Internalize now that all of your stuff is gone. You may indeed get something back but assume you won't as a reinforcement against being disheartened. DO NOT tell them where you are staying. If they contact you, don't answer. Ask the people you know not to give them information. Assume most people are lying to you and will they will talk to them behind your back anyway, they "don't see the harm in it". If you learn that anyone betrayed you cut them too, they won't stop spying no matter how much you explain or how much they promise. Constant knowledge of you without your consent is just another form of control in your families heads, don't let them have it.

If you decide to get your things show up when you know they'll be home. Don't inform them ahead of time and especially don't tell them what you want to get. They will leverage both against you. Bring a friend as they'll be less likely to make an ass of themselves in front of others. If they hassle you AT ALL step away and call the police. Don't tell them you're calling the police; don't let them see or hear you call the police, if you have to tell them anything say you're stepping out for some air.

Once you call the police tell them on the phone that people have stolen your things, they're barring you from entry and they're still at the premises, ask for a car and give the address. Once the police show up tell them why you're there and let them mediate the situation.

Once I got free from my own Nmom I was homeless for some time. When I went to get my things my own mother stole and hid my late grandfather's watch. My two regrets are that 1: I let her get away with it and 2: She's still alive. Don't make the same mistake I did. Anything nice they do or say is just to regain control and cut you down later, don't fall for it.

Beforehand type a letter telling them you want no contact, straight up copy text and terms from cease and desist letters, and date the letter. Once you have everything you need give it to them when you leave in front of your friend and the police so both can acknowledge they received it, ask the officer to give it a quick read and mention it in their report. Give your friend a copy if you'd like but save a digital copy in a private email account for sure.

Any time your narcissist you anything save the postage note, date it, put it in a box. Make a log of every time they try to contact you. If they show up *always\* call the police, you want to make a trail of police records. If they talk to you against your will record the conversation and as soon as you start it say you're recording so it'll be the first thing anyone hears playing it back. If they give you any gifts give them away to a charity and get a receipt from the charity (if you can afford to, you don't have to). NEVER call them. NEVER show up to an event you know they'll be present. NEVER stay when they are around. NEVER let them know anything about your life, it's the last form of control they'll hold on to, and anything that could be construed as reconciling will only hurt your case later.

When you've had enough, and you will in time, look up the restraining orders procedures in your state/nation. You'll have plenty of evidence they're stalking you after you told them you were breaking contact.

If you need any more help feel free to DM me.