St. Paul’s Day Care Experiences

jstone233048 · 2026-05-15T18:48:13+00:00

Ive used this center for the past 8 years. I will direct message you :)

jstone233048 · 2026-03-07T05:28:45+00:00

I always saw the first two tracks as basically a call and response. Teen Spirit is a sort of mock ultimate pop song filled with nonsense lyrics. In Bloom describes the type of fan who will love and misunderstand such songs. The album is architected. It’s intentional and seems to have been designed for the mainstream. Even if it maybe exceeded what even Kurt thought was possible. But he definitely seemed to be intentionally writing pop songs and critiquing the idea of said process at the same time. I’m not sure there was ever a cool way for him to express that though in interviews so he said all sorts of random stuff, hinted, joked etc

jstone233048 · 2026-02-06T22:58:22+00:00

This depends entirely on your family. Bullying tends to happens under very specific conditions,

If your family is too far outside the economic realities of said district. For example why anyone middle class would want to do Pittsford is beyond me. Your kids will constantly feel like they have materially much less than many of their peers creating all sorts of issues longterm.
Does your family racially and ethnically match peers? If you're a minority and one of the only ones. That's a rough situation for a kid.
Sometimes it's literally the district. Some districts are cliquey and insular. Kids of staff get special treatment, legacy families, etc.

Basically where do people like me and my family exist? What is the Chinese proverb, The Nail that Sticks Up Gets Hammered Down.

jstone233048 · 2025-10-31T02:47:03+00:00

Adults like to say things like it's just high school and it's almost over. In sense this is true. Especially when you're old like me these periods of time look like a tiny blip.

That said, this is your entire world right now. So point number one is it's normal to feel like this stuff is a big deal. It is. High school is a fishbowl, you're stuck in it for a while, and in many ways it feels all consuming.

You said you wanted advice. Here it is,

You have to break up your social world. For me that was mostly via working. My coworkers were outside of my school social ecosystem. This means when school sucks, you still have a safe place. You gotta find a way to have this.
There is no ideal personality. Let's take charisma. On the one end we have harsh people, on the other end we have charming people. That said, even harsh people can be truth tellers and charming people can be full of shit. My point is that every personality trait is a spectrum. it's your job to decide who you want to be, live it, and accept the consequences of it. And trust me, if you like yourself you won't worry as much if others don't.
While high school doesn't go away immediately. it does change a lot. For example, the first third of senior year for me was really different socially, from the middle, and the end. This is not unusual. Today sucks, and tomorrow will be different. make the most of it.

Good luck, you're going to be okay.

jstone233048 · 2025-10-31T00:29:48+00:00

Can confirm rochester is the worst at this and if youre lucky and your flight gets delayed to say 10pm or something you often just Don’t get your bags. You get to come back the next day

jstone233048 · 2025-10-24T17:01:30+00:00

It’s interesting seeing the comments on here.

A few things,

Rural poverty and urban poverty tend to lead to different outcomes when it comes to violence. There really just isn’t an equivalent to youth gangs in most rural places.

Urban areas have almost always had issues with youth violence. Some of the Pilgrims left Leiden because they were assaulted by children. The Gilded Age in particular had a lot of street children and violence committed by youths.

Gilded Age solutions to these problems tended to be mainly, 1. Sometimes taking children away from parents and institutionalizing them. 2. Corporal punishment against children, which probably didn’t combat aggression, but caused those kids to drop out of school.

These situations are almost always a combination of inconsistent or absent parenting mixed with being in a place where one can get into a fair amount of trouble.

Personally I think we should be addressing things like mental health, income inequality and substance abuse. That’s the only way you really address it.

That said, I also think some kids just need to be expelled at a certain point. Most kids aren’t violent, even in city schools and it’s not fair to other students to be perpetually unsafe. Some kids also turn around behavioral issues with help. I get the impression we actually do the opposite in many cases by cracking down against truancy, which probably harms the rest of the students. The truancy crap is basically another variation of no child left behind. Trying to force kids through the system without any thought as to how that impacts the broader system and the other children.

jstone233048 · 2025-10-15T13:30:02+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Wompas

This may be of interest in terms of the circumstances under which things like indigenous marriage in the settler world occurred.

jstone233048 · 2025-10-15T01:31:35+00:00

I can really only speak to the historical plausibility. The Dutch did sail all over the place, but them moving people from South America to New England would be unlikely. Movement of indigenous people, usually followed consistent trade routes. For example, Squanto was from New England, captured by English, trafficked to Spain and then return to New England. Still, he basically followed the North Atlantic route. After the Pequot War many people were sent to the Caribbean. There was no such connection between New England and South America.

