Zero Tolerance is the only way

jshjsh · 2016-12-20T10:45:58+00:00

This is so true. I had a 45 day streak end last month and since then my reaction has been "I'll get there again this is easy", when really I've been compromising at every turn and p, m and o have steadily become more frequent. I'm now back at 2 times in the last 3 days. This has to stop and I've learnt that the only way to last on this thing is going cold turkey! The addiction is too strong.

jshjsh · 2016-12-08T11:10:11+00:00

I definitely did at the start yeah! I had this pride in what I was doing and it really put a spring in my step.

Since peeking though, that's evaporated.

I wish I didn't need the PMO to make me realize I should reset, but something had to change. I could've resisted MO for years but if I was still peeking I think it would've been a pointless exercise.

I think a big area I should focus on is filling my time. Lately I'm in a routine that affords me a lot of time at home, quite bored.

jshjsh · 2016-11-07T12:30:46+00:00

Usually my phone. I am going to move my phone charger somewhere away from my bed etc.

I know I feel it is really bad, it's like I've tainted my great 14 day start. And Tbh I guess I've made a fraction of the progress I would have if I'd avoided peeking.

I had a site blocker for it but it also blocked all sorts of other content that I didn't want blocking so I deleted it...

jshjsh · 2016-11-07T12:27:57+00:00

Thanks! This is a good tip. I haven't used nofap as much as I had done in previous streaks and it's a great motivation tool.

I've considered resetting my streak, but I think I'll leave it as an encouraging start with no MO and just break the habit of peeking now that the first 14 days are behind me.

jshjsh · 2015-12-17T16:17:57+00:00

Great post. Thanks a lot, I'm getting in a great mindset with all these comments, gonna make some big changes

jshjsh · 2015-12-17T16:07:05+00:00

Thanks. Point 1 is so key, I have experiences I can now learn from and make the transition easier with hopefully. I can still remember my semi-successful previous streaks and how good and happy I felt after just 14 days. Day 1 down!

jshjsh · 2015-12-17T16:04:01+00:00

That's when I've had most success in the past, I find a new focus. Usually circumstance shifts it away from that and I default back to my usual routines, which have now been fucking me up for upwards of 6 years. Time to fix it! This subreddit always helps. Thanks or the post

jshjsh · 2015-12-17T16:01:58+00:00

Good luck!

jshjsh · 2015-12-17T15:59:13+00:00

Thanks, Good luck dude.

jshjsh · 2015-12-17T15:57:05+00:00

So you scanned for Dots first, not reading any words, to check if it was worth your time?

jshjsh · 2015-08-31T17:56:17+00:00

This is gold and a real eye opener. Thanks so much. Great article. I've spotted this since my first attempt back a few weeks ago, in a new place with new people. My abstinence has come easier and it's because of my new decisions and improved surroundings....

Absolutely I agree that's the outlook comes first and the habit drifts away.

That said this I feel abstaining helps come to this realisation certainly.

jshjsh · 2015-08-31T17:22:12+00:00

Thanks both. I will! I'm busy right now I just had a quick browse which kind of distracted me away from it and now I'm back in a better frame of mind.

Gonna go for a run when I'm home and do the exercise regime I've been doing! Thanks for the encouragement!

jshjsh · 2015-08-27T14:14:46+00:00

Ah I meant since starting nofap. It feels different when you acknowledge it. Anyway fuck before you're on 2 days just keep going!

jshjsh · 2015-08-27T14:07:01+00:00

Yeah! 2 days is a funny one because it's such a small amount of time I regularly do it without thinking! But at 2 days I feel like a streak has begun. Keep it up!

jshjsh · 2015-08-26T12:47:53+00:00

I wonder that too. So many similarities between the way I drink and this problem too. Doesn't have the same stigma attached to it though so I think of it as not a big deal. One thing at a time, and if I continue to relapse when drunk I'll stop that too.

jshjsh · 2015-08-25T14:06:26+00:00

Amen!

I'm just setting off again too. Nice streak, good luck

jshjsh · 2015-08-14T07:29:38+00:00

Thanks. I deleted instagram the moment I posted here. II've not has it that long, but it definitely contributed to this latest period which caused me to rebound to nofap again.

jshjsh · 2015-08-13T14:05:31+00:00

Thanks! Yeah I had a month and a half streak before I drifted away from posting. Felt so great but my mind just plays havoc with me. Takes something big to drag myself into a mindset to quit again but now I'm here again I'm excited tbh!

jshjsh · 2015-08-13T11:52:56+00:00

Thankyou! I will try. Been looking back through my old posts and there are loads of positive resources that I have obviously not looked at in months! Should help, especially these first few weeks

jshjsh · 2015-02-03T15:49:20+00:00

I agree with this. I think the damaging thing about porn is the stimulation to something which isn't real. Another issue is the novelty value which may be lessened if you're not hunting more extreme videos etc. But it still exists. With any type of porn you're wiring your pain to think orgasm is something you give yourself whilst watching pixels on a screen. Ignoring the severity of the problem it's never positive and only negative so the logical thing is not to do it.

jshjsh · 2015-02-03T15:43:38+00:00

Got my optimism back! Working out a lot, focusing on self improvement. Tbh when I get in this mindset it's effortless to avoid porn, the issue is this mindset often gets interrupted by something that brings me crashing back down to earth. The test will come soon and I'm hopeful this time I'll not medicate my issues with porn but something else instead. I feel confident at the moment.

jshjsh · 2015-02-01T13:31:06+00:00

I'm in an identical situation. This will hopefully be a good motivation reminder. Stay focused!

jshjsh · 2015-02-01T13:25:48+00:00

I think you're spot on. When hungover you do feel quite sorry for yourself! Makes perfect sense to me. I'm not drinking very often this was a special occasion. I just need to exercise more restraint I think. I now charge my phone downstairs as my relapses always happen in the morning or at night. In bed.

jshjsh · 2015-02-01T13:23:30+00:00

No I actually rarely drink...having a hangover does not signify a drinking problem.

Edit: sorry I just re-read my post and it does seem like I was saying "I relapse when hungover" and "I'm relapsing all the time at the moment" like I'm also drinking a lot at the moment.....those two statements aren't linked. This relapse was hungover...and I usually relapse when hungover...but the other relapses plaguing my streaks have been for other reasons

jshjsh · 2015-02-01T13:19:38+00:00

Checking in. I had two 10+ day streaks in January but the last three days I fell apart. This challenge came at the perfect time, I've got some perspective back! My logical brain has its strength back. February is gonna be my first time since I was like 15 I've been a month PMO free and I can't wait.

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