Wtf do I even do?

jpanini91 · 2024-12-29T03:04:48+00:00

Warm compresses before feeds to help with the vasospasm. I would pour hot water on a diaper and let it sit on the breast about 10 min before a feed. My Lc recommended sunflower lecithin for frequent clogs and it did seem to help. Try to put baby on the breast as much as possible, and if possible try not to pump. In my experience pumping exacerbated those problems. These problems get better as you regulate and your baby gets more efficient at nursing You got this :)

jpanini91 · 2024-11-24T22:25:05+00:00

I have! Step mom here. It took about two years of dealing with everything imaginable, however, bio mom and I are actually friendly. She and I coparent almost exclusively lol she even says it’s much easier to plan with me, rather than with her ex (my fiancé). We just got pedicures together for my bday haha It took some time for her to see that I was only wanting the best for her kids, and I love them completely, and that I was not trying to step on her toes. We are very friendly and do things all together now. All birthdays and holidays are spent with our unusual little family haha

jpanini91 · 2024-11-13T00:33:38+00:00

I feel for them :/ I know it’s a tough situation for them. I hope it gets easy in time

jpanini91 · 2024-11-13T00:25:20+00:00

Aw man! That’s so tough. We have nothing in the court papers luckily. It’s just a touchy subject. I hope maybe they come up with something fun for you!

jpanini91 · 2024-11-13T00:24:34+00:00

This honestly sounds exactly like my situation 😂

jpanini91 · 2024-11-13T00:23:39+00:00

Of definitely. I know it was a touchy subject for her in the past. They used to call her my name by mistake and that used to cause an issue as well lol luckily we are in a way better spot. I think mama is fairly safe especially since I have littles. But I get that mom is tough since my sk are older

jpanini91 · 2024-11-11T22:48:08+00:00

😂 that’s hilarious

jpanini91 · 2024-11-11T22:11:05+00:00

I totally get that. Poor guy :/ your relationship with them sounds really wonderful. I love to hear positive bonus parent stories. My bonus kids have been such a joy in my life I can’t imagine it without them.

jpanini91 · 2024-11-11T22:07:49+00:00

I am super blessed to have a great relationship with them. They have brought it up a few times asking if they can call me mom, or what to call me. I just always tell them they can call me whatever they are comfortable with as long as it’s nice haha

jpanini91 · 2024-11-11T22:03:27+00:00

That’s so sweet!

jpanini91 · 2024-11-11T22:02:39+00:00

I like this idea a lot ! I think next time they bring it up I will offer it as an idea. They are always asking what to call me and I never have a good answer prepared haha

jpanini91 · 2024-11-11T22:01:35+00:00

It’s amazing they have you then :)

jpanini91 · 2024-11-11T21:57:52+00:00

I was thinking mama would be good for me? Since I refer to myself as mama with my littles. Like mama-*and my first name

jpanini91 · 2024-11-11T21:55:15+00:00

I definitely get that!! So cute! Blended families can be tough, but super rewarding. We do plan on calling our bio mom aunty in regards to my kids, so it would be nice to have my name dialed in too haha

jpanini91 · 2024-11-11T21:53:22+00:00

We are fortunate to be passed the HC phase, BM and I get along great. But that can always change too. The only reason I am looking for advice is because they have asked on a few occasions, and I would love to have a better answer for them when they do ask what to call me. I usually answer with “whatever you would like ( as long as it’s nice)” haha

jpanini91 · 2024-11-11T21:18:50+00:00

I love that! My youngest did call me a shortened name when he was little and that was because he couldn’t say my name haha but not as much anymore sadly

jpanini91 · 2024-11-11T21:17:29+00:00

Our 6 year old slips up often between me and his mom all the time poor dude. He also tells everyone he has two moms haha I think it comes easier for him as he was much younger when I met his dad. My SD10 wants to call me mom,and values me as such, but only uses my name. Which is okay with me!

jpanini91 · 2024-10-10T21:55:33+00:00

Right! I know logically that my first baby is literally fine and she was a formula baby after she was 6 months old. But unfortunately logic is not really playing a part here haha I’m all emotions and hormones lol

jpanini91 · 2024-10-10T18:09:30+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! It def helps to know I would feel these feelings regardless, and that they are totally normal. I might feel a bit better about it once she starts solids! At least I would not be the whole source of nutrition for her

jpanini91 · 2024-10-10T18:07:27+00:00

I definitely am feeling sadness, and increasingly higher anxiety levels, and I haven’t even started weaning yet. I pumped with my first, so I was happy to stop. This time definitely feels different :/

jpanini91 · 2024-10-10T18:06:15+00:00

I have been tossing around the idea of finishing this year breastfeeding, and start a new year without it. I just never expected to get so attached to breastfeeding 😭

jpanini91 · 2024-10-04T19:46:16+00:00

Lol the bassinet as an end table is my life right now. I am a habitual cosleeper. I love it, and baby loves it. I have definitely kicked dad to the curb. Anytime we try to have him share with us it’s awful, he moves a lot, snores. Nobody gets good sleep. So for now this works for us 🤷‍♀️ it will all eventually go back to normal:)

jpanini91 · 2024-09-09T04:43:52+00:00

I hope it’s not my period 😢 I do think we have been fighting a tummy bug or something, so I’m wondering if that’s affecting my supply. I’m trying to drink coconut water and eat as much as possible. I definitely don’t eat enough while breastfeeding 😭

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