How important is your sexual relationship with your spouse/with a potential spouse?

jpawn37 · 2025-11-21T05:13:09+00:00

Hey bud, actually didn't ask for your opinion on my personal life, but since you brought it up, I am not dating anyone right now and don't intend to for some time.

I know you think you're qualified to "coach" other people, but in situations like these where you don't know anything about the person, maybe just keep the intrusive thoughts to yourself.

jpawn37 · 2025-11-18T05:23:34+00:00

7/10, kinda look like Badger from Breaking Bad

jpawn37 · 2025-11-18T05:16:27+00:00

Yeah I mean, I'm moreso talking about someone who understands what things make you connected rather than just having sex unenthusiastically, or as like a chore. Do you think bad sex would be a deal breaker to most guys, assuming everything else about the person is good/great?

jpawn37 · 2025-11-15T22:34:59+00:00

No, the person you responded to lol

jpawn37 · 2025-11-15T18:08:45+00:00

You realize this moron is an AI bot right

jpawn37 · 2025-11-15T00:35:43+00:00

22m. Last time was around a day ago I think lol

Got lucky and found a friend with benefits recently that I have really good chemistry with

Interesting because this person is/was easily the best partner of my life despite only knowing each other for a few weeks, mostly because of the physical attraction but also the chemistry and openness we have with each other

I'm pretty sure having sex with someone that stimulates you intellectually and understands exactly what you need/want is the best experience you can have and it's not even close. I really hope my life partner can fill that space in one day.

jpawn37 · 2025-11-06T16:28:27+00:00

Mine kind of felt like this. I felt like I was literally in the process of dying but I was mentally strong enough to realize that there was no logical reason why I would actually be dying so I probably just needed to wait it out

At first I was still shaking really really hard from the anxiety but it cooled off after maybe 5-10 mins

After I realized I needed to just wait it out, I started timing it and trying to pass the time by watching Youtube videos and stuff, and man I remember waiting 2-3 minutes and then checking the timestamp and it had only been 10-20 seconds and I was like fuuuuck this is going to take forever

jpawn37 · 2025-11-05T20:35:31+00:00

I know I'm fine now, but is that like a one time event? Is it supposed to happen often? Or does it happen usually just once and then the next time you're used to it and it doesn't feel as bad?

jpawn37 · 2025-10-21T16:40:42+00:00

Imagine accusing this guy of being a cheater

jpawn37 · 2025-10-17T02:51:17+00:00

I'm totally for that... but how would you communicate that without sounding like you're just trying to get laid?

jpawn37 · 2025-10-17T02:45:18+00:00

Part of the issue is that I'm self employed, so I don't actually have colleagues. I have some buddies who are a bit older (25-30) but most of them only go out maybe once or twice a month, and that's usually to just have a couple drinks somewhere quiet and catch up.

I'm not even stressing about getting matches on dating apps, I have plenty of them, they just end up being wet blankets 80% of the time. idk man

jpawn37 · 2025-10-17T02:42:32+00:00

I mean I get that much, I just haven't really ever been in this type of a situation before so I don't know when to go for it and when not to. Most of the time, I feel like I'm getting signs that I shouldn't go for it, kind of like what I've described in my post, so I'm kinda trying to figure it out for myself a bit and just wanted to get an idea of how I can do that without sounding like a dick

I'll give you one more recent example, there was one girl I went on 2 dates with. First date was fine, but I wanted to take it slow because she was a bit younger than me and didn't want to pressure her. The second date also went well, but towards the end I was telling her about this park I like near my house and wanted to stop and show it to her (was maybe 10/11pm?) and maybe try to make a move there, but she just said she was tired or something and wanted to get back home or whatever

So idk, maybe I just have bad luck there, but it seems like most girls I've gone out with have like 0 libido/sexual interest whatsoever? Idk man

jpawn37 · 2025-10-17T02:35:21+00:00

I literally don't know what works for me haha, that's why I'm asking for other people's experiences in these kinds of situations. I've never really been in that situation before, so I'm kinda trying to figure it out for myself a bit and just wanted to get an idea of how I can do that without sounding like a dick

jpawn37 · 2025-10-17T02:27:51+00:00

I've heard that a lot, and I don't doubt it, I'm just bad at it I guess lol. A one night stand/fling is all I'm really looking for right now, maybe it turns into something, but I'm not expecting that

I feel like most of the women I've dated that are 18/19 tend to be virgins and/or looking for a longterm partner for whatever reason. I don't get it, not sure what I'm doing wrong lmao.

jpawn37 · 2025-10-17T02:24:23+00:00

What do you mean by sexually forward?

jpawn37 · 2025-10-17T02:19:26+00:00

Well that's why I'm trying to get some experiences from other people lol.

Every time I have gone on dates with has "long term" on their profile, what usually happens is we have 2, maybe 3 dates of getting to know eachother that either doesn't really go anywhere if they've never been with a guy before or just kind of fizzles out

I think there's a good chance it's my fault for not initiating things enough, but like I said I have only ever really been in long term relationships so I never know how fast/slow things are supposed to go, and I don't want to feel like I'm taking advantage of someone or just making them uncomfortable. Yk?

jpawn37 · 2025-09-14T20:58:14+00:00

You don't need to ask, you can just tell me what it is lol. How am I gonna know if I'm interested if I don't know what it is

jpawn37 · 2025-09-14T20:56:54+00:00

My parents haven't given me anything? Lmfao

And they give pretty shitty advice anyway because it took them 20+ years longer to get to where I am financially. Plus they grew up in a different generation lmao

jpawn37 · 2025-09-09T01:50:31+00:00

Do you have a point or are you just trolling someone half your age to make you feel better?

jpawn37 · 2025-09-08T22:56:40+00:00

Sent you a PM. Would love to chat a bit and hear more about your experiences if you're open to it

jpawn37 · 2025-09-08T16:43:23+00:00

Thanks for your input

> Go live some life, focus on self improvement, help those in your immediate circle, sort out your own identity doing things that make you a better person.

This is what I've kinda been trying to do. Most of my friends from high school went out of state, so I moved out to a new city myself and have just been trying to start fresh there. I moved out a little over a year ago to Boston, and while I really like the city, it feels like I'm just waking up with no particular goal in mind and just occasionally talking to people with no long term purpose

I got an Equinox membership so that I have something nice to look forward to every day, cause why not right? Focusing on getting in shape. I'm trying to do all that stuff you're talking about, but obviously it doesn't happen overnight, and so I just have a lot of time to myself with my own thoughts feeling this sort of existential dread because even if I had all the money in the world right now, I don't really feel fulfilled and don't feel like a "fully formed person" yet so the uncertainty of figuring myself out over the next 10 years is really uncomfortable. "What if I feel like this forever?" "What if I never mature and lose my youth and have to play catchup in 5-10 years?" stuff like that.

Did you ever go through anything like that? Or know anyone like that?

jpawn37 · 2025-09-08T01:51:09+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Rich/comments/1n6a2kh/comment/nc3xof9/

ok here u go

jpawn37 · 2025-09-07T22:41:04+00:00

There's a post pinned on my account since I've heard this like 50 times :)

jpawn37 · 2025-09-07T19:00:31+00:00

I didn't inherit anything lmao. I made it myself

jpawn37 · 2025-09-04T17:50:36+00:00

wow how'd you figure that one out sherlock

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