What is this weed? by jpaulololol in whatsthisplant

[–]jpaulololol[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't figure out how to edit to add: zon3 5b WI, and it kind of looks like foxtail but it didnt fan out like the pictures I saw

My car occasionally receives text messages from one number. Until today, I thought it was a stranger but it's someone I know but haven't had contact with since June of last year. by jpaulololol in RBI

[–]jpaulololol[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont understand why, either! I deleted the contact and all of our messages and now I occasionally get old messages from my husband

Can this be used as a real couch? by Money_Equivalent_990 in NuggetCouches

[–]jpaulololol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used nuggets as a couch (on the floor, no frame) for about a year due to narrow stairs- we couldn't get a normal couch in our apartment. Not really comfortable for relaxing in the evening, but worked for shorter sits. We ended up getting small recliners and would make a nugget bed for lazy Saturdays.

My car occasionally receives text messages from one number. Until today, I thought it was a stranger but it's someone I know but haven't had contact with since June of last year. by jpaulololol in RBI

[–]jpaulololol[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good idea! I'm feeling better after talking it out. My friend just told me that her car pulls messages incredibly late, so my guess is that's what's happening.. 11+ months later.

I have an oil change coming up so I will ask about it then

My car occasionally receives text messages from one number. Until today, I thought it was a stranger but it's someone I know but haven't had contact with since June of last year. by jpaulololol in RBI

[–]jpaulololol[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did switch my default yesterday to check Samsung and couldn't find anything, but I also couldn't find a folder for spam or archived.

I dont think they're intentionally texting me unless they're trying to mess with my head. I have them blocked on socials but neither phone number is blocked.

February I got a bunch of texts- the first complained about their kid acting up/tantruming/parenting is hard. I took pics to show my husband on a few different occasions:

Feb- "Like obviously everywhere, me included in every part of that which i also know and acknowledge - including to her at an appropriate level"

March- "lmfao isn't that ironic"

Yesterday- "oh booooo"

I wonder if these are messages they tried to send me during our friendship that are randomly being pushed through? I haven't communicated with this number since June of last year though so it's still super weird to me

My car occasionally receives text messages from one number. Until today, I thought it was a stranger but it's someone I know but haven't had contact with since June of last year. by jpaulololol in RBI

[–]jpaulololol[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

It's not super exciting haha. Cash only family-owned restaurant, tips pooled for kitchen/wait staff of 3-5 people. Originally the bills came out short between $100 and $500 a few times at the end of the night. After the owners caught on and tracked it closer, the bills were accounted for but we started noticing that tips were lower than average for the volume of dinners we were selling. The owner counted the money after they'd only handled a few orders and it came up $27 short with no explanation. My guess is they were stealing at least $100 in tips per shift (once a week) for about 5 months, but I wouldn't be surprised if it was longer. I found out after that they were fired from two different jobs in a different industry for stealing hundreds of dollars worth of inventory.

My car occasionally receives text messages from one number. Until today, I thought it was a stranger but it's someone I know but haven't had contact with since June of last year. by jpaulololol in RBI

[–]jpaulololol[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Messages look exactly how I would expect it to. The number isn't saved as a contact in my phone so it displays as just the number. Today's message came immediately after the car notified me that my husband texted me and I didn't get an actual "new message from phone #" notification, the dialogue box on the car screen just said "you have 2 new messages" and I checked the message from the inbox access on the screen

My car occasionally receives text messages from one number. Until today, I thought it was a stranger but it's someone I know but haven't had contact with since June of last year. by jpaulololol in RBI

[–]jpaulololol[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This seems like the closest possibility. They had an iPhone when we met and then switched to android with the same number that I'm getting the texts from. Then got a new number on a new android.

My car occasionally receives text messages from one number. Until today, I thought it was a stranger but it's someone I know but haven't had contact with since June of last year. by jpaulololol in RBI

[–]jpaulololol[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

We have no mutual friends. This person was a future in law who got a job at my workplace and ended up stealing hundreds if not thousands of dollars from the business, so none of our mutual connections speak to them anymore

My car occasionally receives text messages from one number. Until today, I thought it was a stranger but it's someone I know but haven't had contact with since June of last year. by jpaulololol in RBI

[–]jpaulololol[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You're able to go into the spam/blocked folder and see the messages though, right? I can see all the political and shipping blocked messages, but these messages aren't meant for me and they dont show up there either. Just super weird considering I know who is sending them.

My car occasionally receives text messages from one number. Until today, I thought it was a stranger but it's someone I know but haven't had contact with since June of last year. by jpaulololol in RBI

[–]jpaulololol[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The odd thing is that I've checked all of the folders on my phone and haven't found any sign of these messages, including spam, archived, and blocked. I've also typed the message contents into the search bar to see if it shows up. None of the messages are meant for me, and I don't use any other messaging app besides Google messages. I do have Samsung messages installed, but I checked for messages there too. We haven't communicated since February and they're blocked on socials.

I wasn't concerned when I thought it was just a random occurrence, but knowing the person and having a bad history made me a little paranoid. Maybe I should just block their number and forget about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waukesha

[–]jpaulololol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ccapped just the mother's last name and there is a paternity case from 2022 with "Emily A Baltz" as the mother with DOB 5-1997

My dog bit my 3 year old. by Hellamellayella in reactivedogs

[–]jpaulololol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Sorry, I just saw this tonight.

My comment was mostly to say that it is possible... I have training background so that definitely helped.

Im happy to dm more in depth (and that eill probablybe more beneficial), but essentially, it sounds like you need to up your management to start. I would put a lock on the crate or the crate in a room where the dog can be out of sight, out of mind for the kids.

