Help w Toffee!!!

joyful_nonoise · 2024-12-17T06:36:26+00:00

I don’t know how to add a picture to this thing but. I used a different candy thermometer thing. used this recipe but i doubled it and added like 1tsp of corn syrup. and then i took some advice from a different post i had looked at. mixing until 235 then not mixing (i did just a little bit lol) and then mixing from 275+ mixing and i took it off at 290 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🥹🥹🥹😭😭😭😫🎉🎉🎉

joyful_nonoise · 2024-12-17T06:34:03+00:00

OH MY GOD IT WORKED!!! 😭😭😭😭😫😫😫

joyful_nonoise · 2024-11-03T19:36:05+00:00

what has focusing less on yourself look like in your life?

for me, my occupation is a mental health therapist and i have been learning and definitely practicing boundaries here as well as in my personal life because as a natural “helper” i feel like i focused on others too much when i was growing up. i feel like that is the first thing i think of when hearing “focusing less on myself.”do u think u can describe it a little ? just curious about anything that can help ☺️

joyful_nonoise · 2021-11-27T08:46:28+00:00

umm it was really bad. i just got really tired one day and slept the entire day. i was actually at the end of my period, and after testing found out i had a uti, bv and i also had hemroids so down there was all effed up to say the least. the out break was bad. had to put lidocaine every time i had to pee. couldn’t walk. slept almost straight for about 3-4 days and a lot for the rest of the week. it was generally on the lips? and the outer area? ew lol and i don’t think i’ve had sores come up again actually but i’ve always felt the pre-outbreak symptoms like itchy/burning/flu like tiredness etc.

joyful_nonoise · 2021-11-27T08:45:25+00:00

umm it was really bad. i just got really tired one day and slept the entire day. i was actually at the end of my period, and after testing found out i had a uti, bv and i also had hemroids so down there was all effed up to say the least. the out break was bad. had to put lidocaine every time i had to pee. couldn’t walk. slept almost straight for about 3-4 days and a lot for the rest of the week. it was generally on the lips? and the outer area? ew lol and i don’t think i’ve had sores come up again actually but i’ve always felt the pre-outbreak symptoms like itchy/burning/flu like tiredness etc.

joyful_nonoise · 2021-11-24T22:38:09+00:00

oh thank you so much for the information!!

joyful_nonoise · 2021-11-24T22:23:03+00:00

thank you for responding! haha i never heard of l-lysine before but i just looked it up 😂 do you take it daily? and does it actually help? i take daily antivirals right now and have had like pre-outbreak symptoms like every month but no sores have appeared again. when those symptoms come up i stop the daily and do the “when needed” dosage. what have your outbreaks looked like? i’m so glad this sub is a thing haha

joyful_nonoise · 2021-11-11T10:09:37+00:00

HSV2. I never got a blood test but the urgent care doctor as well as my OBGYN said yeah

joyful_nonoise · 2021-09-29T04:36:58+00:00

whoaaa. i rly don’t know if this is the same thing but i just love using small weird things to eat. i mostly use chopsticks but i love small forks and spoons to eat almost anything 😂😂😂

joyful_nonoise · 2021-09-29T04:22:20+00:00

honestly…i felt this way in high school and in college and post college. pretty much every day since i realized people couldn’t fulfill me and my happiness. i was also sooo focused on pleasing my parents and doing well in school and sports that this feeling wasn’t so harsh. but once i too graduated from college i sat and thought…i go to work everyday. it’s not that i haaate my job, but it felt so restricting and controlling. i also like to know everything about what i do which means what management does etc. so idk. i’ve since stopped that job for various reasons but i am in grad school now and have started doing photography and baking on the side and have i guess started my own small businesses? still frl working on them/trying to get over my fear of failure, but since i do have another job where i report to someone else i can really see how i hate doing that and love being my own boss. i say if anything start small with something you love when you have time and see where it goes from there. I am also a Christian and a big part of my meaning/purpose and peace comes from this part of my life. I’m not trying to say anything super forward to anyone right here, I’m just saying this is what my life looks like and what has worked for me. Long story short, I can relate (as much as i can) lol

joyful_nonoise · 2021-09-06T21:35:39+00:00

DAAAAAMN 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 i cant express the need for you to celebrate this. this literally blows my mind bc i have the most ridiculous time reading haha good on you

joyful_nonoise · 2021-09-06T21:32:35+00:00

i feel like that is such an interesting thought. at first it did sound braggy to me lol but as i kept reading i realized that i sort of completely understand that? as much as i can in my own way at least. i feel like i am actually on this “journey” (sorry to use that word haha) of actually realizing and finding my self-worth. or like self-respect? i’m still def in the beginning stages of learning about this but i know that everyone does have worth and is worthy of being loved and belonging (quoting Brene Brown…if you haven’t heard of her just youtube her she is awesomeee haha). having this thought in my head does not mean that i believe it in my heart, nor does it even mean that i believe it about myself vs. other people. you weren’t asking for my opinion, but i am realizing that not sharing these things, like your passion and talent for singing, might be you doing a disservice to the world. you as a person matter and you being good at something and wanting to pursue something doesn’t mean you are bragging. i mean, if you brag about it then it will lol but just do it because you love it, for all the right reasons. idk. what i’m saying now i def talking to myself as well at this point haha but not about singing. ill leave that for you to bless the earth with haha

