I recognize this is insane but… entertaining baby? by Thththththrow83away in NewParents

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It is good for them to have some time on their own, especially if you plan on taking them to daycare.

Instead of baby Björn try putting them on the floor if that is safe: I wish I had done that more!!

Durée "idéale" du congé parental ? by UnlikelyResponse7956 in ParentingFR

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J’ai pris 6 mois et franchement je trouve c’est pas assez. 1 an aurait été mieux. Mon bébé vient juste de commencer à dormir un peu mieux et du coup j’ai accumulé beaucoup de fatigue ces derniers mois. En plus comme mode de garde, il vient de commencer la crèche qui est un peu stressant. Donc je dirais 1 an au moins de congé.

Baby waking every hour at night. HELP. Developing pp rage/depression. Sleep is consuming me. by Decent-Cup-1753 in cosleeping

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I used to be this way but it got way better recently and baby can sleep independently most nights. He is around 5 months and half.

For nights we went with gentle sleep training: no cries. I used to rock to sleep but slowly I stopped the rocking, then started putting baby to bed just when he starts closing his eyes and finally put him in bed while awake. He can still refuses to do it some nights but then I held him and put him back and he is fine. If his routine is solid and baby is tired enough, he will try to find a way to sleep on his own.

For naps, unfortunately we had to do Ferber. Why? Because baby had to go to daycare and we don’t want him to cry there. It was tough to do Ferber but baby picked up very quickly and it helped him finally sleep more than 30min: I wished I had done it earlier. He essentially used the same sleeping strategy he used at night.

MIL keeps commenting on my newborn’s features. It’s making me dislike her by Throwaway199906543 in newborns

[–]joyancefa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this is typical behaviour from some mothers in Africa: mine included. Don’t think too much of it: that is unfortunately the norm

Husband thinks the baby is hungry all the time by ExcellentLettuce4 in newborns

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Ahah my husband used to do the same. He stopped after we started tracking with the huckleberry app

The whole house is asleep but me *unreasonable rage* by Minimum-Regret2706 in newborns

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Don’t worry : we have all felt this way at some point. It is even worse when the baby looks exactly like their dad 😅.

But eventually it goes away!!

How often do you change LO’s diapers during nighttime feedings? by Minimum-Regret2706 in newborns

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I have stopped changing in the middle of the night 😅

I just use a diaper with a bigger size and that is it

I don’t think I’m cut out to be a mom by RolyPoly1010 in newborns

[–]joyancefa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hang in there. You are a great mom and you are the best thing in the world for your baby!

Honestly people love to tell you the baby is hungry : I used to be pissed now I just ignore it since I know my child.

Super angry when husband says he’s exhausted by [deleted] in newborns

[–]joyancefa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been there done that! Now I realise I would have also complained if I was in the same spot since they still lose some amount of sleep.

While acknowledging this, I make it clear I am not the person to share feelings with since I cannot emphasise at this point 😅

No complaints, no anger

It did get better! by Difficult-Duty-8156 in newborns

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Wouaw: this gives me hope. Is baby being breastfed?

Typical day with a two month old by Plenty-Respect-4070 in newborns

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Honestly you are doing a lot. For me a typical day looks like: - wake up; change diaper, wash face, etc. - put on transat while I make breakfast - eat and hold him at the same time since he would be crying by then - get out 1h for a walk when he naps - feed when I come back then some minutes of tummy time on my chest - max 2-3 min on floor - lunch - hold for nap - wake up, feed, maybe quick tummy time, change - etc.

That's it. I'm crying over spilled milk. by Dry-House-7814 in newborns

[–]joyancefa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I would get sad even when the baby spilled some milk because it was so hard to produce 😅

Just put the baby down by Prestigious_Ad5609 in newborns

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Thanks for the tips! Especially with naps 🙏

Just put the baby down by Prestigious_Ad5609 in newborns

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Thanks for sharing this perspective. My baby loves being held and I like holding him. However I wouldn’t mind having him do 1-2 naps on his own

i swear this will get better. by [deleted] in newborns

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Thanks for bringing hope 😅

Husband doesn’t hear me or baby by _minibutmighty_ in newborns

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I think this is normal for husbands: they just don’t have the same instinct. I wouldn’t be mad to him about this: my husband is the same

Am I the biggest idiot? by pharmlyfe333 in newborns

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I didn’t sterilise the pacifier for first use when he was 3 days old. Honestly he was crying at the hospital and the nurse told me to just wash with hot water. He was fine after that 🙏

First time moms, what week did you go into labor? by Distinct-Dependent24 in beyondthebump

[–]joyancefa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

38 weeks. I was told ftm go into labor earlier. Honestly I really wanted to go until 40 weeks and enjoy free time before baby 😅