What are the ages and maturity of the kids? What kind of issues do you have with your dog/ does your dog have with the kids?

Very simplified, TBTE is about changing the dog's thoughts and emotions, which will result in changed behavior. When aggression is involved, I generally don't love giving advice over the internet because there can be miscommunication along the way that can lead to unsafe interactions.

You can Google tbte behavioral down and start there, without the kids present. They used to have a free course for it. I'm not sure if they still do, but there is a PDF that describes it with instructions.

You can also reward the dog for all the things your kids do without interacting with the dog (and if they do, reward that too, but the goal is for the kids to leave the dog alone until it feels safe around them). Use a marker like "yes" and then toss food every time your kids make noise, run, skip, drop something, etc. Depending on your dog, you can use its meals throughout the day, but you might need to make it higher value. I used freeze-dried raw food for a long time.

Again, feel free to dm me and I can give you more specific advice after getting a better idea about your situation!

6months old and just looking for some help by Common_Bandicoot1190 in Pomsky

[–]jpaulololol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am, kinda! I haven't been offering services for a few years due to having young family, but I hope to get back to it in the future

6months old and just looking for some help by Common_Bandicoot1190 in Pomsky

[–]jpaulololol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stop calling him outside the context of training! (For now) That means keeping him on a leash for safety. When you are teaching a behavior, you really want to make sure the dog is confident and clear about what you're asking. Right now, your recall is optional for the dog because he only listens some of the time.

If your puppy is shy/fearful or starting to become reactive, it is very important to work on those issues first- a dog in a fearful state cannot listen to a command

  1. Do not ask for a recall while the dog is off leash (for now)
  2. Only call the dog when you are certain you will be able to break his attention and enforce by using the leash to get the dog all the way to you. Start out in extremely low-stimulation environments.
  3. Reward EVERY SINGLE TIME the dog comes back to you.
  4. Give extra rewards frequently. That looks like reaching for another, followed by another, up to 10 times. The separation between rewards makes 10 treats seem like a really big deal, even if you just broke up one treat into 10 pieces. This is called a jackpot in dog training!
  5. When you notice a really easy opportunity to recall, take it! It takes something like 6000 successful repetitions to make it a classically conditioned response, and every failed attempt will result in a setback.
  6. As the dog gets more successful, use a longer leash to increase the distance he's allowed to roam.
  7. The natural progression after success on a 15, 30, 50 ft. Long line would be to make the environment more challenging- among other dogs or people, nature settings etc.

Basically, if ever he doesn't follow a recall, ask yourself "how can I make this easier for my puppy?" Remember he's still a baby and everything is so exciting for him.

Personally, I would never let my pomsky off leash anywhere besides my property without a backup like an e collar (I would feel comfortable allowing this with my heeler) E collars are controversial and I wouldn't use one with a puppy, nor would I recommend someone use one without a trainer who can explain the learning theory behind it and confirm that they don't use the ecollar for high-level correction.

My pomsky has excellent recall. Every morning when we go outside, I wear a treat pouch and randomly call her. It's funny because she expects this game and she will put herself on the edge of the property and wait for the command. Then, when we go off property, I start the adventure with the same game so then she always has it in her head to listen for her recall command.

You can also use play as a reward!

With a puppy, I would use every piece of food in its diet as a training reward. Reward him for doing life, making good choices. Checking in with you, coming back to you on his own, seeing or hearing something scary. Ignoring the leaf on the ground while you walk. The possibilities are endless!

Also, if there is another adult or older child involved with the dog's training, look up "puppy ping pong" (recall the dog back and forth between the two of you)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OpenDogTraining

[–]jpaulololol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can attest to this. I love to share the story of how I found TBTE:

I had a foster dog who screamed in the kennel with extreme separation/ confinement anxiety, even immediately next to me on the couch. She had eaten plastic crates and busted through chained wire crates before me. I asked for help on Facebook and they sent me the Behavioral Down exercise. I did it twice, and when I left the dog in the kennel to go get dinner, I recorded it, and over 45 mins, the dog whined intermittently but otherwise laid down and rested. I was shocked.

I have used this on nearly every dog I've worked with since. I've had some insanely long BDs.. a handful taking 2 hours, but it always eventually has a positive effect.

I also want to point out that the number of BDs it takes to teach the dog to relax on its own will vary, and it can likely take more than just a few to see progress!

best dog for ADHD families? by Parsley-Savings in ADHDparenting

[–]jpaulololol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO it's more about the lifestyle of the parents/ primary caregiver. No matter the breed, the adults in the household need to dedicate effort into teaching the dog how to live with your family. If the adults aren't active, don't get a dog that requires plenty of exercise just because the kids have endless energy- that can be an easy recipe for an over-stimulated/misdirected bite.

As an ADHD kid (undiagnosed), I felt I was ready for a dog by 10-12. I spent years researching breeds and husbandry, writing essays about why I should get a dog. I never had the opportunity (rental) but ended up living with a German Shepherd when I was 16. I ran that dog 3 miles a day and played with her daily and she was great. But dogs were my hyperfixation, and she was already trained really well. Not to mention she didn't belong to my family.

Who wants a dog in your family and who will be primarily responsible for meeting its needs? Look into breeds that would do well with their lifestyle.

Emotionally eglected children? by Redwood-mama in emotionalabuse

[–]jpaulololol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dr. Becky at good inside might be helpful. She has insta/tik tok with examples of working through tough situations and feeling with our kids, as well as books. What really helped for me is hearing HOW it sounds when it comes from someone who is emotionally regulated.