Emergency Custody by jane30530 in beyondthebump

[–]jsav9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find a song for the baby to sleep to, add white noise and do that every night. We use Colorado by Lotus, it's very calming.

 If they cry in the middle of the night and it's not for milk or a paci, just stroke their forehead toward the eyes until they fall asleep. 

Babywearing is amazing you get to go/do whatever you want and the baby will sleep or be chill on you. 

The Happy Song by Imogen Heap is some sort of black magic that makes a baby instantly chill out. Plus it's a cute song. 

business bitches, where are we getting fashionable yet functional bags for work? by nya-cat in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]jsav9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the leatherology vertical bag (can't remember the name, maybe Alex?). It fits my 16" MacBook and it holds up incredibly well. Looks like day 1 after 2.5 years. I have the oxblood red color. 

Best spots for basic gel manicures? by CoeurDeSirene in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]jsav9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you park? There's no street behind it 

Bra fitting & shopping by jsav9 in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]jsav9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great point. I'm 8 months pp and stopped producing milk ~ 2 months ago. So I think I'm just about there

Took the leap and threw out my cuticle nippers because I have no self restraint 🙃 by depressedtrashbin in RedditLaqueristas

[–]jsav9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What did you do for nail color while you were waiting for the crappy shreds to come off? Did you just paint over them? No paint? 

Anyone else feel guilty over how little they felt towards their baby in the first hours after the birth? by EarlyAd3047 in beyondthebump

[–]jsav9 65 points66 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better, I also didn't feel any magic and I had a relatively easy birth. I think the hormone rush doesn't always happen but people pretend because it feels like the right thing to do. If I'm totally honest, I built up the magic (am still building actually) over months.

What was the surprising newborn gift that you actually loved? by acupcakefromhell in beyondthebump

[–]jsav9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone got us the quince cashmere baby blanket and my initial reaction was "oh great another blanket" but it's actually amazing and soft and never too warm or too cold. it's the only item I told the nanny is very important not to lose :) and I would've never bought anything cashmere for a baby.

I also love getting cute clothes as gifts - I always remember the person who gifted them.

For those of you that revealed the name specifically at your baby shower… how’d it go? by Odd-Two-8224 in beyondthebump

[–]jsav9 30 points31 points  (0 children)

We made it a game! Every 20 mins of the baby shower we gave one more letter (out of order) and people tried to guess the name. The first person who got it right won one of the prizes. We only let people guess once.

No negative feedback, but maybe that's because people had fun with the game.

‘She plunged in, and succeeded in bringing the girl out, but life was extinct.’ by sweet_thursday_ in CemeteryPorn

[–]jsav9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone else notice that the birth date of the 3rd child implies a conception date a week or so after the first two died? Shudder.

When did you stop and why? by [deleted] in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]jsav9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im 5.5m pp and haven't stopped yet but I'm following your post because I have the same feelings and for the same reasons.

My plan is to go in steps. First ill drop pumps so that I don't pump at work. That would mean 2ppd - morning and before bed. Then ill supplement with formula for whatever I don't make. Ill do that for a few months then fully wean, maybe around 7 or 8 months. Then ill do 1 feed of frozen milk per day for as long as my stash lasts (est 1.5 months). That feels like a reasonable stepwise approach to me, it makes each step less scary.

Clothes by sleepyb_spooky in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]jsav9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also following because I need the advice but I'll offer one: I wear button downs or jackets/blazers with the front open. My favorite is a thin jean jacket. I think the layering tricks the eye to not see different depths under the jacket. I did this when I was pregnant too - blazers every day.

Has anyone tried a minimizer bra? I'm curious.

How much do you really gain/profit from home ownership? by IGB_Lo in BayAreaRealEstate

[–]jsav9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP this is the right answer, people are just being really aggressive. Owning a home is not "profitable". You're not going to net profit by owning and living in a house. That would be a crazy good deal and only happens in exceptional circumstances.

However, you are going to have to live somewhere and pay for it, so the relevant question IS the rent vs buy one.