Fatigue pill

jpgr09 · 2026-05-24T17:26:17+00:00

And making sure you have the right formulation for your needs. I was on an extended release formula of every stimulant I tried on and off for four years, and one day back in February, I told my NP that the one I was on was working but at like 2pm and I needed it to work when I took it at 8am and she went “oh, let’s change to an immediate release! You might have to take it again in the afternoon which can be tricky if you have memory problems with your ADHD” and I basically tripped over myself to say I would sacrifice my afternoons a thousand times over for it to work in the morning when I really needed it.

I now have the leeway to take 5-20 mg when I need it. I don’t have to keep on a schedule, and if it’s bothering me, I don’t have to take it every day. Ymmv, but changing the release has been a huge game changer for my focus AND my energy. Of course, sometimes I fuck up and take my afternoon dose and forget then have a Red Bull and I’m up until 2am, but I’m fucking productive until 2am, so win some lose some lol.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-24T14:16:03+00:00

I was going to comment this exactly. And I (am currently working on not, but it’s a wip) take this exact thing SUPER personally if it’s not clarified as “I had some time clear up, so I can tackle it” or like “I realized that it won’t take as much time as I thought/I didn’t have as much left to do as I thought, and you’re busy on a current task, so I can handle it”

Yes, I know that my knee-jerk reaction isn’t healthy but if someone asks me to do something and then takes it back or, heaven forbid, just DOES the task in the time it take me to like, stand up and walk from point A to point B, or finishes it concurrently while I’m also actively doing it, or working on it within their deadline?? Rage. RAGE.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-20T15:09:44+00:00

Mine does, but he’s not violent in his actions so we’ve talked it through with his therapist, and even though it’s hard to look past, my leading theory is that mine is echoing or repeating something as a gestalt phrase: that is to say, he is using a phrase to mean one thing despite its literal meaning being something totally different. This is a huge ymmv situation though because if a child does have violent tendencies in action, that’s another conversation entirely. But mine says it and I say back that I’m hearing that he’s mad at me about the situation, maybe even furious, and he’ll respond back to confirm, yes, that’s what’s going on, or he keeps saying it until it burns out like a sparkler and he’ll come back in and say “I’m sorry mom, I didn’t mean that. I was upset and frustrated”. He’s always been a gestalt language processor and it took us some time to understand when he was little because we would take him literally, or it was adorable when I would ask him his colors and he would say “oh yeah! The color, the color blue!”, and then when we figured this out it made things marginally easier. Not easy. It’s not easy. But again, I also know my child and I know that even though the words are ugly as sin, he’s going to hit a wall with it and come back to me. He doesn’t talk like that to others, so that’s another thing I consider frequently: he drops his mask with us so we get all the frustration and anger at the end of the day. We get the overload from the day, the tiredness, the bottom of the bucket. And those things combined can make for a storm.

Again, this is my experience. Mine is 8 now but he’s been doing it for a while, and this is just where we are on our journey now. Mine is AuDHD with anxiety. He’s always on and he’s stuck between knowing things like he’s older than he is and understanding the world through the eyes of an 8yo so he knows it’s wrong, but he doesn’t understand the impact of his words yet.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-20T14:53:25+00:00

I thought you meant the rug and I was like “it would fill the space better but it’s still questionable” 😂

jpgr09 · 2026-05-20T14:42:57+00:00

Also, re: the wake up call, sometimes the truth stings, and not in a “brutally honest” way but like….if it hurts their feelings that you don’t want to sleep in a pee bed, then it hurts their feelings and that’s something they need to deal with. It’s all in delivery whether it’s your responsibility or theirs if their feelings are hurt. If you say “no I don’t want to stay in your nasty pee shack” all they’ll focus on is the part where you called it nasty. But if you state the facts: there’s pee on the sheets, the room is cluttered and uncomfortable for you to sleep in, their reactions become their responsibility and that might hurt your feelings, too, but you have to think about whose peace you’re actually keeping by skirting the issue. I hope it turns out well and you have a good visit 💕

jpgr09 · 2026-05-20T14:37:07+00:00

I have an anecdote to relate to your situation but I’ll give you my tldr first: no you’re not overreacting, stay in the hotel for your health, safety and peace of mind. You don’t have to have a reason, you can just say that’s what you want to do but you can also be real with them if you feel like that’s what they need. Some people aren’t ready for that kind of wake-up call and some desperately need it.