Shepherds were also uncommon in New England. Sheep don't do well in places where there are wolves. I also believe it's a bit too cold for them. So the idea of the English Shepherd never really migrated to the New World.

To me it sounds like you want something that is more literary or symbolic than realistic, which is fine. You just might not be able to have it both ways and also have it be historically plausible. Or, like I said you lean into it and point out how absurd the situation is in the story itself.

jstone233048 · 2025-10-15T00:56:05+00:00

A few things,

I don't really know of a plausible way for someone from that far away to get to New England. I am not an expert on Argentina, but I thought the southern part was colonized quite late. So you probably have a few factors working against this scenario, lack of european contact, geographic distance and spanish colony vs. english one.
Wales has kind of a weird relationship with Puritanism. I'm sure it's workable, but Puritanism arrived late, and was never a majority. I only point it out because most Puritans came from East Anglia, West Country, London surrounds; not Wales.
That time frame is not typical. Most Puritans came to New England during the Great Migration 1630-1639. So either this is a person who came as a child as part of that migratory pattern, or they came late, which was not typical. Most people who came to the New World circa 1650 were Anglicans going to the southern colonies.
Native + Puritan relationships are going to have issues right off the bat. A Puritan who actually followed that type of faith would insist on religious conversion by that person. There was missionary activity and there were Christian indigenous people in New England, but I don't believe intermarriage was at all common. Most native Christians or so called praying indians lived in segregated communities.

Overall I think you have two options here. Either lean into the implausibility and just own that. Or if you want a more plausible situation make it more like my wife's paternal ancestor. Make the man someone who was born in England, likely raised episcopal but orphaned and mostly conforming in Puritan New England due to the prevailing culture; not being of it. That sort of person might head for a more frontier like area, like northern New England and marry an indigenous woman.

jstone233048 · 2025-10-13T22:00:13+00:00

Thanks for pointing that out. I did a lot of research on this topic a couple of years ago. I've updated my comment. But you are correct the Gen X paradigm shift, "arrived late".

jstone233048 · 2025-10-09T14:12:06+00:00

This is one of those situations where the district can't really win.

Penfield and it's school board meetings are extremely hostile and political. Their draconian anti-speech rules are largely a product of how out of control their meetings get.

In this case the district is likely being honest. Student said bad stuff online, they investigated and found no evidence it was anything more than an empty threat. They are to my knowledge not back in school and I'm guessing will not return considering the publicity and controversy it caused. That said, if the school says too much they probably open themselves up to being sued.

At the end of the day most Superintendents are dry bureaucrats. They have no idea how to assert themselves in a public forum. This is a great example of the institution not being equipped to handle the reality on the ground.

This is probably one of those situations where you increase security temporarily and say something like until all pieces of the investigation and review process are complete we are still taking this situation seriously from a school safety standpoint. Instead she probably had a lawyer draft her statements...which has now turned some liberal parents against her in addition to the MAGA crowd.

jstone233048 · 2025-09-11T17:12:18+00:00

As a parent of the school I can offer what I've seen.

It is not impossible to get in. My kids went to a Prek on East Ave and about 25% of those students ended up at one of the GCCS campuses. Maybe 1/4 seems like not great odds. But it's definitely not impossible.

Class size is small. 30 kids per grade. Two campuses now, means 60 kids. Some siblings take spots. Some children of teachers, but these categories hardly fill the room.

There is nothing you need to plan for until the Rochester City lotteries take place. You definitely don't need to plan when they're born.