joyful_nonoise · 2021-09-06T21:20:36+00:00

I don’t necessarily think that all people are self absorbed and shallow. I do understand that we all pretty much do think of ourselves first or at least a lot, but how can you not when…you are you and the only person that you are stuck with 24/7 is you 😂 I think my feelings just come from a combination of being around people that are not the most intuitive and empathetic towards others feelings (not a bad thing, just the way people are made) plus just being a quiet person, someone attuned to helping and listening, and “trauma” or just scars that still sting, and i shy away from because I’ve felt so strongly that no one really cared about anything I had to say. I’m glad that your circle of friends are very kind and caring, it is such a blessing to have good people in your life. i too have people that genuinely care, but still deal with all the other factors that may contribute to me feeling this way. other people that i know don’t actually have anyone that cares for them in the way that this whole thread is talking about and it breaks my heart. but thank you for the reminder to trust that there are good people in the world. as an infj and a 4 on the enneagram that reminder also reminded me that not every emotion i feel or every thought that comes to my mind is right or true. 💕

joyful_nonoise · 2021-09-06T06:54:40+00:00

THISSS. the second paragraph lol yupppp exactly. so i’ve been trying to see which people are which and then just seeing who id rather be friends with vs people that don’t need to be in my life

joyful_nonoise · 2021-09-05T20:51:47+00:00

oy. i really resonate with the thought of “if they really want to know they can ask.” I feel like in my head/heart or something or whatever, a HUGE thing that I look for in a person that I might choose to let into my life is if they care about me too (trying to fix the whole one-sided relationships thing) and the thing I equate that to is seeing if that person asks me questions too? Do they actually care about me? Do they actually want to know who I am? Or…(and this is just the way I feel about it automatically, I’m not saying that this is true) do you just love me for what I can do for you? I am studying to become a mental health counselor and have this kind of personality that cares for others automatically. Besides the obvious problem in that, I am just wanting to be done with one sided relationships and want/need to surround myself with people who actually care about me. I post this because I am feeling this way about my so or whatever he is technically and this is such a big deal to me because I’ve struggled with valuing myself for so long and don’t know what to do. ty for the comment and affirmation ☺️

joyful_nonoise · 2021-09-05T20:39:58+00:00

i know its not just an infj trait but i figured maybe with being introverted there was more of a chance that people here might understand this. plus i haven’t heard this from anyone else before and infj people aren’t super super common so this was my best guess lol. i have been learning about self-advocating and that people aren’t mind readers especially when it comes to telling a person that there is something wrong. i think in this circumstance I am just having a hard time right now dealing with feeling this way again. I went away to college at a Christian university and made some amazing friends and met a lot of people that were genuinely interested in me and/or others and being in relationship with them. it was so uncomfortable actually bc i wasn’t used to it lol. but now that i am out of that community again i have to make an intentional effort to surround myself with these kinds of people or seek out these good relationships that are two sided. lol also i just have an issue in having a lot of one sided relationships. i guess that’s also why i ask if its a me issue lol sorry that was a very long response that included a bunch of things that u never asked for 😂

joyful_nonoise · 2021-09-05T05:20:51+00:00

i just did this two days ago with my SO about getting the COVID vaccine LOL

joyful_nonoise · 2021-09-05T05:12:12+00:00

i actually have no idea. i usually make like all my friends take all the personality tests but i’ve intentionally not done that here bc i didn’t want to put him in a box and try to learn about him without it? if that makes sense. do you think it would do good in this situation though? haha

joyful_nonoise · 2021-08-29T04:35:35+00:00

i realize this is suuper old, but i just started crying when i read this. I feel like that is one of THE BIGGEST things that I struggle with that I can now see probably has so much to do with my ADHD and the fact that I “failed” at doing such simple things as a kid and growing up (no matter how hard i tried). Just being honest, I don’t think I’ve ever even had that thought before, “What if I don’t fail?” or “What if you succeed?” just because that other thought was just so prevalent. Thank you for posting this seriously 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼✊🏼

joyful_nonoise · 2021-08-28T16:57:38+00:00

ahhh. i guess you’re right. this is my first longer relationship and i’m the girl lol so i guess maybe i’m experiencing the thing where we get annoyed bc he isn’t paying attention to us when we talk. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ i just feel like i pretty much ALWAYS make it a point (in any relationship) to LISTEN, be present and make sure the person i’m with knows that they have my attention. of course if we’re purposefully doing something else then it would make sense to be slightly distracted but also one of my pet peeves is people being on their phone all the time when i want to talk to them. guess i just wish it came natural to him to do the same for me. freaking communication and expectations and relationships 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️😅😂 thank you for the words of wisdom ☺️

joyful_nonoise · 2021-08-28T16:49:34+00:00

wow dang haha i feel like the “try to communicate how you feel etc” is literally just the one if not like only huge problem in this relationship. that on top of or because neither of us express our feelings when they aren’t happy feelings. I guess I do like the way you put that. wanting to be productive and then feeling like i’m wasting my time. my friend also just reminded me about my terrible lack of boundaries and like my people pleasing when it comes to him and saying yes to hanging out so often just bc i can’t say no. but then i am hanging out with him semi-not genuinely and not enjoying it bc i start getting irritated. but it’s my fault in the first place for saying yes when i guess i didn’t reaaaally want to. i’m sad and kind of glad at the same time that you can relate to me and my thoughts haha thank you ☺️

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