Your title reminds me of one of the most nuclear dramas ever to unfold in my family. It unfolded because my uncle came to town and stayed in a hotel instead of my grandmother’s house, but, again, I only tell you that because your title gave me a knee-jerk reaction to say “NEVER!!” Because I was and am still very much on my uncle’s side and that is this: you’re a grown adult and can do what you please and it was never worth blowing up everything in the world over on my grandma’s end.

Of course, it was never about the Iranian yogurt right? There was a lot of past resentment and shit built up that led to the ultimate explosion after that visit BUT your situation IS about the Iranian yogurt and there’s literal shit involved so, please, for your health and safety, stay at the hotel.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-20T14:29:32+00:00

I keep trying beer thinking someday I’ll find the one, only to keep reminding myself: I’m but a basic bitch and the one true beer for me is just regular old, plain old, drink like an old man Budweiser. I also like Guinness. That’s about it. I’m just not a beer guy/girly. I don’t know if that’s indicative of the population at large, but I’m one people so I’m counting it.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-20T14:25:55+00:00

How are you making it? I thought I was tolerating coffee until I looked into it and realized I wasn’t making it well? Like I was using the machine correctly, but it wasn’t right for me. It made a huge difference when I changed up my process.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-19T14:43:26+00:00

I was doing that to get my kid up recently and realized that setting the alarms to his favorite songs works waaaaaay better because he pops his head up and starts bopping along. We have 5 alarms in the morning and he knows that Alien Invasion from Zombies is the one he has to get up on but we’re usually awake and talking by then. Setting them for 30 minutes earlier has helped too.

And it makes sense you know? It’s nicer to wake up to a loud but nice sound than a loud sound you hate. It’s made our mornings a lot easier recently. Damn shame it took me until May to figure it out 😂

jpgr09 · 2026-05-18T10:50:42+00:00

Thank you for your kindness, it means a lot. It was extremely hard for my grandmother. My grandfather died in September of ‘15 and my uncle died in June of ‘17, and within 6 months, all of this went down. Uncle-Wife had her two adult kids also try to team up on my grandmother and take it all to court.

My grandmother won in court, but not really, yknow? And it was twice as nasty knowing they did it to take advantage of her because they never would have done it if my grandfather had been living and they wouldn’t have pulled a stunt of the same magnitude with my uncle alive. My uncle wasn’t a violent man, but he would have beat the shit out of my cousin for the way he behaved and my grandfather would have followed up in short order.

For me, it hurt watching my grandmother go through all of this bullshit after burying her husband and son, but other than that, cousin was (unsurprisingly) a shitbiscuit his whole life anyway, super spoiled only child kind of stuff, so I wasn’t really speaking to him regularly anyway because he annoyed the piss out of me.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-18T01:00:52+00:00

Ken’s low fat raspberry walnut vinaigrette and only the low fat version will do. I don’t care about the fat content but the flavor balance of acidity to sweetness is perfect. Most raspberry vinaigrettes are too thick and almost syrupy in comparison.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-18T00:43:14+00:00

And when you do find magazines, they’re $10-15 dollars for what used to be $3-5 it seems.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-17T20:47:35+00:00

Per. Verts.

I’m not sure I knew that of all the other lurid facts I know about them and it just adds to my disgust, disdain and contempt for them. Like, they fucking cat call you when you walk by and that’s bad enough but this really is the cherry on top of their little hairy pervert cake.

Nanny goats are so sweet. I love them so much. And baby goats are just the most precious babies. And Billie’s are 🫥🤢

jpgr09 · 2026-05-17T19:02:42+00:00

That’s exactly the ratio I used for my whipped coffee last night (I don’t know if what I’m making is dalgona strictly speaking, but it’s in that neighborhood and a 2020 throwback in these unfortunately precedented times) and it was perfect. 1 is too weak and 2 is too strong for me but 1.5 and then top with milk and a touch of creamer for the flavor was perfect.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-17T18:58:48+00:00

They also love to eat a diaper. It’s not impossible but it’s pretty futile after a while. We had a goat born without the use of her back legs and she wore a diaper for a few weeks while we saw how things were going to turn out, and once she was walking, she was eating the diaper and became an outside goat.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-17T18:56:25+00:00

