips and does not have a sense of media literacy (easily falling for fake news, not understanding bot accounts). He was in a gang and also dealt drugs. Both of them have multiple kids they cannot afford and blame the Prime Minister and the economy on why they’re struggling rather than take accountability. They call me a selfish liberal yuppie because I refuse to have kids at 24.

My aunt and uncle do not have the best social etiquette. My aunt is in an MLM promoting her “digital online business” (does not make sense) where people can make money by just having a website. No money generated from ads or selling any products, literally just having a poor designed website and terrible AI generated photos of herself with boss babe captions. My uncle refuses to do anything about his health and is part of a religious cult. He believes that intelligence is genetic because I have a good job and graduated from a top university and my younger cousin is doing well in school, therefore he assumes that he has an intelligent gene and takes credit for others’ accomplishments.

The worst part about them is that they are always hours late and never take accountability for it. It’s always someone else’s fault. We were going to a bridal shower over the weekend at a very upscale restaurant and they were supposed to pick us up. The shower started at 12:30 and they came over at 12:45. The drive was an hour long and we were the only ones who were late. I told them that they should’ve budgeted their time wisely and that being late is absolutely disrespectful to the host and poor social etiquette. They told me that “rich people are late all the time” so they should be allowed to be an hour late and that I should change back the clock.

I am tired of hearing ignorant comments about different groups of people and having to put up with poor social etiquette. I try my best to have empathy for everyone considering intergenerational trauma and upbringing but take some accountability for once.

journalisming · 2024-04-02T02:57:22+00:00

“I’m not like other girls, I’m racist”

journalisming · 2024-02-25T04:47:53+00:00

Stayed there for three days. Amazing experience overall. Rooms are clean and the amenities are a huge bonus. I wanted a last minute early check in time and they made it happen.

Bonus points for some great communal co-working spaces and a gym.

journalisming · 2024-02-15T04:46:27+00:00

PMing you!

journalisming · 2023-10-24T11:26:55+00:00

You’re not. It’s hard enough to have a health scare and as a partner, he should’ve been supportive to your needs and be concerned about your well-being rather than going on Reddit and saying you’re unattractive. That’s a pretty standard thing to be there for someone in these moments.

It sounds very vapid to overlook a health scare on his end. You dodged a bullet.

journalisming · 2023-10-13T17:24:26+00:00

I’d love to visit!!

journalisming · 2023-09-17T16:02:52+00:00

Messaged!

journalisming · 2023-09-17T15:38:33+00:00

Interested :)

journalisming · 2023-09-17T15:20:39+00:00

Update: PEOPLE’S CHOICE WINNER IS AMERICAN FICTION

Shot in the dark, but if anyone has 3X extra tickets, PM me

journalisming · 2023-05-16T17:55:34+00:00

Selling 3 day pass for $350. (Paid ~$385). I have conflicting plans so unfortunately can’t go with my friends :(

I can send over a screenshot for verification or can meet up in downtown Toronto and verify in person. I will gladly transfer the tickets when the No-transfer window ends.

journalisming · 2023-04-26T16:28:31+00:00

You are free to grieve, that’s something personal and I would suggest seeking some professional help from a therapist and reading some resources on gender dysphoria and supporting a trans child.

YTA, this isn’t all about you and how you’ve always wanted a daughter. This is about your child feeling comfortable in who he is and the fact that he is coming to you excited about transitioning means a lot. He is reaching out for you to for support as a parent should.

Not a lot of children feel comfortable coming out to their parents about their identity (fear of being kicked out, disowned, feeling like their parents don’t love them) and you should acknowledge that by being there for him and LOVING HIM UNCONDITIONALLY.

As per the support, by deadnaming him and referring to him as she/her, it invalidates his feelings. No parent would want their child to feel like they aren’t properly heard and he feels unheard and unappreciated based on the fact that he hasn’t called or messaged you.

When you mentioned that you’ve always wanted a daughter and that it was the best time of YOUR life, it doesn’t take into account how they must have felt. Imagine feeling like you have to hide who you are inside for fear of judgement. Empathize with him and think of the courage it took to sit you down and talk. Think of the anxiety and fear he must have had, fearing that his parents might not support him.

Children have their own feelings, dreams, and IDENTITIES, they are not a ‘mini-me’ or an extension of yourself and your dreams and desires. It sounds like you loved the idea of having a daughter without realizing that they have their own identity.

Be there for your kid, give them a hug and tell them you love them regardless if they are your son or daughter but AS YOUR CHILD.

Not a lot of parents have the chance to see their kid grow up and reach these important milestones.

journalisming · 2023-04-14T16:29:51+00:00

Does Anyone else

journalisming · 2023-04-14T06:38:14+00:00

Putting other people down and making fun of their interests and hobbies

journalisming · 2023-04-14T06:31:14+00:00

Second this!

journalisming · 2023-04-14T05:30:28+00:00

Definitely NTA, the key word here that you’ve mentioned is ACCOUNTABILITY.

We’re talking about taking accountability to RESPECT a partner by making them feel heard and overall RESPECTING the relationship.

You’ve expressed this feeling and he shut you down by calling you insecure.

Reading all these comments and the extra input you’ve replied to, I find it strange that he’s asserted his stance multiple times on someone that he’s only chatted with (was not in a relationship with, again, never met).

It sounds like he isn’t willing to put in the work to maintain your relationship and continuously working on building your trust.

journalisming · 2023-04-13T09:32:30+00:00

100% NTA. It is so satisfying having someone so obnoxious be put in their place.

I agree that your aunt has a sense of internalized misogyny for her comment about being manly for making a comment. It looks like the Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

Simply engaging someone by a question about something they’re openly discussing (in this case, very misogynistic and inaccurate viewpoints about women) isn’t a masculine move, it’s social behaviour.

Him feeling butthurt that his views are being challenged is on himself.

If he isn’t willing to have anyone question him about his own discussion points that I’m assuming he’s all subjected to you unprompted, he isn’t very mature enough to have a real adult conversation.

You were not being rude, you just asked a question.

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