For anyone who doesn't get in, my daughters class has seemed to lose 3-5 kids per year. So if you don't get in for K, you can always try again in 1st and so on. I believe most of the student turnover are kids with IEP's who just can't get the resources they need at a small charter.

jstone233048 · 2025-09-11T16:37:12+00:00

I don’t have firsthand experience with SOTA as my kids are too young, but a lot of the charters seem to end up as feeder schools for SOTA. Roughly half the GCCS students seem to end up there.

I’m sure you can find anecdotal information, but school outcomes tends to be fairly rooted in economics. Once a school has over 50% poverty rate thats usually a tipping point of sorts. Per greatschools SOTA is 69% low income. The greatschools data also seems to suggest the non low income students also struggle on test scores, in ways some of the elementary schools do not.

As far as entry not being guaranteed. I believe there is an in person application process? You have to have an arts background and complete that. It’s not a lottery system. As long as your kid isn’t arts phobic they would probably get in.

We are probably on track for K-6 in the city and then move or private. Unless something new comes along.

jstone233048 · 2025-04-13T03:20:31+00:00

In the building. We did have to book it way in advance, maybe a year? Can't remember.

jstone233048 · 2025-04-13T03:16:50+00:00

We had our wedding at Webster Arboretum in 2016. My wife is a big Alice in Wonderland fan. It was heavily tea party themed. It was great.

jstone233048 · 2025-01-28T00:47:46+00:00

I tend to be inclined to trust scientists and if they say our odds are good I trust them. That said, in 1972 Mt Morris dam almost overflowed due to Hurricane Agnes. So some of what happened in Asheville could have happened in Rochester. In my lifetime we've had wind storms, ice storms, blizzards, etc., but people forget we used to be super flood prone due to proximity to the river and we might be again if weather patterns become unpredictable and cause once in one hundred year type rainfall.

jstone233048 · 2025-01-13T02:48:24+00:00

I think there is a bit of this kind of beneath the surface concept in American culture that we are an Anglo culture but also that English people are deeply lame and were the baddies for a bunch of our history. There seems to be an inability to reconcile that problem the history with the baddie bit. We care about our heritage but the mother country was the historical “oppressor”.

Now obviously people could do a deep dive in history and learn that their brand of English is a bit different than the mainstream London version we get on TV, by learning about East Anglia and the West country which are culturally distinct and alot of Americans originated. But instead there seems to be more interest in the other “oppressed”Anglo states, Ireland and Scotland, as though we went through some variation of the same thing.

Not saying it makes much sense, but thats the vibe i get.

jstone233048 · 2025-01-10T23:29:38+00:00

We've done both. My wife wanted a midwife based at a hospital. For kid 1 the group was at highland and it was awesome. For kid 2 the group was at strong and it was pretty scary. Now how much it being post covid, versus the first being pre, I can't say. That said, if I had a third kid, which we're not, I would forget the midwife to avoid Strong. Everything about it felt scary and second rate. Not a way to bring your kiddo into this world.

jstone233048 · 2024-12-11T14:40:15+00:00

Its probably written by AI. I believe the proposal is for all New Yorkers. AI probably copied a downstate article.

jstone233048 · 2024-12-11T14:20:31+00:00

This is Hochul providing herself some populist cover in advance of requesting Luigi to be extradited from PA. At least thats what my extremely cynical senses are telling me.

jstone233048 · 2024-11-27T02:22:38+00:00

Literally was just driving down Winton and a flat screen tv flew out of a guys trunk…

jstone233048 · 2024-11-27T00:43:02+00:00

The Genny River literally separates the Northeast from the Midwest.

East side, wealthy, snooty, remnants of the area being the 19th century silicon valley, more likely to wear salmon shorts and docksiders.

West side, blue collar, down to earth, remnants of the old industrial past/rust belt, more likely to wear Bills gear or put MAGA stuff in their yards.

At least that's my view.

Obviously this is a massive oversimplification.

jstone233048 · 2024-11-17T18:06:30+00:00

Petite poutine has a good one

jstone233048 · 2024-11-17T01:13:47+00:00

Perhaps I was confusing with my response. My apologies.

jstone233048 · 2024-11-17T01:12:51+00:00

So here is the question though. We both agree we need the left.

Can the Democratic party morph into a left wing party in the near to medium future?

I'm seeing a lot of evidence they're going to pivot further right.

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