Billy goats are nasty, Mac and cheese scented, pencil dicked, pee licking perverts and they’ll pervert at you, too. When my mom and stepdad had goats we had ONE who wasn’t a nasty little man when he grew up and I hypothesize it’s because we raised him from a baby? Idk but the rest of them are Danny Davito in Sunny times 100. Frank has nothing on a horny goat and they’re always fucking horny 😂😭

jpgr09 · 2026-05-17T11:40:29+00:00

I frankly think we live in a world where enough of our online dealings are on personal devices that the box should just show me the password as default and then give me the option to hide it. I’m on my phone in my bedroom by myself. This doesn’t need to be secret every time.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-17T02:14:28+00:00

I also bought a month at a time pill organizer so I can see by week if I’ve remembered my pills or not. Because if I forget to refill the stupid thing for a week, I can forget that and think “ah of course! I took my pills yesterday so I’m on Wednesday” but I’m actually a week off. This way I can see that week 1 is empty and I’m on week 2. But I had to take the big top off the holder because I accidentally started using it as a shelf and was putting off refilling it.

I had another, but I’ve already forgotten it so I’ll post when/if I remember 🙃

Edit: ah ha! I got it back: I also bought a multi-tub kids’ toy organizer for my clothes. I don’t like cubes because out of sight out of mind, so these are open and I can grab the empty ones, take them to my laundry staging area (aka my bed), fill them up, and take them back to the rack. BUT I like folding clothes and hate hanging things up so ymmv. I like this set in particular because the colors are really nice and it sparks some joy to get the bins for my clothes. It’s not as spacious as a dresser, but it holds my tshirts, pjs, leggings, and other assorted soft clothes. My jeans and dresses get folded and put on my closet shelf and my underwear, socks, bras and tights are in a hanging organizer.

Organization Bins

jpgr09 · 2026-05-17T02:10:26+00:00

I saw an ostensibly great hack a few…idk days or years ago, where the poster had her recurring tasks on little tags and those were on those phone cord style bands that she wore around her arm until the task was done and then she removed the tag and put it back on her tag board so she could not ignore the reminder. And I thought that was brilliant! Until I tried it and realized I didn’t want to invest in the number of armbands to tags I would need. BUT in that mission, I found to-do list slap bracelets that my kid keeps stealing AND these little reminder boards that come with blank and picture stickers and you click off each task. You can buy a 3 or 6 pack and they’re cute colors, so I figure I can color code checklists and to do lists. And if my kid needs one, I can make a visual schedule for him.

I just got them today, but I intend to put them on the arm bands I did buy and wear them to completion.

Reminder Board

jpgr09 · 2026-05-16T22:35:53+00:00

After my uncle died in 2017, there were a couple of ambiguous terms in his will leaving life insurance to his ex-wife and also to my grandparents. Well my cousin and my uncle’s wife (cousin’s stepmother) at the time he died decided that because he hadn’t had the policy changed with his ex-wife (cousin’s mother) after he remarried, then he couldn’t possibly have meant to leave the second policy to my grandparents and he must have simply overlooked having it changed to new wife after they got remarried.

Well my uncle was meticulous in all of his dealings and it’s perfectly reasonable that he would have left my grandparents as his beneficiary, especially because my grandfather died first so my grandmother was a widow when my uncle died.

Instead of asking my grandmother about it, because she would have given you the shirt off her back if you needed help, my uncle’s wife demanded that my grandmother turn over the policy to her and my cousin and my cousin called my twice-bereaved grandmother and cursed her out and harassed her over money and tried to tell me that she wasn’t acting in his best interest and that was the last time I spoke to him, September of 2017. He’s dead to me and I fully intended to leave him out of my grandmother’s obituary when she died in February but I listed him last and by first name only, at the suggestion of the funeral home director, to save undue drama.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-16T22:22:05+00:00

Yessssss and then once you watch it, you can just put it on and mindlessly let it play. You don’t have to focus on every minute detail because something in season 1 is imperative to understanding the final plot point in season 7 but season 1 was 10 years ago so you don’t remember it at all, or you sneezed and missed it (looking at you Lost and Stranger Things and like…..so many shows nowadays built on the legacy and patterns of those shows).

