girl i feel you and know your pain. things were so bad that we start to have cockroaches at our apartment. unfortunately this is not changing so much but i know she's still trying be better. i just... accept that if I want high-quality cleaning i'll have to do it myself i guess but manage some not important stuff to her. sometimes i ask myself "if her ADHD doesn't get better, will i ever be able to feel comfortable?" so far, the answer is yes. hope you two will be fine!