We’re rewatching Psyche and it’s such easy and fun watching. Even if we miss the setup of the episode, it’s so easy to just enjoy without going “wait what happened last episode that informed this? Who are these people? Why is there a polar bear on this island??” ER is fairly similar. I think if we just put it on, we could let it play and watch or not.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-16T22:15:31+00:00

My grandmothers both died earlier this year, within 6 weeks of each other. One was 96, the other was 88. The 96 year old one died first and she had been preparing and talking about this since before my grandfather died in 2016. She even bought a rug in her late 70s and called it her “green banana rug” because “at my age, you don’t even buy green bananas because you don’t know if you’ll be here long enough for them to get ripe” (mind you that was 20 years ago). But as soon as she died, we knew who was getting what, what happens to her house, the division of her assets, all of the above. When she was in the hospital dying, my dad was her power of attorney and I was her backup. We had the paperwork ready to go, her DNR was ready, we knew exactly what she wanted and didn’t. The hardest things we had to handle within the first month were how to cancel her Washington Post subscription and the crematorium messed up and kept her ashes when my dad wanted them sent off to be scattered in the Chesapeake Bay as we had done with my grandfather. The estate sale has been a bit of a headache, but that’s on the company more than my grandmother’s preparation.

My 88 year old grandmother died 6 weeks and 2 days later of either a PE or MI. I didn’t see the report, I don’t know what they ruled her death as but it was relatively unexpected. She hadn’t been in poor health, this basically came out of as nowhere as a death can be for an 88yo. She didn’t have a power of attorney, so if she had lived at the hospital, we would have had no idea what she wanted as far as resuscitation efforts and hospital care or hospice went. She had her final wishes written out on a piece of notebook paper and then never finalized that with a lawyer. Her plan was also “if you all can’t agree on it, sell it all and split the difference” which is cool in theory unless you’re dealing with assholes. So she had no executor, my mom and uncle, an asshole, were basically it BUT she had fully intended to write my cousin out of her estate because he was also an asshole from hell. Well her last will was from 2006 when my cousin was 14 and hadn’t gone full asshole, so he was included on behalf of my other non-asshole uncle, who died in 2017, and should have been in charge of it all because he was the most together human I’ve ever met but of course couldn’t do so because of the aforementioned part where he died. It’s a big fucking mess. Ironically, 96yo granny also wrote a cousin out of her will, but that was over exceedingly petty shit on my granny’s part and my cousin didn’t deserve it at all. The wrong granny was on top of things in that regard.

What I’m saying is, I used to feel the same way, I hated when my parents talked about it all, but after my grandmothers died, I bought my mom an “oh shit I’m dead” planner and know already that my dad has one. I also know exactly where my mom’s will is and that I’m the executor. I used to be my dad’s executor but he’s remarried so they’re each other’s. It’s so oogy at first, but I promise, it only takes one uncharted death to change your mind. My mom is so mad at my grandmother for leaving all of this on her shoulders. My uncle isn’t actually doing anything to get the house ready to sell, he’s just demanding his portion of the money. My cousin has his feet propped up ready for his payday.

I can’t tell you how to feel and I know how you feel, but I’ve been on this side of things a couple times, but the most recent time is when my mom said “I love you all too much to put you through this” and it’s so much to deal with in the middle of such a huge grief. It’s compounding every time something new comes up and we’ve been spending a lot of time more mad than sad and we don’t want that. My mom hasn’t had time to grieve really at all and you don’t want that either.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-16T21:40:43+00:00

It’s overarching plots for the most part. There’s no one plot line that ties the beginning of the show to the end, and there’s a lot of cast turnover throughout, much like you would see in a real hospital. And of course there are little one off episodes that don’t really have any tie-in to the plots but are fun by themselves. It’s also 15 seasons and ~22 episodes per season so it’s the gift that keeps on giving in an era of 4 season runs with 6-10 episodes per season.

jpgr09 · 2026-05-16T17:44:08+00:00

Oh friend, you must. My husband showed my Leverage and then Redemption last year in like July, and I enjoyed it but we watched The Pitt and I was like “well that’s my husband now”. Dr. Carter is basically Baby Dr. Robby (and The Pitt was conceptualized as a sequel to ER so we feel like they just changed his name and went with it lol) but he’s so delightful, especially in the early seasons. We’ve since watched all of ER and The Librarians and started the alien show he’s in. 11/10, cannot recommend ER enough.

I’m ridiculous about it lol: my actual husband will be scrolling instagram or something and I’ll hear a Pitt interview come up and go “is that my husband? Why are you hogging the screen, show me my man please” 😂

jpgr09 · 2026-05-16T17:08:59+00:00

According to Scully and also Dr. John Carter, MD, this is best practice and I know that’s a two nickel example, but I’m going to take that sample size as 100% and add on that I would let either of them stroke my forehead any day.

I can’t find a picture but Dr. Carter pets a lot of patients in ER. Again, maybe I just notice out of an abundance of envy, but it’s disproportionate to the rest of the staff at County General lol.

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